Yang Jiang wrote in "We":
Half of life is firewood, rice, oil and salt, and half is the sea of stars. Whatever flavor you want to mix, it's up to you. ”
Her life has been full of ups and downs, but in this impermanence, she uses her inner calmness and calmness to live a soft and profound life.
When you reach a certain age, you gradually understand that everyone's life will inevitably encounter all kinds of difficulties, but what determines a person's state is their own state of mind.
Things change with the heart, the environment is created by the heart, and the troubles are born from the heart. "All troubles actually come from your own heart. If your heart is full of pessimism and negativity, your life will be bleak.
Only by guarding one's heart, closing the door, drawing the window, sweeping the house, and isolating from the outside world can one feel true happiness.
Close the door
Former British Prime Minister Lloyd George once said, "When you close the door behind you, you leave the past behind and you can start over." ”
In life, it is inevitable to encounter all kinds of unpleasantness.
Only by learning to close the door behind you and shut the past out can you look forward.
The first half of Yang Jiang's life can be described as full of ups and downs.
When he was young, he experienced war and displacement.
I finally survived the war, but I still couldn't be stable.
In that special era, she and Qian Zhongshu were targeted and suffered a lot of grievances.
I have to start working hungry in the early morning, and I have to plant vegetables in the field all day long.
survived the grievances again and finally settled down, but lost his daughter and husband one after another.
As she said in "We Three": "We have had a rough life, and we only have a stable place to live in our twilight years, but old age and illness urge us, and we have reached the end of our lives." ”
Friends came to see her and saw that she was alone, and couldn't help but shed tears.
Yang Jiang persuaded back: "I've survived, are you still sad like this?" ”
And she did the same.
Having lost her beloved, she devoted herself to the cause she loved.
She sorted out Qian Zhongshu's manuscripts, translated "Feiduo Articles", and successively wrote "We", "Yang Jiang's Anthology" and "Standing on the Edge of Life".
Even when she was alone, she lived her life to the fullest.
Director Wong Kar-wai said: "People's biggest trouble is that their memory is too good. ”
The bits and pieces of life, there are happiness, sadness, achievements, and regrets.
If you don't forget it, you will only let yourself move forward with a heavy load, and eventually you will be overwhelmed.
Only by learning to let go of the past can we welcome a new life.
The writer Yishu once visited Ni Kuang's house and saw that his garden was well potted and leafy.
In her own garden, however, there are always some plants that do not grow well and are about to die, sparse and scattered.
So, she asked Ni Kuang what the secret was.
What she didn't expect was that Ni Kuang actually said: "The secret is very simple, it's just to throw away the dead ones and replace them with new ones." ”
This is true for bonsai, and the same is true for looking back on life.
There are always some things that make people sad or regretful.
If you can't get out of it in time, you will only waste your present and future.
As the Four Teachings of Lifan said: "In the past, there were all kinds of things, such as yesterday's death; From the latter, such as today, to be born. ”
Close the door casually and leave the past behind, so that you can embrace the beauty in your arms.
Draw the window
There is a question on Zhihu: "How can I live better than others?" ”
A high praise answered: "When you only live for yourself, and stop comparing yourself with others who lives better." ”
I think so. As Yang Jiang once wrote: "People hang curtains, don't peep, you always have to respect other people's curtains." ”
Many people always open the curtains, peep into the lives of others, and compare with themselves, but often can only see those who are better and enviable than themselves, but ignore the happiness they have.
British writer Smith tells such a story in her book "The "Bad Stuff" Within Us".
Smith and her husband had dinner at a friend's house, who was a highly successful lawyer.
There was another friend at the same table, and after this friend got drunk, he began to talk more and began to compare himself with his friend.
A friend's child has better grades than his own; Friends earn a lot of money, live in luxury houses, and drive luxury cars;
Friends have time to exercise and even have more hair than themselves.
I hate how successful they are. He concluded.
But he forgot that he has a caring wife, a stable job, and a ** friend.
His life is also the envy of many people.
He didn't know that behind the happy life of his lawyer friend, there was actually a piece of chicken feathers.
In life, many people are like this friend, envious of other people's lives.
But they forget that in fact, everyone's life is one of joy and sorrow.
As Mo Yan said in "The Late Bloomer":
Don't envy others, in fact, everyone has ash at the bottom of the pot, they are not only glamorous, but hide a piece of chicken feathers. ”
In life, we often feel lost and yearn for the lives of others.
As everyone knows, everyone has their own little luck, and when you envy others, others are also envious of you.
You envy the wealth of others, and others envy your freedom;
You envy other people's garages, others envy your comfort;
You envy others for their colorful lives, and others envy you for your good health.
We always want to find poetry and distance in other people's lives, but we forget to pay attention to our own lives.
After all, life still has to rely on oneself, instead of envying others, it is better to close the window and live your life well.
Sweep the house
Have you ever had such an experience:
Pushing open the door and entering the house, looking at the messy clothes on the sofa and the small objects scattered on the coffee table, I couldn't help but feel irritated;
Looking at the stacked books on the shelves and the messy paper on the desk, it is completely difficult to calm down and study;
And when you make up your mind to clean your home thoroughly, your mood will instantly improve, just like the sun shining through the window into your life.
The room, like a mirror, always reflects our inner being.
And the process of cleaning the room is also the process of taking care of the mood.
Leave all the complexity out of your heart, and you can naturally put your mind on your love.
Yang Jiang's life has always been very simple, and the housing is relatively simple, but all the rooms are cleaned and tidy.
Even during special periods, when she was assigned to live in a dirty cowshed, she would spend a few days cleaning the cowshed.
In such an environment, she will feel stable and comfortable and maintain her inner peace.
Harvard Business School has conducted research on people from all walks of life and found a pattern:
Those who live happily and successfully have their homes tidied up neatly and cleanly;
People who feel unfortunate usually live in dirty environments.
A dirty room will constantly consume people's energy.
Clean rooms that can make people feel peaceful, full of energy and hope for life.
In reality, the troubles of work and the pressure of life often make our hearts fall into chaos.
Clean the house, tidy your clothes, and your thoughts will become calm and ethereal.
As mentioned in "Sweeping Power": "The room can best reflect a person's spirit." ”
The house subtly affects the owner's mental outlook and attitude towards life.
When the environment you live in becomes clean, your heart will naturally be clean.
Once you have peace of mind and no complicated thoughts, you can naturally focus on the life you love and be calm.
Yang Jiang once wrote in "Bath":
Life is nothing more than knowing oneself and refining oneself. ”
Life is a process of cultivating one's mind and clarity.
Close the door, don't let the frustration of the past disturb the present life;
Close the window, don't let the light of others hide your happiness;
Clean the house, don't let the environment be complicated, and break the peace of mind.
When you reach a certain age, you understand that only inner peace can make life shine if you don't entangle, don't compare, and only have inner peace.
May you cleanse your heart and live your life to the fullest.
Author: Attack on Benzene; **WeChat*** Franklin Book Club (ID: FranklinreadingClub).