"Sometimes I feel that this world is boring, it's just uncomfortable. ”
Guo Ziyun, a 12-year-old girl, was already in the hospital when she was taken to the hospitalHaven't eaten for a weekHer eyes were hollow, unrefreshed, lifeless.
At first, the father, Guo Baiyan, thought that his daughter Ziyun was just a little sick in her stomach, but after a comprehensive physical examination of her, the doctor did not find any symptoms of Ziyun's physical discomfort.
Subsequently, the doctor decided to give Ziyun a psychological test, and the results of the test showed that:The 12-year-old suffers from moderate anxiety and severe depression.
When the psychiatrist asked Ziyun about the number of family members, his father said that there were 7 people, but Ziyun replied that there were only 6 people.
In fact, deep in Ziyun's heart, the person who disappeared was her mother. Her mother died when Ziyun was three years old, and since then, whenever Ziyun misses her mother, she will take out her mother's ** and stare quietly for a moment.
A few years later, his father formed another family, and now, there is an elder brother and a younger brother in the family, and Ziyun is the second.
As the family situation slowly became clearer, the cause of Ziyun's depression gradually began to surface.
Ziyun's father, Guo Baiyan, is a 39-year-old contractor from the countryside who mainly works as a decorator.
In order to support his family, he is busy with a group of workers every day, focusing on his work, and can only accompany his family when he has no work to do, but such time is really limited, and Ziyun can only be taken care of by his grandmother.
Ziyun has been attending boarding school since the third grade of elementary school, and she is influenced by a special family environment, which makes her unusually mature and sensitive at a very early age.
This maturity and melancholy is beyond the reach of peers. But Ziyun is a sensible child, she is always used to burying bad emotions in her heart, and usually helps with housework, which has also become a rare opportunity for the father and daughter to be alone.
But Guo Baiyan was busy with work and never took the initiative to understand his daughter's inner world. It wasn't until he saw the two medical records handed by the doctor that he finally realized that he had become so estranged from his daughter.
The departure of her mother and the lack of her father's company are undoubtedly the main reasons for Ziyun's moderate anxiety and severe depression.
The phenomenon of purple clouds is not uncommon among Chinese teenagers. According to a survey,The prevalence of depression among adolescents in China is as high as 246%, a figure that far exceeds the prevalence of physical diseases.
However, the vast majority of people are far from aware of mental illness.
Probably many people will say:
"How can a child not be happy and not have to work. ”
"Don't be so vulnerable, be strong. ”
"Now that the children's living conditions are so good, what else is there to complain about.
It is precisely because of the existence of this prejudice that many are like ZiyunThe child is still accused of being "ignorant" and "hypocritical"., and even made some children in their youth embark on the tragic road of suicide due to depression.
Xiaofang, a 13-year-old girl, not long after entering the first year of junior high school, but was unluckyDiagnosed with moderate depression and severe anxiety.
According to Huang's mother's recollections, since Xiaofang lived at school, she gradually became reticent, no longer communicated with her parents, and even often stayed alone in her room.
This phenomenon lasted for quite a long time, especially when faced with returning to school, Xiaofang would become emotional and experience symptoms such as headaches, insomnia, nausea and vomiting.
Prior to this, Xiaofang often shared with her parents about her campus life and learning. When she took the first test in middle school, she achieved excellent results and was in the top 10.
ButSince the first half of the first semester of junior high school, Huang's mother has often been interviewed by Xiaofang's homeroom teacherHuang's mother learned from the head teacher that Xiaofang often did not hand in her homework and always violated classroom discipline.
"Our first reaction is that the child enters adolescence and starts to rebel. ”
In response to these problems, Huang's mother tried to solve them through preaching and scolding, but it turned out that this not only did not help improve the child's condition, but instead made the relationship between mother and daughter strained.
Throughout the first year of junior high school, Xiaofang showed a tendency not to study anymore, but every time she asked her parents to withdraw from school, she was refused.
Until one day,Xiao Fang lit her school uniform, this incident finally aroused the vigilance of the family, and Xiaofang was sent to a professional mental illness ** institution.
In addition to Xiaofang, there are more extreme cases.
Xiaomei, a 14-year-old girl,She actually relieved the pain in her heart by self-harm, which caused her to have more than a dozen shades on her body.
1. The cut marks of the alternation of the old and the new.
When the doctor asked her why she was self-harming, Xiaomei just said contemptuously"The grades are not good. ”
As her mood decreased, she wrapped her clothes tightly around her head and refused to communicate with anyone, saying nothing but silence.
After undergoing a thorough physical examination as well as a professional psychological test, Xiaomei was diagnosed with depression.
Xiaomei's grandmother was obviously unacceptable to the diagnosis. In her opinion,Xiaomei has no worries about food and clothing, how can she suffer from depression?
When she was emotional, she lamented while pushing Xiaomei:"What the hell is going on with you? ”
Xiaomei has been disabled in her left hand since she was born because of heredity, and her parents divorced when she was very young, so she has been living with her grandfather and grandmother.
Because of her disability, she always felt that her family disliked her, which made her feel very inferior.
EspeciallyGrandma has an impatient personality and often gets angry with her over small things, and grandpa rarely cares about her life
A few years ago, her parents remarried and gave birth to a child, and the attention to Xiaomei became less and less.
When Xiaomei was still in elementary school, she studied extremely hard, hoping to get the attention of her family with excellent grades.
She firmly believes that hard work pays off, and her results in every exam are among the best, and gradually learning has become her soul home.
However, by the time she reached junior high school, the people around her seemed to be starting to exert their strength. No matter how hard you try, your test scores are always hovering in the middle, which wears out your original pride and your self-confidence.
Xiaomei claimed: ".The decline in grades made my family dislike me even more, teachers and classmates are also becoming more and more isolated from me, and I have nowhere to confide in the grievances in my heart, so I can only choose this way to express my dissatisfaction, only in this way can I feel better. ”
Through the stories of Ziyun, Xiaofang, and Xiaomei, we found that every parent couldn't believe that their child was suffering from depression, thinking that their child was suffering from a physical illness or a youthful rebellion.
Worryingly, the prevalence of adolescent depression is gradually rising.
According to the latest survey data, 30 million children and adolescents under the age of 17 in our country are suffering from psychological problems.
First of all, there is the family factor. When a child breaks down or loses a parent in the early stages of life, it can severely damage their attachment relationship.
This condition is likely to lead to symptoms of depression as teenagers grow up.
If parents discipline their children too harshly and monopolize all decision-making power, then children can easily lose themselves, freedom and autonomy.
At the same time, this family environment is likely to trigger negative emotions in the child's heart, such as fear, anger and guilt. These emotions are hidden deep in the child's heart, which is difficult to release, and can gradually accumulate and lead to the appearance of depressive symptoms.
Secondly, there is the pressure of studying. Teenagers will inevitably encounter various pressures in the process of growing up, and the most important pressure they face at present is their studies, including further education, etc.
This pressure cannot be ignored, because many parents want their children to excel, however, overemphasizing grades is not conducive to communication with their children.
If these stresses are not relieved in time, adolescents may be chronically anxious and depressed, which can eventually lead to depression.
Finally, there is psychosocial psychology. Adolescents are at a critical stage of physical and psychological growth, and they must face pressure from learning, socializing, etc., as well as psychological loads. Lack of timely psychological counseling can also lead to depression.
There is still a long way to go in the prevention and treatment of adolescent depression, but as long as we are willing to slow down, listen to their voices patiently, and give them the right to speak freely, if we cannot avoid the occurrence of depression, we can also achieve early detection and early development.
Ziyun, a 12-year-old girl, was accompanied by her father, and her face finally had a smile on her face, and her appetite slowly began to improve.
After this hospitalization, Guo Baiyan deeply realized the lack of companionship for his daughter, and as soon as he got home, he bought two little turtles for his daughter, hoping that the little turtles could accompany Ziyun more, and after Ziyun confirmed her father's love for her, she also became more cheerful than before.
Some people use childhood for a lifetime, while some people use a lifetime for childhood. May every child in the world have a happy childhood.