Clinical psychologist Gulal Nico, said:
I have found that one condition for love to continue is that both partners are willing to retain the ability to care for each other. This means: if the other person feels bad, I care.Therefore, it is not difficult to tell whether a man really loves you or not, don't listen to what he says, it depends on whether he "cares" about you when he does things.
The man who cares about you is not a brilliant fireworks, dazzling but short-lived, he will not even swear an oath, he will only pay silently; He is the warmth and comfort of the sun, and a heart pours out on you, comfortable and reassuring.
When a man falls madly in love with you, because he cares that he will have three non-dos, the more he doesn't do it, the more sincere he is.
My old neighbor Tongtong has been in love with her boyfriend for three years and is ready to walk into the marriage hall hand in hand.
But during the preparation period for the wedding, she was so busy that her head was dizzy, but her boyfriend hung up high and hung up on her business. When asked for his opinion, he also said perfunctorily, "It's all right", "You are in charge", "I'm busy".
Tongtong felt that something was wrong, and secretly paid attention to find out that her boyfriend and ex-girlfriend were in contact again, and the two not only recalled the sweetness of the past together, but also crossed the line to become a couple.
In fact, a man who can perfunctory you, even if he doesn't say the subtext in his heart, expresses "don't care".
Don't care if you're hurt, don't care if your feelings are hurt, don't even care if you're leaving.
Tongtong's boyfriend is perfunctory but does not stop the wedding, it is nothing more than that he is still weighing the pros and cons between the two girls, who does he love? He loves no one but himself.
Everyone knows that love needs to go both ways, and two people can be happy when they work together. If one party doesn't care, doesn't care, and expresses his impatience and avoidance with a perfunctory attitude, where will love go? Actually, he knows it.
Cai Kangyong said:
There is an emotional account between people, every time you make the other person happy, you will deposit a little more, and every time you make the other person sad, you will deposit less. In a relationship, every time you ignore, ignore it, perfunctory, and don't participate, it's consuming the emotional account fiercely.Therefore, leaving a man is not necessarily a third party in love, nor is it necessarily not loved, or it may be that the other party's attitude makes the woman feel that his world does not need her.
A few days ago, I saw a girl complaining on the Internet:
She has been with her boyfriend for more than two years and has a very strong relationship, but every time she mentions marriage, her boyfriend will be vague and confused.
It wasn't until one day that the "main palace" came to the door that the girl was shocked to realize that she was a third child, not only that, but her boyfriend also had a ......child with his wife when he was with her
On that day, the girl was misunderstood and pointed out by everyone, but the man kept protecting his wife and didn't give her half of it.
A few months later, the man contacted the girl again, told him about his "difficult marriage" and had no choice, and asked the girl to give him another three years. Fortunately, the girl very soberly and firmly refused.
A man who can deceive you is not necessarily completely unloving, but certainly not loving enough.
Because of this lack of love, when a man encounters difficulties, obstacles or ** in the future, he will sacrifice you first and strive for more benefits for himself again by deception.
A man who is good at deception, no matter how much he swears to the sky, don't believe it, and how can a person who can't be honest still have the qualifications to ask for trust.
A woman's pain stems from overestimating herself and underestimating human nature, a man who can lie to you for himself, do you dare to believe his character? Do you dare to believe that he will be reborn in the future?
Or the old ancestor is right:The country is easy to change, and it is difficult to move
The people once had a saying:
If you're with someone who can stabilize your emotions, open your heart, make you more confident and laughing, and be more curious to explore the world, then that person is worth loving.Otherwise, it's better to leave quickly and give yourself a better future.
My colleague Xiaoxiao was given by her boyfriend's "first sword on the shore", and everyone persuaded her: The delicate calculating man will not be stable at any time, he will always look at Gao Zhi'er and poke and poke hard.
Calculating people have one thing in common: they only have profit in mind.
They can sacrifice their marriage and love for the sake of profit, let alone just a lover who once swore an oath?
Women don't believe that they can change the calculation of the man, can make him fall in love.
Because for them, love is a tool, marriage is a prop, and the only value is to make their upward quest smoother.
is like Wei Ming in "Good Things Come in Pairs", in order to let his wife "go out of the house", he did not hesitate to transfer his property, and his wife destroyed her self-confidence and self-esteem.
The second wife who was hard to pursue was nothing more than the result of his calculations, because the other party was the only daughter of a wealthy family.
It's not that calculating men don't understand love, they play love with ease, they have no ability to love, no love at all.
Haruki Murakami said
People who are really good to you are in the details, people will lie, but the details will not, love is the details, and neither is love.Love, marriage, emotion
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