Rabindranath Tagore said:
If you love her, let your love surround her like sunshine and set her free.Whether a woman is doing well in marriage and love does not look at how much money she has, whether she does housework, whether she wants to live with her mother-in-law, but whether she is enough to see one point - freedom.
That's right, women who are doing well have one thing in common, they are all free to be themselves.
You don't need to pretend, you can be bold and wanton to be yourself, and you don't need to worry about being blamed and questioned.
Today, I saw a paragraph on the Internet**, Youyou, who has been married in Anhui for three years, wants to go back to his parents' home for a New Year because he misses his parents.
Unexpectedly, a word startled a thousand waves, and her father-in-law immediately jumped into a rage and scolded her: "The water spilled by the married daughter, don't always think about running to your parents' house all day." ”
Yoyo retorted aggrievedly: "Even if I am old, I am my parents' daughter, and I will definitely go back this year." ”
As a result, her father-in-law disliked her move to go back to her parents' house for the New Year, which lost the face of her family and slapped her mercilessly.
Because the father-in-law is dissatisfied with his daughter-in-law's decision, he can slap him in the face, and you can imagine how oppressive and unfree the daughter-in-law's usual living environment will be.
A couple of sons and women are united because of love, and the common goal of both parties is to be happy for a lifetime, rather than one party abandoning himself and completely obeying the arrangements of his partner and his family.
If you don't even have freedom, how can you talk about love? If you can't even be yourself, how can you talk about happiness? You can't even give respect, let alone tolerance.
A woman who is doing well, no matter what decision she makes, dares to speak up, knowing that her partner may have some small suggestions, but only if she is respected and supported.
This is her confidence to be herself, a symbol of her freedom, and the most powerful expression of a good life in marriage.
As Sartre said:
It is extremely important for us to fight for freedom and change our behavior. No matter how much hell we live in imprisons us, I think we have the right to smash it.At the class reunion a few days ago, Guoguo only nibbled on a small half of an orange and never ate it again, and her reply to everyone was very short and sweet: "My husband said I can't be fat anymore." ”
Is it really fat to be 1.65 meters tall and weigh less than 100?
I remembered that Li Xueqin shared her **:
She fell in love with a boy when she was 24 years old, and after confessing, the boy said:"If you're thin, I'm with you. ”
In a simple sentence, it seems to be affectionate but ruthless, because boys' love is not equal but conditional.
He stood on a high place and looked down on the girl who loved him, and never really thought and experienced from her point of view, the subtext in the boy's heart is likely to be: want to be good with me? You don't deserve it. Unless you can meet my requirements, or I don't even bother to look at you.
Unequal love is pathologically despised and controlled, how can bad love give birth to a good marriage?
Therefore, this kind of man should stay away from the beginning, because he will be the beginning of a woman's life of misfortune.
Whether a woman's marriage is good or not, you can know from the details of her life whether she is comfortable and relaxing and enjoying herself, or walking on thin ice to look at people's eyes.
In fact, empathy, when you fall in love with a man, your eyes are full of his shining points, or do you only focus on his shortcomings and shortcomings? Once you have figured this out, you should understand.
The same is true for men, when he is truly in love with you, he will not let go of your "little fault".
Just like Bai Yang once said about love:
Once a person discovers love, all the shortcomings become explainable and changeable, and even simply become advantages.Love, marriage, emotion
About the Author:
I'm Qingcheng. A psychologist with temperature, ** is a life recorder.
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