In life, we often see such a scene, those "lazy" women live happier than diligent women, some people rely on, some people pamper, but those diligent women, with their diligent strength, have turned themselves into nanny-level existences in the family.
A diligent woman spoils her children as a mother's treasure man, and her husband is used to being a shopkeeper, and the final result is that she bears the hardships and tiredness of life every day and becomes a yellow-faced woman.
Why do those "lazy" women in our eyes make their lives easier and have more time to enjoy the pleasures of life, what is the secret? In fact, as long as you master the following three elements of lazy women, you can also make life enjoyable.
The first element of a lazy woman: learn to rely on
My friend Xiao Dan, who is a person who is not diligent in his limbs and does not distinguish between grains, in her mother's words: "If you can't do anything, who will want you in the future?" “
What can surprise everyone is that the lazy girl not only got married, but also lived a very happy life.
The secret of Xiao Dan's happiness is to learn to rely on, and she does this:
When cooking, I accidentally burned my hands, washed the dishes, accidentally broke two, I couldn't do heavy work, I couldn't do tired work, as long as I had a job, I called my husband, at home, Xiao Dan was an ignorant and delicate woman.
The most important thing is that every time Xiao Dan's husband is working, Xiao Dan will look at her husband from the side and say delicately: "Husband, thanks to you at home." Xiao Dan's husband was coaxed by Xiao Dan's rainbow farts every day, not only took care of all the housework, but also spoiled Xiao Dan as a princess.
Xiao Dan said: In fact, what women want to find their husbands is to rely on, if we do everything by ourselves, our husbands will lose the meaning of existence, so that not only are they tired, but after a long time, the husband will take it for granted that women should do housework, learn to rely on, let men find a sense of existence, and everyone is very happy.
The second element of a lazy woman: learn to let go
A few days ago, I watched a **, the content is like this: 90 mothers, every morning to cook for their children to eat, do not sleep until the sun is three poles at all, the child's homework is not written, the husband's stinky socks are not washed, I don't care at all.
Worrying is a common problem for many women, worrying about whether the child is cold or not, whether the husband is tired or not, in fact, many things, not the harder the better, the appropriate let go, timely withdrawal, is the practice of smart people.
If a woman wants to take care of everything, not only will she consume her energy, but sometimes it will backfire and increase her troubles. Be a woman who is too lazy to worry and learns to let go, does not do all the child's things, cultivates the child's hands-on ability, and allows him to be independent; Don't worry about all the things of your husband, but give him enough encouragement and trust, so that you can relax and your family can better appreciate the true taste of life.
The third element of a lazy woman: don't care
My mother has a friend who praises her daughter-in-law for being polite and filial.
I also know her daughter-in-law, who is a few years younger than me, and they all say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, and I am curious about how she manages to make peace between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Once when I talked to her about the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she said this: "My method is very simple, keep a proper distance from my mother-in-law, not too close, not too far away. Listen more, don't speak, give more gifts, and don't care. ”
Too lazy to take annoying things to heart, Hui has to pay attention to gains and losses, right and wrong, and turn a blind eye, and there will not be so many problems.
The handling of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law directly affects the harmony of the family, and if you don't care about the right or wrong of your mother-in-law, don't care about your mother-in-law's pay, and don't care about your mother-in-law's words, your life will be a lot less troublesome.
I like a sentence in "For the rest of my life, be a woman who can steal":
May every woman have the childishness to be coquettish, the courage to be lazy, the confidence to be a "loser", the ambition to love herself, and the blessing of happiness.
People are not born with a good life, a woman's happiness depends on material conditions on the one hand, on the other hand, it depends on their attitude towards things, in the marriage relationship, both men and women are an independent individual, is each other's needs, mutual help, mutual understanding, mutual companionship role, women should try to rely on men, learn to let go of children, less care about mother-in-law, less complaining, less nagging, I believe you can also be a happy woman.