When we were children, we often heard old people say"I've eaten more salt than you've ever eaten rice; The bridge I have walked is longer than the road you have walked. ”
Unconsciously, we born in the 70s are also in our forties and fifties, and we can also blow about our experience as grandparents in front of some children.
However, do we really understand the truth of "salt" and "rice"?There is a donkey who usually eats grass, but after a long time, he gets bored.
Inadvertently, the owner spilled a bag of salt into the haystack. After eating it, the donkey felt that it tasted good, so he asked to "eat salt and no grass every day".
The next day, the donkey ate a packet of salt alone, and then he wanted to gag, but obediently went to graze. In the heart, donkeys like salted grass the most.
This is the "salt effect" - everything must be done in moderation, and you must consider it comprehensively, and you can't pursue too much of what you like very much. It is necessary to understand the interrelationship between "grass and salt".
Integrate the salt effect into our lives, and we will find that we already have a lot of things, such as houses, cars, children, family, love, work, etc., but the wisdom of comprehensive utilization is still very lacking.
In the future, we are middle-aged and elderly, and we should grasp the "scale and actual needs", and the more we live, the more we understand.
About retirement: Work and live until retirement.
We can think of it this wayWork is grass, life is salt.
People in their forties and fifties are not retired, and they can't think that they are old, so they rely on the old and sell the old, and point fingers at everything.
There is no conflict between working hard and living seriously. The income that comes from work nourishes a happy life.
According to the rules, most people retire at the age of 60. You're just whining, or you're going to respect the rules.
It's just that we don't want to compete too much with work, but treat work as work, life as life, and the time every day should be fragmented, and each piece is in a focus.
In addition, we can put both urban pension and rural pension on the agenda. Families with conditions can build a vacation place in the countryside and a sojourn house in the city, perfect.
About parenting: Parents help their children, and children help themselves.
We often say, "Children and grandchildren have their own blessings." ”If you look at our growth path, most of them are self-made. Some people, after graduating from junior high school, go to work in big cities.
I have more than ten or twenty classmates, and so far, I am still working in Dongguan.
Our generation has endured a lot of hardships, but it has also provided good conditions for the education of our children. There are more children studying in the city.
However, our children are also in their teens and twenties, and it is time for them to start to be independent.
Educating children is grass, and letting go of children is salt. It should be considered as such.
I've seen a story.
There was a farmer who raised chickens, ducks, and rabbits. In order for them to develop well, farmers arrange for chickens to learn to fly, ducks to run, and rabbits to swim.
Originally, chickens were masters at laying eggs, but it took too much physical effort to learn to fly, but they didn't lay eggs; The duck is a master swimmer, but it is driven ashore, and it staggers and walks, and the soles of its feet are swollen; The rabbit was a master runner, but was pulled into the water and almost swept into the bottom of the river.
The peasants tossed for months, the original things were not kept, and the new income was not seen.
Isn't it that we have also done such a foolish thing as a peasant? It should be corrected, so that the children of chickens, ducks and rabbits can live in their own way and do what they are best at.
About filial piety: You have to be filial to your parents, but you can't do everything, and your brothers and sisters have to contribute money and efforts.
Filial piety comes first", we are very clear. But how to be filial, there are doubts.
Most of our parents were born in rural areas and do not have a pension. There is still pressure to support.
Luckily, we generally have two or three sisters, if not more.
If you come together, it will not be a problem to support your parents. If you are alone to support your parents for the rest of your life, you will be out of breath.
Don't deprive your brothers and sisters of the obligation to be filial to their parents, and leave no regrets for anyone - children want to be raised but not treated.
Your grass, brothers and sisters are salt. Everyone contributes money and efforts, and parents will also feel the atmosphere of "happiness" and be taken care of in all aspects.
Maybe you are rich, but when you are filial, does your lover approve of it? Or do your siblings think it's all what you should do? After all things considered, filial piety to parents has family rules, and everyone knows it.
About love: We must cherish the fate of husband and wife, but also be moderately free, and don't be together.
There is an old song: "You are the wind, I am the sand, lingering around the world." ”Husband and wife have been together for many years, and they have been husband and wife. But don't forget, husband and wife are two separate individuals.
You can sing something like, "You are the grass, I am the salt." ”
Young couples and old companions. Holding your lover's hand and walking slowly is the greatest blessing for the rest of your life.
But you have to give your lover some freedom. Let's say he's going to meet friends, he's going to develop a hobby.
If you don't like what your lover likes, don't stop it, support it, just watch it from the sidelines; Do what you like, be generous, and you don't have to be involved.
Don't be in your forties or fifties, you have to overturn the relationship between husband and wife, and don't be too busy with each other, just rely on each other and never leave.
As for husband and wife, plain is true. Lighter, silent, but the most tacit love.
Don't be too nice to one person unilaterally, think about whether the other person needs the "good" you give. This is true whether it is parenting, filial piety to parents, or the companionship of husband and wife.
When we have more things, we must pick them up and put them down selectively, keeping the things we need most for the rest of our lives and throwing away the unnecessary things.
Firewood, rice, oil and salt are indispensable for a lifetime, but how to make the taste more delicious requires brains.
Why do we change our destiny with our hands? Because the left and right hands can work together or be separated, this is the "scale".
For the rest of my life, all the factors are in place, and my heart will be transparent.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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