The poem says: "Being alone in a foreign land as a stranger, thinking of relatives every festival." ”
If there is no accident, no matter how far a person goes, he will want to return to his hometown, see the landscape, feel the flavor of the New Year, and listen to the local sound.
However, some people seem to be different, and they don't want to go back to their hometown more and more, but they just want to be in a foreign land with their lover and children, even if they are alone, they also feel very natural.
After some analysis, you will find that people who don't want to go back to their hometown have the following truths about life.
My parents are gone, but I can't go back to my hometown.
When my parents were alive, my hometown was always lively and warm.
Before the holiday, the parents asked, do you want to come back? What do you all want to eat?
When I got home, my parents made a lot of specialties, and the memories of my childhood were found at once. Rice cakes, bacon, dried fish, glutinous rice cakes, etc. are all available.
When we leave our hometown, the trunk of the vehicle is always full, and we even have to bring the chickens and ducks raised by our parents.
"The line in the mother's hand, the wanderer's shirt. Before leaving, I am afraid that I will return late. Whoever says an inch is careless, and he will be rewarded with three springs. "This poem, we can recite and experience.Since we left our hometown to study, we thought we had gone far, but in fact, we never got out of the concern of our parents. In the end, because I have been away from home for a long time, I am even more homesick.
used to hate the nagging of my parents, and then I began to miss it; I used to be afraid of my father's punishment, but later I really wanted to punish him a few more times.
When my parents left, there were two piles of loess behind the old house, and the smell of the festival became very light.
Especially in remote places, villages are also decaying, and old houses are dilapidated and uninhabitable.
Coupled with the fact that he has a house in the city, he is more accustomed to wandering. The hometown is slowly becoming blurred, and even the words and deeds of the parents are slowly being forgotten.
Brothers and sisters have a feud and quarrel once they meet.
When the parents are gone, many families will change the pattern, and the old family will be managed by a certain brother, the house will be lived, the fields will be cultivated, and it will still be lush.
But you will find that you have no parents, and when you go by yourself, you become a guest.
Siblings greet you for dinner, which is not as natural as your parents beckoning you to eat.
If you stay for a few more days, maybe the relationship between relatives is not very good, and some people even give a face. The familiar room suddenly became unfamiliar and completely lost.
The most irritating thing is that the brothers and sisters have a feud, and they quarrel once they see each other, which is not interesting at all.
Later, everyone got used to being okay with each other, even if they didn't see each other again for the rest of their lives, they were also calm, and no one would feel guilty.
Competing for family wealth, worrying about borrowing money to repay money, magnifying trivial matters, and not handling the relationship between concubines and concubines are all the bane of the family.
When everyone meets, they talk about certain people and certain things in the past, which is heart-wrenching. There seems to be nothing more to say than to say these things.
Instead of walking hundreds of miles to quarrel with relatives once, it is better to stay alone in a foreign country, at least there is no trouble.
My hometown is too hard, and I can't find the life I want.
Some people say, "A hometown can't keep a body, and a foreign land can't keep a soul." ”
Living in my hometown, I will feel relaxed at first, there will be no internal friction, and there will be no competition. But you will find that hospitals, schools, networks, etc., are not suitable for their own requirements, and compared with the city, there is a big gap.
Before the Chinese New Year, you also said, "After the New Year, I won't go to work anymore." ”
After a few months, you find that you have difficulties in earnings, and when you grit your teeth, you still go to work.
If your children want to study, they will already go to the city. No matter how bitter you are, you can't be bitter children.
After being away from your hometown for too long, your life is slowly getting better. At this time, you will make a foreign land your home.
Especially your next generation, who have not lived in their hometown, only visit occasionally. So there is no impression. In the future, they will not miss their hometown.
The feelings about his hometown, after several generations of forgetting, were completely forgotten later.
There are also some people, when they grew up in their hometown, they suffered too much, and the memories they left behind were all bitter, and they missed the feelings at all.
As a post-70s generation, I lived in the mountains when I was a child, and my family lived by farming and raising pigs. When I was a few years old, I had to go to plant rice and cut rice, and I had to go to herd cattle on a cold day, and I shivered with cold, and when I thought about it, I had a chill down my spine.
If you tell me to go to my hometown to farm again, I will definitely not go.
How can anyone really take the initiative to endure hardship, and they are not forced. If conditions permit, we will not go back.
After experiencing sad investment, I understood the truth that the rich do not return to their hometowns.
When someone makes a fortune outside, they want to go to their hometown to show that they are returning to their hometown.
Or go to your hometown to invest in something, and put your former ideas into practice step by step.
But after investing, I found that it was not so simple, and the income did not meet expectations, so I gave up.
In some places, the idea of small farmers is very serious, and once you start planting and breeding, you can rent land to your people, and the price of the land will rise. There is a lot of wasteland, but you can't move it, or someone will trouble you.
There are also some people who return to their hometown to invest, which means transformation, and they are not smart enough, but they are in debt.
Some familiar people will also be jealous of your "big spending", which makes interpersonal relationships difficult to handle.
No matter what the reason is, if you are sad a few times, it will completely break the idea of investing in your hometown, and it will breed hatred.
The ancestor said: "If you are poor, you will not go to your relatives, and if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown." "You've been taught, then you're completely sober.
The ancients said: "Sad songs can be used as weeping, and distant looks can be angelica." ”
The appearance of my hometown may not be erased for a lifetime, but I don't care anymore.
Look at it from a distance, think about it once in a while, and think about it as if you have arrived at your hometown.
During the Chinese New Year and festivals, look at the city, there are still many people from all over the world, busy with life, and go to farther places.
Maybe we are also like Su Shi, who feels that "this place of peace is my hometown".
* The loess does not bury people, and the water cannot be drunk? When you get used to a place, you integrate into a place, and you take root in a new round.
No longer returning to the hometown, not indifference and ruthlessness, but the hometown and you, realizing the "two-way abandonment".
Let's go slowly, what the future will be, and be at peace with what happens.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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The picture in the article is ** on the Internet.