""Accompanying the mother longs for dumplings, the sons wait and see, and the uncle acts silently"."
Companionship and alienation: what I saw and heard in the hospital.
In the hospital, I accompanied my old father to the hospital. His next bed was an elderly lady in critical condition. A man had been taking care of her, and I guessed it was the old lady's son.
This man has been silently serving his mother for more than a month, bowing his head every day and not talking to her. Perhaps, his personality is more introverted.
Often, a critically ill patient is cared for by family members on a rotational basis. However, the old lady was the only one with this son.
While he was going to buy food, I asked the old lady, "Why do you have a son to take care of you?" The old lady turned away and did not speak. It can be seen from her appearance that she does not like this son.
* came to check on the old lady and said that she would have an MRI in the afternoon. Said to the old lady's son, "Hurry up and find a few people, can you lift her alone?" The old lady's condition is so serious, what do your relatives think? ”
This situation also baffles me. Taking care of the critically ill elderly requires taking feces and urine, buying food and injections, and dealing with various examinations, and one person is simply too busy.
Sometimes, when he comes back from shopping for food, he has already missed the time to start the drip. The old lady would shout loudly: "Why are you so grinding when you buy a meal?" And he kept his head down and kept silent, I think he was quite aggrieved.
In the afternoon, several men came. The old lady smiled and said, "What are you doing here?" At this time, I learned that the three people who came in the afternoon were the old lady's own sons, and it was the old lady's aunt who had been serving her.
The old lady's daughter married away from home and was in Shanxi with her children, so she sent her husband back to take care of her mother.
The three sons carried the old lady downstairs for a check-up. When they returned, some of them sat in the ward playing with their mobile phones, some smoked in the corridor, and none of them cared about their mother's condition.
The three sons did not speak to their uncle, who was embarrassed and went out to smoke.
It was getting dark, and the old lady said she wanted to eat dumplings. The three sons didn't seem to hear it, and they were all playing with their phones. My uncle heard it and bowed his head and went out. But by the time he bought the dumplings, all three of his sons were gone.
The old lady disliked her uncle for buying dumplings too slowly, and said that her three sons were in a hurry to go home to see their children, why were they so abrasive. I really can't listen to it anymore, the old lady really doesn't know how to hurt people.
It didn't take long for the old lady to die, and she couldn't eat anything. The three sons and daughter-in-law all came, and the daughter also flew back from Shanxi. But none of them spoke to anyone.
Before the old lady died, she only called her three sons and explained some things. Her son and daughter did not cry, but arranged the funeral home and dragged the old mother away.
In the corridor of the hospital, I met my uncle. I asked him why the old lady did this to them.
My uncle smiled and said, "Over the years, the two of them have been in Shanxi, and they have no time to come back, so they can only get some alimony for the old lady every year." My uncle said, "I haven't been by the old lady's side for so many years, and I feel very guilty about the old lady." ”
Raising children to prevent old age, I have really seen it.
What do you think about this?