Mr. Qian Zhongshu's "The Siege of the City" is an immortal masterpiece in the history of modern Chinese literature, which reveals many true meanings of marriage and life with a unique perspective and delicate brushstrokes.
Today, I will share with you the most classic 7 sentences, it turns out that the truth of marriage and life is shared between the lines of the book between the thoughts and summaries of the wise:
To be honest, no matter who you marry, after you get married, you will always find that you are not married to the original person, but to another person.
This passage profoundly reveals a crucial truth in marriage: no matter who we marry, over time we will find that our partner is not what we originally imagined. As a result, disappointment is likely to ensue. But in fact, before marriage, we added beauty to each other, and after marriage, we became without makeup. How many people look good without makeup?
In marriage, there will always be a gap between expectations and reality, and the same is true for changing people. This gap may bring short-term confusion and disappointment, but it is also an opportunity for growth. Because true love is not based on the perfect fantasy of the other person, but on the acceptance and understanding of the real and complete other person. When we learn to let go of those unrealistic expectations and face our partners with a more tolerant and tolerant attitude, we can truly appreciate the truest and deepest feelings in marriage.
When we don't pick grapes, we don't just imagine them as sour, but we also think they're exceptionally sweet.
The most common mistake people make in marriage is to overimagine. In the face of this person who has disappointed you now, you can't help but imagine that it would be nice to be with another him. It is true that people are different, but you can't really get to know a person or a relationship without getting along closely, without deep interest associations and living together.
This over-imagining often leads us to ignore the partner in front of us and over-idealize those who don't know it well. We always have beautiful fantasies about our unknown partners, but we forget that marriage takes effort and time to manage. In fact, true happiness does not lie in who we marry, but in how we manage and cherish the marriage in front of us.
Marriage is a besieged city, and those outside the city want to go in, and those in the city want to come out.
This is the most classic and well-known sentence in "The Siege". Marriage is like a besieged city, where those on the outside are eager to enter, but those on the inside are eager to escape. This city is both a warm harbor and a prison of bondage. People outside the city look forward to the sweetness and stability of marriage; The people in the city felt oppressed and constrained. However, marriage is not a simple entry and exit, but requires the joint efforts of both parties and the management of the heart. When you are outside the city, you should look at marriage rationally; When you are in the city, you should cherish the happiness you have. Only mutual understanding, tolerance and support can make the city of marriage shine with true brilliance.
In front of the beloved man, every woman has the stunt of rejuvenation.
When a woman in marriage becomes a strong woman, most of them are men around her, which disappoints her; When a woman becomes a young girl again, this man must have given her a taste of love; When a woman is coquettish at every turn, she has become a simple child, most likely this man gives her a strong sense of security, so that she can release her true nature with peace of mind. Love will make people mature, but it will also make people naïve.
, love is mostly unsuccessful, either suffering from the boredom of eventually becoming a family, or suffering from the sadness of not becoming a family member in the end.
This sentence expresses the helplessness and sadness of love. Love, like a brilliant firework, is beautiful but short-lived. It can sometimes revel in the sweetness of eventually becoming married, but it can also bring boredom and exhaustion; Sometimes it is painful to regret not being able to get married, but it is also painful to learn to grow.
The changeability of love makes people both happy and worried. However, it is these experiences that make us more aware of the preciousness of love. In the world of love, we must also learn to face gains and losses calmly, success, luck, and gratitude; If you don't succeed, you don't have to be discouraged, it's all a fateful encounter.
, between their own people, any stinky shelf, bad temper is fine; The more intimate the smile, the more thoughtful the courtesy, and the deeper the mutual suspicion or resentment. ......When quarrelling, the one who speaks first may not have the upper hand, and the one who closes his mouth later is considered a victory.
This passage profoundly reveals the subtlety and complexity of human relationships. In front of those closest to us, we tend to be the easiest to let our guard down and show our true selves, including the bad ones. But it is this intimacy that can sometimes be a source of misunderstanding and contradiction. True intimacy is not unconditional indulgence, but tolerance and growth based on understanding and respect. In quarrels, no one wins or loses, they are all losers, and whoever can control his emotions and tongue is the wise man of marriage.
Life is nothing but at home, going out, and going home. All our emotional, intellectual, and volitional pursuits or attempts are nothing but homesickness in the soul. We want to find a person, one thing, a position that allows our body and mind to have a place to settle in this vast world.
This passage is a poetic depiction of the nature of life and the desires of our hearts. Life is like a repetitive journey, starting from home, exploring the world, and finally returning to the embrace of home. Our pursuits, desires, and wills all stem from our deep homesickness. We look for that person, that thing, that place, hoping to find our own home, so that the body and mind can find a stable harbor in the vast world.
This passage reminds each of us that no matter how adrift life is, we always need to have a warm home in our hearts. This home may be a person, or it may be a belief, or an ideal in the heart. Only by finding this home can our souls find true peace. Let us keep on seeking until our souls are content and settle.
As one of Mr. Qian Zhongshu's masterpieces, The Siege of the City has attracted countless readers and influenced generations with its unique literary charm and profound ideological connotation. Through these 7 classic sentences, we can not only appreciate his unique views on marriage and life, but also draw wisdom and inspiration from them.
Some people say that "The Siege" is a book that you can feel after reading it, because the more you experience, the more you understand. Reading other people's stories also makes us think more about our own lives.
I hope that you who have read this article can break the inner siege while overcoming obstacles in the complexity of marriage and life.
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