High-quality author list Story: I don't agree with Erbao taking my surname, and my parents actually sold the house and returned to their hometown.
My name is Min Huanhuan, and I am an only daughter born in 1987. My parents' hometown is in a remote village in Henan, where land is limited and the population is large.
My father and mother were childhood sweethearts, and when I was young, due to family financial reasons, my mother's expenses for my father's college education were borne by my mother, and she supported my father to complete his college studies while working. After his father graduated, the two became husband and wife.
His father became a secondary school teacher, and his mother worked as a salesperson in a supermarket. Despite the cultural differences, their relationship is very deep. In addition to teaching in middle school, my father also worked part-time in cram schools, and the family had a good income. Most of the money is sent to both families every month, except for living expenses, until the siblings reach adulthood.
In the third year of their marriage, I came into this world. My coming made my father happy and anxious at the same time. Although his father had a good cultural background, he still could not get rid of the idea of inheritance.
At that time, rural households with a household registration were eligible to have a second child if their first child was a girl. This became a source of problem due to the imbalance between men and women in society at that time.
In order to welcome the arrival of a boy, the father had considered various methods. He wanted his mother to return to the countryside to give birth to her son, and then put the child in foster care with his uncle. He had even planned for his mother to leave the baby at the door of her house after giving birth, pretending to be picked up, and then adopt. On another occasion, he even wanted to resign from his teaching position in the city, return to the countryside to work as a farmer, and change his hukou to a rural hukou so that he could have another child.
However, these unrealistic plans ultimately failed to materialize.
Despite my father's desire for a son, he still had a deep love for me.
When I was a child, he was always strict and clear about me.
He often said that girls should be excellent so that they can marry well in the future.
In order to win the face of my parents, I maintained excellent performance from kindergarten until I graduated from college.
Whenever people praised me for being so good, my father always said with some regret, "If only a son could be so good." ”
After graduating from university, I passed my exams, became a teacher, and became a colleague with my father.
As a middle school teacher, when I reached the age of talking about marriage, the people around me began to be busy introducing me to my boyfriend.
My father had a high reputation in school, and my uncles and aunts who cared for me also witnessed my growth.
I was very fond of those uncles and aunts, who were eager to find a suitable boyfriend for me.
Whenever someone introduced a boy to me, my father always took a hard look at the other person's background.
He may not have said exactly what kind of boyfriend I was looking for, but I knew that he wanted to continue the family's incense through me.
My father, with some whimsical plans, decided to find a partner for me, one of whom was to have a son in the family, or to be an orphan. Strangely, he doesn't care about the child's surname, believing that the child's mother's surname is a symbol of social progress.
I'm 28 years old now because of my father's strict requirements for candidates, but I've never had a boyfriend. My mother was anxious about my marriage and often persuaded my father. According to this family's view, it is a natural tradition for children to take their father's surname.
Despite the one-child policy today, few families are willing to let their only grandchild take their mother's surname. Moreover, there are already two boys in the uncle's family, and either of them can inherit the incense of the old Min family.
However, my father held fast to his beliefs, because there was an ancestral grave in his hometown, and he was convinced that only the family that gave birth to a son was eligible to be buried in the ancestral grave. He has a deep obsession with whether he can be buried peacefully after death.
The mother inadvertently put forward an idea that made the father's eyes shine: "If the daughter can find a boyfriend with the same surname, the child will have both the father's surname and the mother's surname." My father thought it was a brilliant idea and ran around looking for a boy with the same surname as ours.
Our family name is common in my father's hometown, but in the big city where we live, it is quite difficult to find a surname like "Min". Eventually, when his father retired and returned to his hometown, he found a suitable boy and brought him home.
There was a young man named Min Qiang, who was a full three years younger than me.
He has recently completed graduate school and is currently unemployed at home. Interestingly, he also has a younger brother who is in high school at home.
Thanks to his father, Min Qiang managed to find a job and was placed in our house.
Even though he was a very well-behaved young man, he didn't quite fit my ideal other half.
My father always persuaded me that if I had more contact, I would like him.
So, I was forced to accept him as my boyfriend.
We both have busy jobs and don't spend much time together even though we live under the same roof.
Every morning, we only talk a few words at the dinner table, asking about work or talking about the latest news.
We were polite to each other, felt more like colleagues than couples, and sometimes even more distant than the relationship between colleagues.
My best friend learned that I finally had a boyfriend and was curious about how my father had chosen the boy. At her strong request, I decided to take Min Qiang to meet her by chance.
On Sunday morning, I offered to go to the movies with Min Qiang while eating breakfast.
This proposal surprised Min Qiang, and my father was also surprised by it.
I saw a smile on my father's face.
According to the plan, Min Qiang and I arrived at a movie theater and bought movie tickets for the afternoon show.
For lunch, I took him to a nearby pizzeria.
As soon as we sat down, my friend showed up as planned.
I invited her to dine with her, and Min Qiang politely moved a chair for her.
The two of them have surprisingly similar tastes, both enjoy sweet and sour food, and both like to drink hot drinks.
And I'm a fan of spicy flavors.
Min Qiang ordered a pot of flower and fruit tea, breaking my expectation of wanting to drink ice juice.
Even though they met for the first time, their conversation was unusually pleasant, and I sat on the sidelines and could barely interject.
In the gap between Min Qiang's visits to the bathroom, my friend told me that she thought Min Qiang was a good man who could be trusted for life.
I can get out of the situation if you like. ”
Are you serious? ”
Of course, you can tell that he's not my favorite type. ”
Then please help me get the match. ”
You're so brave, do you still need me to be a matchmaker? ”
He's a little shy. ”
My friend made a shy face.
Soon after, Min Qiang returned, and when he saw us smiling at him, he also seemed a little reserved.
What happened? Min Qiang asked.
Min Qiang, I have something I want to tell you, in fact, I have no feelings for you. I said word by word.
I know that we are not a good fit, and that we are relatives, and we are a little bit apart. ”
Min Qiang revealed the blood relationship between us, and originally he disagreed, but my father said that there were many examples of cousins getting married in the past, and I had never heard of anyone who had a problem.
In order for Min Qiang to agree to associate with me, he even made a wish to Min Qiang's father, promising to find a good job for Min Qiang.
Min Qiang also came to my house at his father's strong request.
Min Qiang always wanted to find a chance to explain it to me, but every time we met, my parents were present, and he never spoke.
After listening to his words, I felt a lot more relaxed.
My sister has a crush on you, do you think about it? ”
I think she's pretty good, too. Min Qiang was still a little embarrassed.
I handed my friend two movie tickets, "This is a little bit of my heart." ”
Three days later, Min Qiang moved out of my home.
After learning that Min Qiang had moved in with my best friend, my father was furious and condemned Min Qiang as a ** who wantonly played with feelings.
I explained to my father that Min Qiang and I had never had a beginning, and that he had not cheated on me.
The father responded that it was he who had been deceived.
He said with emotion that looking at Min Qiang's honest appearance, he forgot his original promise when he had a job.
This unbelievable farce has come to an end.
With the arrival of autumn, the orchard run by the second uncle was harvested, and he brought his two sons to the city to deliver fruits, and visited his father by the way.
At the dinner table, the father looked at the two sons of the second uncle, and couldn't help but shed tears.
The second uncle learned that the father was sad because he didn't have a son.
Brother, don't be like this, don't we have the two of them in the incense of our old Min family? ”
I don't have a son, I can't be buried in the ancestral grave in the future, and I can't accompany my parents, I'm really an unfilial son. ”
Is it so hard to have a son? I'll have two here, and I'll give you one. ”
It's true? The father looked up at the second uncle, his eyes flashing.
Of course it's true. The second uncle reminded the two younger brothers not to eat anymore, "If any of you want to be the son of the uncle, kneel down quickly." ”
The eldest brother may be a little restrained, but the second brother is so clever that he immediately stood up, kowtowed to his father three times, and shouted "Daddy".
My father readily agreed, a smile on his face.
He asked me to hand over 1,000 yuan to my second brother as a sign of recognition of this "son".
Since I confessed my relationship with my second brother, my father has never interfered too much in my search for a boyfriend.
Even though I'm 29 years old, I'm still very popular in the dating market.
At Min Qiang's wedding to my best friend, I met Min Qiang's college classmate Ho Zhiyong, an ideal man who seemed to be tailor-made for me.
With the mediation of Mr. and Mrs. Min Qiang, we came together.
Before bringing Zhiyong home, I mentally built him up and told him not to pay too much attention to his father's harsh attitude.
Perhaps because I was getting older, my father simply asked about Zhiyong's work and didn't ask too much about anything else.
Zhiyong came to the house a few times, and my parents began to urge me to get married.
They took the initiative to contact Zhiyong's parents, and without Zhiyong and I knowing, they actually confirmed the wedding date for us.
After less than a year of married life, I welcomed a lovely son, named Lele.
His father liked Lele very much, and often hugged him and said to his mother: "Our daughter is so powerful, she gave birth to a son all of a sudden." ”
It seems that because I gave birth to a son, he, who is a grandfather, also feels that his face is bright.
After all, my father was a teacher, and he had an in-depth study of early childhood education, developing a set of interesting and educational methods.
Lele did not go to kindergarten, and under the guidance of his father, his memory, expression ability and self-learning ability far exceeded that of children of the same age.
Whenever someone compliments Lele, he always sighs and says, "If only this were my grandson." ”
When I got married, it was when the country implemented the two-child policy. After giving birth to her first child, Lele, my father once mentioned that he suggested that he should have another one while he was young. At that time, I made it clear that one child was enough because I was busy with work and didn't have time to take care of my children.
Although I knew my father's expectations, he didn't say it explicitly, and I didn't debunk it. Then in 2020, when Lele was three years old, I became pregnant again. Despite Lele, I feel very satisfied. But the second child seemed destined to come into my life, and I didn't want to give up.
After learning that I was pregnant, my father took the initiative to let me move back to the house and live a life of clothes to reach out and food to eat. Erbao was born, and it was another boy. His father named Erbao Min Zifan, and he felt that the name was easy to remember and write, and it had a meaning.
One weekend, when my parents went out shopping, Zhiyong showed me the household registration book. After a closer look, I found that the name of Erbao was not He Zifan, but Min Zifan. Zhiyong was obviously a little angry, and he blamed his father for not making things clear when he was registered.
Due to his busy work, it was difficult for Zhiyong to find time to apply for a household registration for his children, and his father took the initiative to take on this task. I advised Zhiyong not to be angry, and when I finished my maternity leave, I would go back and change it back.
Zhiyong asked with some concern: "Can I change the account that has been completed?" ”
I comforted him and said, "You can change it, don't worry." I have a student's parent who works in the Public Security Bureau. ”
He listened to me and stopped arguing about it.
Erbao enjoys endless pampering in his father's heart, and it has reached the extreme.
Every night, my father insisted that Erbao share the bed with him, so as not to disturb my rest. Erbao also behaved very sensibly, and was able to sleep peacefully after eating enough at night, and could sleep for five or six hours until the light of day.
One day, my best friend came to visit me, and my father took the initiative to take Erbao out of the room and gave her unique care.
In the chat, I mentioned the matter of Erbao's surname Min. My girlfriend told me, "I have a relative in our family who has two children, and one of them has my mother's last name. ”
Later, the old man died many years ago, but the family's property was notarized to the child with the surname. ”
Today, the two brothers have little contact, and even when they meet, they rarely communicate. ”
Parents are really struggling to balance it all. ”
After hearing this, I began to worry that my father might make the decision to leave all his property to Erbao.
I don't want to see the two brothers estranged and tragedy because of my grandfather's unfair treatment.
After the maternity break, I urgently decided to go and change Erbao's name back to He Zifan in person.
Telling my father that Erbao changed his name has always been a stone in my heart, but it is difficult to hide it from him. At the first birthday banquet, the family reunited, and the focus was on the Zhou Capture ceremony of the two treasures.
The mother-in-law called the name of Erbao, "He Zifan, go and catch the seal, and become a big official in the future." ”
's father didn't show weakness, "Min Zifan, go grab the pen and become a scientist in the future." ”
When my mother-in-law heard her grandfather shouting "Min Zifan", she was dissatisfied, "When did our grandson's surname become Min?" ”
My daughter has already given birth to your grandson, what is wrong with this Erbao and our family name? I argued.
It is the rule for children to follow their father's surname. My father-in-law also interjected.
You're too old-fashioned. Why do children have to follow their father's surname, this concept has to be changed. ”
How can there be two brothers with two surnames, so they will be laughed at. ”
Whoever loves to joke will joke and laugh, and my family property will be left to Min Zifan in the future. ”
Sure enough, the father regarded Erbao as his grandson.
Your family property, we don't need it. I said firmly.
I've already opened an account for Erbao, and it's too late for you to say anything. ”
My father-in-law looked at me, "Is what his grandfather said true?" ”
I didn't know how to answer, but I was trembling when I saw Zhi's courage, and hurriedly went to get the household registration book.
Dad, look, here is the name of Erbao, He Zifan. ”
My father snatched the household registration book and looked at it again and again.
When did you change it, why didn't you tell me, He Zhiyong, you have gone too far, do you still have me in your eyes? ”
I ......Zhiyong stammered, speechless.
I changed the name, does the child's last name matter so much? You only have one daughter, me, and the property in the future will be mine, and my property will be divided equally between the two children, both of whom are your grandsons, why do you divide it so clearly? "I said a lot in one breath.
You know what, only with our surname can I inherit my family property, why should I give my family property to someone with a foreign surname. ”
My father's face flushed, and he was clearly furious.
The grandson of our He family doesn't need your Min family's property, don't take out your money and destroy the relationship between their brothers. "
The mother-in-law angrily carried her little grandson into the bedroom.
This is a child born to my daughter, so what's wrong with the surname Min? "
Dad, what's wrong with you? "
I pulled my father and sat down on the couch together.
Huanhuan, listen to Dad, divorce He Zhiyong, we don't need such a feudal family. "
Dad, why get divorced? "
Don't you see how unreasonable your mother-in-law is? It will definitely make you angry in the future, He Zhiyong is like that, if you quarrel with his mother, he will definitely stand on his mother's side. "
Dad, don't make any noise, okay? Is it necessary to divorce just because the child does not have our family's last name? "
It's not a question of what your surname is, it's a human rights issue, if you get divorced, Erbao will definitely give it to you. I will bear all the expenses of the two treasures. I've been a teacher all my life, and it's not a problem to raise a second treasure. "
Dad, are you so vexatious? I'm not going to get a divorce. "
If you don't get divorced, don't be my daughter, and I won't leave you my family property. "
My father stood up angrily and wanted to leave, but my mother and father-in-law pulled him, and Zhiyong looked at me with a helpless expression.
Dad, you have to be sensible, to be clear, you just want Erbao to be your grandson, you are so noisy, have you considered my feelings? "
I finally couldn't take it anymore and tears flowed.
Your second treasure is surnamed He, I have my own grandson, surnamed Min. "
After my father finished speaking, he took my mother and left my house.
The Erbao Catch Week event is over, and it was originally planned to go out to eat together as a family, but it was canceled in the end.
Zhiyong saw that I was sad and kept comforting me.
He said: "I can play the role of my parents, let Erbao have your family name, Min Zifan's name is not bad." ”
No, the two brothers have different surnames, and the children may be ridiculed when they go to school. Moreover, if Erbao's surname is Min, my dad may directly leave the property to him, which will make Dabao feel unfair, and it is best not to mention this matter. ”
Zhiyong also agreed with me, "What about my grandfather?" ”
It doesn't matter, he's just angry for a while, will he deny me as a daughter? Just wait a few days. ”
Because I was busy with school matters, I didn't go to see my parents for a week.
On Sunday, I prepared some chicken, duck and fish, and Zhiyong and I took our two children to see them.
I thought that my father would be happy to see his two grandsons and would not refuse to let me into the house.
When I arrived at the community, I got out of the car with Erbao in my arms, and Zhiyong took Dabao to find a parking space.
There is a moving company's car at the entrance of the complex.
There was a sofa stacked in the elevator, and I stood next to the sofa with Xiaobao in my arms.
The movers were on the same floor as me.
My grandfather has a new neighbor. I said to Xiaobao.
The door of my father's house was open, and a middle-aged man was instructing workers to move furniture in.
What's going on? What about Mr. Min, who lives here? ”
I asked the man anxiously.
Mr. Min sold the house to me, and they moved out two days ago. ”
After only a week, my father sold the house and moved. They didn't even tell their only daughter.
I'm his daughter, do you know my dad moved to **? ”
Mr. Min has returned to his hometown. ”
I didn't expect that just because I didn't agree with Erbao to have the same surname as my father, he would take such an extreme action.
I was so anxious that as soon as I got in the car, I dialed my father's **, only to find that his number had been cancelled.
I remembered that there was my second uncle's number in the address book on my mobile phone, so I immediately dialed it.
Sure enough, my father had returned to his hometown.
My second uncle told me that the family had built a new small building, and my father lived there with them.
He also mentioned that the two children in the family take great care of their father, and he hopes that I can rest assured.
But how can I rest assured?
I dropped my two children off at my mother-in-law's house, and then Zhiyong and I immediately drove to our hometown to visit my father.
The mother and the second aunt were busy feeding the chickens in the yard and chatting.
I walked into the yard and my mother greeted me and took what I was holding.
Mom, why didn't you tell me in advance about such a big thing as selling a house? I said dissatisfied.
My mother motioned with her eyes for me not to continue.
I know that mothers rarely have a say in front of their fathers. This kind of major event must be decided by my father alone.
The second aunt beckoned us into the house and poured tea.
She told us that my father and my second brother had gone to town and would be back immediately, and asked why they hadn't brought their children with them.
We drove for five hours and were a bit tired. Mother told us to go to their house and my father to rest.
Going up to the second floor, we came to their room.
The room was big and bright. The bookcase and wardrobe face away from each other, separating the bedroom from the study.
The furniture looks familiar.
On the desk is a half-open book, next to a stack of sticky notes.
How long do you plan to stay here? I asked.
Listen to your dad. The mother's answer was not surprising.
Zhiyong and I were so tired.
It didn't take long for me to fall asleep.
The mother and the second aunt were busy in the yard, feeding the poultry and chatting at the same time.
I walked over and my mother greeted me and took what was in my hand.
Mom, how could you make such a big decision as selling your house without consulting me? ”
My mother motioned for me to stop talking.
I know that my mother has no say in front of my father, especially when it comes to such a big decision.
The second aunt invited us into the house and made us tea.
She told us that my father and second brother had gone to town and would be back soon, and asked why we hadn't brought our children with us.
After a five-hour drive, Zhiyong and I were feeling a little tired, so my mother told us to go to their room with my father to rest.
We went up to the second floor and into our parents' bedroom.
This room is spacious and bright, with bookcases and wardrobes placed on either side, separating the bedroom from the study.
The furniture in the room was familiar to us.
There was a half-open book on the desk, and a sticky note next to it.
How long do you plan to stay here? ”
Listen to your dad. My mother's answer was no surprise to me.
We were so tired.
Soon fell asleep.
In the evening, the second uncle's family gathered at home.
The second aunt was busy preparing a sumptuous family banquet.
The second uncle and his two younger brothers were very enthusiastic, but my father kept a straight face and didn't even look at me.
Big brother, the children are back, don't be angry. The girls are so nice, they always miss their families. The second uncle picked up a piece of fish and gave it to his father.
The girl is so big, and her heart flies after she gets married. ”
Dad, how can you say that? You're missing all of a sudden, and I'm so worried. ”
You are now from his old He family, I don't need you to worry. ”
I wanted to say a few more words, but was stopped by Zhiyong.
Dad, I know what you said is angry, Huanhuan is very worried about you, I went to see you this morning, and I knew that you sold the house, so we hurried here. ”
The house is mine, and I can sell it if I want. ”
No one won't let you sell, you tell us and we'll help you move. ”
I can move on my own, and I have a son. ”
Do you have a son? I looked at my father suspiciously.
Yes, the second brother's son is my son, and his grandson is my grandson, and my family property will be left to my grandson in the future. ”
The father glanced at his second brother's son and smiled.
Huanhuan, don't take your father's words seriously, they are all angry words. "The second uncle was afraid that I would misunderstand, so he hurriedly played a round.
Second brother, back then, you advocated passing on your second brother's child to me, you can't go back. He glanced at the second brother, "Second brother, don't you keep calling me dad?" In the future, you will be the one I rely on for my retirement. ”
Don't worry, Daddy. I'm your son, and I can't fly. ”
The second brother laughed and poured his father a glass of wine.
Don't mess with me anymore"The second uncle patted the second brother on the shoulder.
I have my own grandchildren, so I don't have to let the children of the He family follow the surname Min anymore. In this way, you will be able to get along with your mother-in-law when you go home. "
Dad, you are a knowledgeable person, do you think the concept of inheritance is a bit outdated? "
I don't think so, I just want a grandson who can carry on my last name. Since your children are unwilling, why can't I recognize a child of the Min family? "
My father's eyes were on me, as if expecting some answer from me.
All right. But it's not convenient for you and your mother to stay at your second uncle's house all the time, so it's better to go back with me. "I compromised.
I don't want to go back, and I won't have a place to stay. "
You can stay with us. "Zhiyong said hurriedly.
My surname is Min, and I don't live in a house with the surname He. "
Dad, what are you talking about? "
I couldn't help myself and stood up.
It's human talk. "The father also stood up, turned and left.
A good meal, but because of my father's involvement, I can't enjoy it with peace of mind.
Because I was concerned about the child, I refused to be retained by my second uncle.
He repeatedly assured me that he would talk to my father again and hoped that I would be relieved as well.
The younger brother said that the family situation has improved now, and the parents can be taken care of at home and do not have to work too hard.
In addition, the family is prosperous, the living atmosphere is very lively, and the elderly will be happy.
He also stressed that the father's talk of leaving his property to his children is just a momentary anger, and even if he wishes to do so, they will not hesitate to refuse, so that we can rest assured.
I can see that the life of the second uncle's family is very happy, and both parents came from the countryside and are full of nostalgia for the land of their hometown.
They are a kind and cheerful family, and their parents live with them and are well taken care of.
My brother has already taken a stand, and I don't have any doubts.
Afterwards: My parents have moved to live with my second uncle.
My partner and I take our children to visit them whenever we have time.
Every time we would stay at my second uncle's house for a day or two.
I am grateful for my brother's filial piety and regard him as my own brother.
My brother's child was about to start school, and I took him to my house and was in the same class as my child.
The past is a thing of the past, and we never talk about it again.