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Everyone longs to meet the right person, to be together for a long time, and to walk hand in hand through countless sunsets and dusks. But how can life be as you wish? What will happen to you when one day your lover no longer pays attention to you and no longer loves you?
Is it to compromise and humbly stay by his side? Or if you don't love, you won't love, fulfill each other, and break up with dignity? Countless realities tell us that only by doing these two things can we live up to ourselves.
1. Accept the reality and face it calmly
Human feelings are the most complex, love and non-love, separation and union are the most common things in emotional life. Love is of course a very important thing in life, but life is not only about love.
If you are fully committed, of course, you are reluctant to lose, but the relationship is two-way, no matter how much you pay unilaterally, you can't get a response, it's not a good love. It is better to accept the reality than to wait in pain.
The pain of breaking up is that you love too deeply, and love too deeply comes from being too simple and naïve, unable to see the essence of love and life, and will devote yourself wholeheartedly to a wrong relationship.
Life is so realistic and cruel, only with a sober and calm eye to look at everything encountered, in order to face everything calmly when changes occur.
Second, February** dynamic incentive plan Don't dwell on the past, living your own life is the most important thing, life is short, a lifetime is changing, people's feelings are the same, the most elusive is people's feelings, sometimes even their own hearts can not be clearly understood, let alone other people's feelings.
But one thing we can do at any given time is to love ourselves. If others don't love you anymore, you can love yourself; When the person you love leaves you, you can live just as well.
As long as you love yourself and can live independently, then no matter what blows others give you, you will still live proudly. If misfortune is a test, it teaches us one thing.
That is, there is no one you really rely on, only yourself is the most reliable. Being able to live your own life independently is the strongest support.
Like Mrs. Strickland in "The Moon and Sixpence", no matter how complicated she feels, there is one thing worth learning from female friends, and that is independence and freedom.
When she first learned that her husband had left her, she was sad and did not know what to do with her life in the future. What she probably can't stand the most is the damage to her face, and she can't explain to others how her marriage, which is perfect in the eyes of others, could suddenly end in failure.
She even decided to compromise and say that no matter what Strickland did, as long as she came back, she would treat it as if nothing had happened. But it was too late, things weren't as she thought, and Strickland didn't even think about coming back from the moment she left home.
After recognizing the reality, Mrs. Strickland uses her cleverness to start a new life, learn typing skills, start a small company, and live a good life.
Marriage is just a means for her to establish her own image and gain the envy and sympathy of others, and no matter what the situation is, she will tell the effect of marriage on her in a language that is favorable to her.
Compared with the kind of people in real life who feel that life cannot go on once they leave a person, or even want to die or live, Mrs. Strickland is simply too sober and powerful.
She knows what she wants, and she knows what others can bring her, and as long as it is beneficial to her, she can talk about others at will, regardless of the real situation.
It can be seen that happiness in life does not depend entirely on others, but how to look at everything that happens, calmly face the reality, and not dwell on the past, in order to have the courage to see the road in front of you and walk bravely on.
Only in this way can it be possible to take the initiative of fate into one's own hands, and not just passively accept the arrangement of fate.
This is also the philosophy of life that I realized when I read "The Moon and Sixpence", and if you read this book carefully, you will find that it gives people many insights. In addition to the encouragement to pursue dreams, it also dissects various human natures.
The people in his pen are not single, they all have a certain complexity, cute and hateful, pitiful and pathetic, which also shows us that life is inherently complex, there is no black and white, only darkness under the sun, or a glimmer of light under the shadows.
In The Moon and Sixpence, Maugham vividly depicts the truth of marriage and the complexity of human nature with spicy brushstrokes, which allows us to understand the multifaceted nature of human nature and thus gain a wake-up call.