In life, family affection is undoubtedly the warmest harbor.
But did you know that sibling relationships need to be carefully maintained?
Although they live under the same roof, they are actually independent individuals, each with different dreams and pursuits. Therefore, there will inevitably be friction in getting along.
Sometimes, too much of a balance can lead to a frustrating or even deadlock in an otherwise close relationship.
How do siblings get along with each other? The answer is three words – don't care.
01 Don't care about personal gains and losses
Brothers and sisters come and go, and it is inevitable that there will be entanglements of interests. If you are too careful, it is easy to cause cracks in the originally strong brotherhood.
A reader once shared his story: his eldest brother was strapped for money in the early days of his business, so he recruited him and promised a generous dividend. The initial income was not ideal, but the eldest brother still fulfilled his promise and gave him the dividends he deserved.
This reader understands that the reason why the eldest brother did this was out of concern and care for him.
Later, in the days of common struggle, he did his best, and finally put the company on the right track. He was always grateful to his eldest brother and became his most effective assistant.
It is precisely because the brothers do not care about gains and losses and support each other that they have overcome one difficulty after another.
The gratitude and cherishing of each other make their feelings deeper.
02 It doesn't matter how much you pay
In everyday life, siblings need to support each other. If you blindly care about how much you give, it is easy to have a sense of imbalance and even cause a rift in your relationship.
Take Qiqi in "Children of the Qiao Family" as an example, he is the youngest in the Qiao family. Due to the early death of his mother, his father Qiao Zuwang sent him to his second aunt's house to raise him.
Although I grew up in a different environment with my siblings, it did not affect the bond between them. When the eldest brother Qiao Yicheng was hospitalized with kidney failure, the other siblings of the Qiao family rushed to match him, hoping to save his life.
In the end, Qiqi and Qiao Yicheng's match was successful, but Qiao Yicheng refused to accept it because of guilt in his heart.
Qiqi did not complain or be dissatisfied because of this. At his insistence, the operation was carried out smoothly, and Qiao Yicheng gradually **.
It is precisely because brothers and sisters do not care how much they give, that the affection between them will be deeper. As long as there is love in the heart, it can make the relationship stronger.
03 Don't care about verbal friction
Master Nebula once said, "Only by thinking about small things can the load of the mind be relieved; Only by not listening to gossip can we avoid unnecessary disputes. ”
It is inevitable that there will be some small friction or unspeakable times when siblings communicate. We don't have to be overly concerned about these inappropriate words.
If you are dissatisfied, you can point it out in time, but you don't have to dwell on it. Only by giving brothers and sisters more tolerance and understanding can we get along more harmoniously with each other.
If a family is always careful, it is easy to ignore more precious emotions. Not caring is a kind of wisdom that can resolve many contradictions and disputes.
Learning to be tolerant has a positive effect on family harmony and personal growth.
As another wise man said, "If the heart is relaxed, it will spring everywhere." ”
May we all cherish the friendship with our brothers and sisters, take care of this hard-won family affection, and let the warmth and beauty always accompany us.
Conclusion
If the heart is wide, the spring flowers will bloom, and if the heart is narrow, the complaints will be all over the ground. ”
Between brothers and sisters, letting go of scheming is the key to avoiding conflicts and enhancing relationships. For siblings, the key to getting along is sincerity and understanding.
Not caring does not mean turning a blind eye to everything, but referring to tolerating and accepting with a broader mind.
Learning to be tolerant and tolerant not only makes our families more harmonious, but also makes our lives more fulfilling and beautiful.
When we can truly understand and accept each other's differences, we can create a harmonious and warm family environment together.