In interpersonal interactions, we often encounter situations where someone constantly asks for our help, and after the fact, they do not give material feedback, but only praise us in a gesture of worship or elders. Many times, this compliment sounds pleasant and makes us feel that our efforts are recognized, but when we taste it closely, we find that there seems to be a lack of sincerity and depth.
In fact, such praise may well not be a real thanks, but an attempt by the other party to use us as a means of cheap labor. They value our ability and kindness, and hope that we can serve them free of charge, while they sit back and enjoy the fruits of our labor with peace of mind. This kind of "white prostitution" not only exploits the value of our labor, but also tramples on our dignity and rights to a certain extent.
In the face of such a situation, we must be vigilant. We must not lose ourselves because of momentary praise, let alone sacrifice our own interests and dignity for the sake of so-called interpersonal relationships. If the other party's request is not something we want to help willingly, then we should refuse it in time and not help with everything. Otherwise, in the long run, we will only raise those "white-eyed wolves" who are accustomed to exploiting others and do not know what to do.
These "white-eyed wolves" will show extreme dissatisfaction and complain when we are unable to meet their needs or choose to refuse one day. They may speak ill of us behind our backs or even call us ungrateful. But in reality, it is not us who are ungrateful, but those who are accustomed to exploiting others and are unwilling to give their due.
Therefore, we must understand that kindness is a valuable quality, but kindness does not mean unconditional sacrifice and concession. While maintaining kindness, we should also learn to protect ourselves and not let our kindness become an excuse for exploitation by others. We must let our kindness have a edge, a bottom line, and principles.
When we meet people who are trying to exploit us, we should be brave enough to say "no". We need to make them understand that our labor is valuable and that our kindness has a bottom line. We should not be fooled by false praise, let alone sacrifice our own interests in order to meet the expectations of others.
At the same time, we need to learn to distinguish between genuine gratitude and false praise. True gratitude comes from the heart of sincerity and gratitude, not just verbal praise. True gratitude gives us something in return, not just empty words. Therefore, when facing the gratitude of others, we should also keep a clear head and not be easily deceived by superficial praise.
Kindness is a good quality, but we can't let kindness become a tool for others to exploit us. While maintaining kindness, we must also learn to protect ourselves and let our kindness have a sharp edge. Only in this way can we maintain our dignity and rights in our interpersonal interactions and not allow those who try to exploit us to succeed.