Hello, I'm Ah Qi.
Recently, I brushed up on the hit drama "If Running Is My Life", the famous scene of a college student taking his mother's dormitory, a mother in her forties, like a child, follows her daughter's dormitory, and always points fingers, looking like "pointing the country", which makes people suffocate when they watch.
I hated this mother's selfishness, and I hated this daughter's blind compromise, and hated that iron could not become steel, so I went to read the original book "If Running Is My Destiny".
Probably for the sake of ratings, the TV series has changed quite a lot, with a lot of characters and emotional lines.
In contrast, I still like to read the original.
The original book tells the inspirational story of family ethics after a car accident, two mothers and daughters fell to the bottom of their lives, rebuilding their hearts, igniting hope, and restarting their lives.
The magic of love, giving children the power to run infinitely.
A car accident disfigured Anxin and broke his leg, which is more painful for a dancer than his life.
Fortunately, she has a good mother, Xiufang.
In order to cheer up her daughter with peace of mind, rekindle her hope for life, and live bravely.
Xiufang gambled against her daughter twice.
For the first time, if the 200-pound Xiufang succeeds in **100 pounds in three months, she will try to use a wheelchair with peace of mind.
Wearing a wheelchair is just the first step in letting my daughter live, and the purpose is to hope that my daughter will slowly learn to take care of herself.
Xiufang doesn't want her daughter to be lifeless every day, as the saying goes, "It's better to die than to live", and there is hope if you live.
As stated in the Zhengri book, "No matter how helpless your life is, no matter how tragic your fate is, you will lose to a mother's huge energy, and parents have far-reaching plans for their children - children, don't be afraid, there is a mother." ”
Xiufang, who is in her sixties, went from being blind at the beginning, to running in People's Park and ironing in the gym, which has become a beautiful and chic landscape.
Before this, Anxin countless times mother**, Xiufang was indifferent.
For the sake of her daughter, this time, Xiufang went out, and later not only succeeded, but also developed a good habit of fitness, running ten kilometers each time.
With the drive and encouragement of his mother, Anxin began to go out of the house and into the crowd to feel the colorfulness of life and the power of life.
The second bet is that Xiufang, an amateur old lady with zero foundation, if she learns to dance hip-hop in a month and successfully passes the audition of the hip-hop dance competition, she will accept the prosthesis with peace of mind.
In fact, Xiufang did not pass the audition in the end, but many people were infected by her old lady's hip-hop spirit, and they were also moved, and they were scolded by the god of the dance industry who was also her idol.
Yes, anything is possible, how do you know what the result is without trying.
So he put on a prosthetic leg with peace of mind, ran in again and again, changed the material of the prosthetic limb again and again, and finally not only walked freely with the prosthesis, but also danced again, and even participated in the marathon, and thus got the opportunity to return to work, return to the original institution to work, become the principal of the new campus, continue to teach students to dance, and expand the territory for the company.
Xiufang loves her daughter more than herself, and it is precisely because of her "extraordinary" love that she brings magical encouragement to An Xin and makes her rekindle hope in life.
The blow that life gave her was digested by mother's love, and the power of mother's love also allowed her to have the power to run infinitely even if she broke her leg.
The shackles of love are, in the final analysis, selfishness.
I raised you, and you have to listen to me. ”
Every time Ruohua had a disagreement with her mother Xiuli, her mother would use similar language to fight back at her, otherwise she would accuse Ruohua of being unfilial, and even force her to die until she compromised.
This time was no exception.
Her younger brother and Cousin Anxin were in a car accident and unfortunately died on the spot, although the cousin saved a life, her face was disfigured and her leg was crippled.
After dealing with her brother's funeral, Ruohua wanted to return to school, and her mother asked to go to college with her, on the grounds that now she has only one relative, and she can't live alone at home, so she has to accompany her to study.
To put it nicely, it is to accompany the reading, but in fact it is to add to the chaos.
If you bring your mother back to school, she will definitely have to be distracted to take care of her mother in her 40s, because her mother has never traveled far alone, and she will inevitably not be able to live alone in the big city of Beijing.
She didn't want to say yes, but her mother's attitude made it impossible for her to refuse.
Time was in a hurry, and I didn't have time to rent a house for a while, so I had to say hello to the dormitory manager and take my mother to live in the dormitory together.
In the dormitory, her mother made a lot of trouble for Ruohua, and sometimes had disputes with her roommates, and the school agreed that Ruohua's mother lived on campus, but it was only sympathetic to their plight, so that she had an excess, and finally had to go out to rent a room.
Ruohua had to make time to find a rental house while juggling her studies and internships, but fortunately, her classmate Zhou Kaize, a local, helped her and let her rent a suitable house in a short time.
After seeing Ruohua busy, I had to sigh that she was so tired with such a mother.
Ruohua's mother's love for her children is like a shackle, and in the final analysis, it is selfish.
If she just causes trouble in her life, it doesn't matter, even Ruohua's emotional life has to be involved.
Originally, Ruohua and Zhou Kaize had a good impression of each other, but they were troubled by Ruohua's mother, and they just tossed the fate of the two.
Ruohua has envied her cousin Anxin countless times, she has a mother who is dedicated to herself, so she respects her aunt very much, and she also fantasizes about how good it would be if her mother could be like her aunt.
It's a pity that there are no ifs in life.
Ruohua's mother always emphasized that if I didn't persuade your father, you wouldn't be able to read at all.
If I didn't raise you, how could you grow so big.
If you didn't have me, where would you get the money to go to college......”
It is undeniable that in Ruohua's growth path, her mother has credit, but not much. On the contrary, Ruohua has been sensible since he was a child, does not let adults worry about it, and always finds a way to subsidize the family part-time while studying when he grows up.
Ruohua's mother always said that she would not harm her daughter, it was all for her daughter's good, she obstructed her daughter's love affair and prevented her daughter from marrying far away; She forced her daughter to return to her hometown for development, and asked her daughter to have an iron job in the civil service and teacher qualifications; Seeing that the road of job stability was not going through, she forced her daughter to go on a blind date, bluntly saying that "if you do well, you might as well marry well".
The starting point of everything she does is that it is for her daughter, but in fact, it is for herself, in order to keep her daughter, let her daughter develop by her side, and let herself rely on her old age.
She never thinks about what her daughter needs, she cares more about what she needs her daughter to do.
The love she gave her daughter was a kind of shackle, essentially selfish, and her selfishness finally forced her daughter Ruohua to push her away step by step, escape from her, and go to Beijing to work and live alone, unwilling to see her.
As parents grow, children are liberated.
As Ji Jingrong, the author of this book, said, "As parents continue to grow, children can be liberated." ”
There is no doubt that parents love their children and will give everything for their children, and it is understandable that parents' love is selfish.
Some parents give everything to their children, have no ego, and always live for their children, which will actually add pressure to their children.
Such parents should find a joy in life, live for themselves once in the limited rest of their lives, do what they want to do, and just make themselves happy.
Some parents treat their children as tools, always wanting the other party to do something for themselves and be useful to them.
You must know that parents and children are gradually drifting apart, and don't always want to hold on to your children like a kite string.
The tighter you pull the thread, the easier it is to break it.
Whether it's selfless love or a little selfish love, as parents, you should continue to grow, know moderation, and learn to let go.
When the children are older, they are allowed to fly to their own mountains, and they are allowed to stay in their own mountains.