I was shocked to learn of my sister-in-law's passing recently. However, what made me even more stunned was that their family did not notify us to attend my sister-in-law's funeral.
I have six brothers and sisters, my father is the second, and my parents have passed away. Although I also have an elderly uncle and sister-in-law alive, they are already **ten years old. However, the news of my sister-in-law's death was kept secret from us nephews and nieces. Could it be that their children no longer care about family affection? After all, the affection that is as close as an aunt has become less indifferent than that between neighbors.
My sister-in-law's four sons and one daughter, all of whom were among the most powerful, were dismissive of our relatives, and refused to inform us even when my sister-in-law died, as if they were afraid that we, the "poor relatives", would stain their family.
In this family, my sister-in-law's four sons and one daughter have all served in the army, and it can be said that they have succeeded in their careers because of the light of my eldest cousin. As the saying goes, "one person gets the right chicken dog**" is not unreasonable.
At first, my sister-in-law's family was not rich, and even my sister-in-law and my uncle didn't even know a big word. However, my eldest cousin's stellar performance changed everything. He rose to prominence in the army, was wounded in a fight with gangsters on a train, and was eventually awarded a first-class meritorious service by the unit. Since then, my eldest cousin has had a smooth journey and has been promoted to the high position of division commander. I heard that he brought guards and guns with him when he returned home, and the people of the village came to pay their respects.
However, after my sister-in-law died, although he was called to my uncle's house, he never came to visit us. Obviously, he looked down on these relatives and perhaps held a grudge against several of his uncles.
Here I would like to mention my grandmother's life in her later years. When she was in her 80s, she broke her leg and was originally taken care of by three families in turn, but the families of that era were extremely poor, which eventually led to quarrels and even fights between the three brothers. Eventually, no one would take care of her anymore. In desperation, the sister-in-law took her grandmother home to take care of her until her grandmother died, a full two years. My guess is that the eldest cousin may be unhappy about this.
Although the eldest cousin is not very close to his relatives, he is very attentive to his siblings. After my second cousin became a volunteer, he transferred to work in the procuratorate. The third cousin obtained a military doctor qualification in the army and served as the director of a hospital in Dezhou, Shandong. The fourth cousin and the younger cousin were directly introduced into the army by the eldest cousin, and the cousin married the ** son. The fourth cousin transferred from the armed police force, and both of them worked in the public security system. It can be said that their home is full of beauty and power. For these "poor relatives", they obviously do not want to know each other anymore, let alone worry about them. If you help one, I'm afraid everyone will ask them for help, and this kind of trouble is really not worth mentioning.
We were never notified of their siblings' marriages, let alone their presence when our sisters got married. And a series of recent events have made me feel deeply helpless.
My third brother had a dispute with someone at the construction site, injured the other party, and was arrested by the local police station. My second brother went to great lengths to find the ** number of my sister-in-law's house, hoping to seek help from his fourth cousin who worked in the city's public security system. However, their house didn't even open the door for us, and at first they promised to inquire, but then they simply stopped answering **.
When my father and uncle died, we informed them, but only my sister-in-law came to see them and left in a hurry. None of her sons and daughters showed up, and none of the eight sisters in our family came to visit. Even my cousins and cousins seem to have severed ties with my sister-in-law's family.
My dad has a fiery temper, and my uncle has an even more fierce temper. I remember when I was a child, my three brothers used to quarrel or quarrel loudly over the homestead and land left by my grandmother. There is no family affection between the brothers, so it is not unreasonable for my sister-in-law to cut ties with them.
My second aunt died young, and my eldest aunt suffered from mild dementia and could not be a housewife. After the death of my aunt, the contact with our side was basically cut off.
Therefore, between the six brothers and sisters of my father, my father and sister, now they no longer even participate in the wedding ceremony, and all these relatives seem to have broken down.
Seeing other people's relatives still moving around for generations makes me feel envious. Do relatives need to maintain their interests?
I think so. If there is no support between relatives, they may be like our family, and they will not get along with each other. The relationship between relatives really seems to need some bond of interest to maintain.