When it comes to children's "procrastination", I believe that every parent can complain about a basket.
I got up and shouted several times a day, but I still didn't get up; Writing homework dragged on until midnight, and the review ...... hadn't startedIn order to solve the problem of children's procrastination, I believe that all parents have exhausted their efforts, but the results are not satisfactory. Children are always grinding, parents should not be careless, a few tricks, quit the child's "procrastination".
01 Inappropriate rewards
In order to encourage children not to procrastinate, parents mislead children with excessive material rewards, turning responsibilities that originally belong to children into extraordinary, unrelated things. In this way, the child will see learning and doing things as if it is not his duty, but for the sake of reward. When the reward no longer attracts him, he will give up trying to do what he has to do.
02Improper labeling
Parents can't just say that their child is stupid when he doesn't do a good job, and that he is not as good as a classmate. Labelling your child too early as an inappropriate one will inevitably affect your child's self-confidence. In fact, everyone pursues self-motivation in their hearts, but some things that need to be done by themselves are helped by their parents, and they lose the opportunity to exercise; Some people lost confidence because they were criticized and suppressed by their parents because they didn't do a good job at the beginning.
As a parent, you have to understandAccept your child, do not hurt the child's self-esteem, so that it is easy to make the child afraid to make decisions and become procrastinated.
03 Inappropriate negotiations
Parents always use "what ifs...... with their childrenI'll ......"If you don't ......, I won't ......The sentence structure speaks. This kind of sentence structure can easily bring negative emotions to children, and it cannot be well internalized by external rules, which is not conducive to developing a stable and organized habit.
The best way is to agree on the rules with the child in advance, encourage the child in time during the implementation process, and remind the child when he is rubbing, but if the child can't do it, or worry that the child can't do it well, parents should try to control themselves, avoid interfering with the child, and try to let the child bear the natural consequences of not doing it alone.
Don't ask your child for more than two at the same time, asking too much will only make your child confused and overwhelmed.
01Help children find the confidence to do things.
The reason why a large part of children are reluctant to do things and like to put things off until the last minute to complete them is because of their low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence. Presumably, many parents have done such a behavior when their children are young.
For example, when a child suddenly wants to help his parents wash the dishes or mop the floor one day. Although parents are very happy and let their children do it, but every time they have to finish it, they just praise it verbally, and then they will silently go to do the housework that their children have done again, and even some parents will directly accuse their children of not doing well in front of their children, not washing their clothes or not washing the dishes.
Some of these behaviors are actually reducing the child's behaviorSelf-confidenceSlowly, they will become avoidant, unwilling to do things, that is, unwilling to bear the consequences of doing wrong things, so to solve the problem of procrastination in children, we must first start with their self-confidence.
02 Teach your child to make a list.
Children like to procrastinate and put things off until the last minute because they don't have a clear idea of the time it takes to get things done. So it doesn't matter if I drag it out for a while, and it won't affect the essence of the matter if I drag it out for a while.
Such a psychology will also sink deeper and deeper into his procrastination, but such a problem can play a role in using the checklist modelFor example, turn your child's homework into a list at the end of the weekMake a list of the things your child needs to do for the weekend, and let your child follow the order of the listOne by oneThis form of task will make children understand what they should accomplish, and ticking a box after each task will also increase their sense of achievement.
03 Replace nagging with encouragement
We have found that the more anxious you are, the less anxious your child is. I'm about to be late for school, and the child suddenly says he wants to poop; You urge your child to hurry up and eat, and he "coughs" and retchs ......The more parents nag, the more children will use friction to deal with parents.
In this regard, we might as well replace nagging with encouragement. For example, if you find that your child is doing well today, you will immediately use exaggerated language to praise and encourage: "Your baby is so good today!" Brush your toothbrush fast and clean! "Wow! The baby eats so fast today, and there is not a single grain of rice left! ”
If there is really nothing to praise, make a schedule for your child. If your child can complete tasks such as brushing his teeth and eating within the allotted time, give him a reward to motivate him to do things quickly.
Timely praise and encouragement will make children psychologically produce that doing things quickly is a particularly happy thing, so that they will speed up everything they do and no longer grind.
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
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