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The years are in a hurry, like a white horse passing by, and when I wake up, it is like a different world. When you enter the age of 40, you will be amazed to find that many people and things around you have changed dramatically. Those who were once despised or even looked down upon by you when you were young now live a leisurely life; On the contrary, those who were in their prime and outstanding intelligence are still struggling in the torrent of life to seek inner peace.
I think that at the beginning, there will always be such a type of people around us: they seem to be wooden, slow to act, and their understanding seems to be slightly inferior to others. For example, my table mate in junior high school was always the last to hand in every exam, and he even needed to be urged by the teacher, but he didn't like to study, but the pace of learning was relatively slow. Years later, they reunited at a class reunion and learned that he had become the owner of a factory. He said that because of his chronic son, he is more suitable for the manufacturing industry, meticulous work, honest people, product quality is the best sometimes he would rather suffer a loss, and therefore accumulate more and more resources. This makes people think that in the field of interpersonal relationships and business, those who are scheming and calculating often have a narrower and narrower path, while those who are honest and reliable can win a broader stage in life.
Then there are those who do not have great ambitions for the future when they are young, and are often considered to have no ambitions. However, in middle age, you will find that this type of person lives quite nourishingly. They are not too picky about their choice of partner, and their lives are ordinary but content. We once envied the business elite and celebrities, eager to shine on the stage of life, but as we grow older, we will realize that ordinary is true, good health, family harmony, is a real success.
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "The husband is not fighting, so the world can not fight with it." When you are young, it may be difficult to understand the deep meaning of this sentence, and mistakenly think that indisputability is a passive escape from the world, but in fact, what Lao Tzu advocates is to deal with the troubles of the world with active silence. Just like the protagonist Fugui in the movie "Alive", facing the ups and downs of life, he finally understands the truth that blessings and misfortunes depend on each other, and the gains and losses in life are not absolute. To be "indisputable" is not to do nothing, but to focus on your own things, look down on the gains and losses of the moment, and believe that time will give everyone a fair ruling.
Finally, when it comes to those with strong backgrounds or strengths, we may be resentful of social injustices when we are young, but as we grow through experience, we come to realize that there is no absolute fairness in the world, and as long as there is social organization, there must be some form of inequality. As Lao Tzu said, the "way of heaven" tends to balance the rich and the poor, while the "way of man" often does the opposite. When we step out of the trap of fairness and understand and accept the essence of human nature, we will be relieved that those with background and strength can live comfortably.
In the final analysis, people do not realize until they are forty that life does not need to be too smart or overly capable, and it is already a rare happiness to be able to live comfortably and comfortably. Especially in the second half of life, when there is a warm family waiting for you, that is the most comfortable day. Those successful people who are envied by the world, although glamorous, are also under pressure that others can't imagine. Therefore, life has its own comforts and difficulties, and the most important thing is to find your own way of life and cherish the good times in front of you.