"The greatest courtesy is not to interfere with other people's work. ”
There must be such people around you. When you're snacking, they'll keep whispering in your ear that it's junk food.
You dress casually and they speak sincerely. Ask how young you are. People should dress modestly.
They are worried that you will not get married, that you will grow up to be lonely, and that they will be desperate to find a significant other for you.
Once you're married, they'll teach you how to manage your marriage as someone who has been through it.
I especially dislike people who interfere in my private affairs under the guise of caring.
Nosy notes.
When I was working at my previous company, there were several times when the ladies of the same company eagerly introduced me to people, but in reality, I didn't know them at all.
The strangest moment was when I was on duty in the ENT department after I graduated. My aunt gave an ** call to the ENT and when she learned that I was at work, she brought the man and his mother to see me.
xx When I heard that my teacher was looking for me, I was confused because I didn't know her at all.
The teacher looked at me and asked, "Are you sir?" "He introduced me to the mother and son and asked me to get to know the man.
Fortunately, the man's mother didn't like me, so she said, "I won't disturb your work," and took the teacher's arm and motioned for him to leave early.
I'm speechless. You don't know me at all, but you take people on blind dates when I go to work.
Everyone has their own plans and things to do. Don't intervene or self-righteously intervene. This can leave a bad impression on others and can lead to a penalty point.
Not interfering with other people's cause and effect is discipline and respect.
You can't earn points by messing around.
When I was a kid, I remember at a party where my uncle fell in love with my mother's best friend, Aunt Gao.
Then my uncle asked my mom to help reunite them.
Mom was more cautious and didn't immediately agree. Instead, I asked Aunt Gao for advice first.
Aunt Gao thought that we could become friends first, so she arranged for my mother to find a teahouse for us to meet.
Soon after, they sent out a wedding invitation to my mother. My mother also talked to Aunt Gao and suggested that she get to know her better before deciding to get married.
But Aunt Gao didn't listen.
Soon after the marriage, each other's shortcomings were gradually exposed, and eventually they divorced.
Ironically, instead of taking responsibility for the failure of the marriage, they blamed my mom for saying that if she hadn't introduced them to each other in the first place, they wouldn't have gotten into the trouble that followed. That's what I think. Idea. Above.
So, you know, if you do someone a favor and you think the result is good, they may say "thank you" from the bottom of their hearts, but if it doesn't work out, even if it doesn't matter with you, they will say. Blame.
Don't interfere with other people's work. Even if you respect others, it's to protect yourself from getting caught.
Nosy people may not even understand it themselves.
I know an older sister who behaves like a sophisticated person all day long, preaching to one person today and the so-called truth to that person tomorrow.
However, she herself works odd jobs at a skewer shop to make ends meet. Her husband is having an affair with another woman outside, and if she doesn't study hard since she was a child, she won't be able to manage the children.
Some people are nosy because their lives are not fulfilled and they rely on distractions to numb themselves. Or maybe you believe in your own belief that everyone should move on with their lives.
They don't realize that blind meddling in the lives of others can be disturbing and even misleading.
As Jiang Xun said, "Reckless intervention is a new cause that will bring consequences to others, and then it will cause a lot of karma and cause a lot of problems." ”
"I understand that it is necessary to help others and respect others. The fate of others, otherwise their karma will spill over to you and hurt you. Yes. ”
Everyone has their own destiny, it is unique and cannot be replicated. If you intervene easily, you take the causal responsibility of someone else, and most of the time, they will suffer the consequences.
Not being nosy is a sign of politeness and respect for oneself and others.
Never rely on superficial knowledge and self-righteously meddle in the fate of others. In the end, it's just you who gets hurt.