On the afternoon of September 28, 2019, by the Pearl River, Qiu Juan hugged an urn with a dull expression. Opening the box, she slowly sprinkled the ashes into the river, the pain almost unspeakable. "
I'm holding this box, and it's still hot ......"She whispered. The ashes in the box belonged to her son, Yang Xiangyi, who was not yet a year old, and just the day before, he left this world forever, leaving only his grieving mother.
Recalling the experience of diagnosing her child this year, Qiu Juan's feelings are very complicated. She had experienced the pain of being rejected by her in-laws, and she had also felt the warmth of generosity from all walks of life, but in the end, she could only face this tragedy alone.
So, why did Xiangyi pass away? Why did Qiu Juan's in-laws refuse to help? What difficulties did she go through alone?
Qiu Juan, a native of Loudi, Hunan, met Yang Xiaoping, who was also a native of Hunan, after coming to Guangzhou to work, and quickly fell in love. On April 13, 2018, Qiu Juan unexpectedly found out that she was pregnant, which shocked Yang Xiaoping, but he reacted quickly and took Qiu Juan to the Guangdong Provincial Maternal and Child Health Hospital for a detailed examination.
The results confirmed that Qiu Juan was nearly two months pregnant, which surprised and delighted the two. Surprisingly, both of them are young people who have just entered society, do not have much savings, and are not ready to have children.
Happily, they have a deep relationship and are ready to get married, and now they are even more excited and motivated to be pregnant.
In the emotional intersection of the two, they decided to tell their families about this important decision, and it didn't take long for their love to finally blossom and enter the palace of marriage.
In the next few months, Yang Xiaoping's meticulous care of Qiu Juan was as warm as a spring breeze, and they planned the future together, and a beautiful family blueprint was in front of them.
What surprised the couple even more was that during the routine examination in the 10th week of pregnancy, the color ultrasound results showed that Qiu Juan was pregnant with twins. The couple excitedly prepared two more baby products, looking forward to the arrival of these two little lives.
After experiencing the hardships of pregnancy in October, on October 9, 2018, Qiu Juan successfully gave birth to the twins in Guangzhou Zhujiang Hospital, both of whom were boys, the eldest son was named Yang Xiangyi, and the younger son was named Yang Xiangtai.
Seeing these two children, Yang Xiaoping and his family couldn't help but be overjoyed.
The sudden bad news was like a bolt from the blue, Xiangyi had symptoms of dyspnea since birth, and after diagnosis, he was diagnosed with esophageal atresia, which was 10 cm long.
This is undoubtedly extremely serious for a baby, and if it is not handled properly, he can die at any time. Therefore, Xiangyi was rushed to the intensive care unit, and his mother Qiu Juan had to leave before she could take a look.
To make matters worse, although he did not have any major illnesses, he was underweight and frail, and he needed to be sent to an incubator for care. In the ward, Yang Xiaoping and Qiu Juan were anxious, knowing that since the birth of the child, the family has spent more than 30,000 yuan.
During this period, Qiu Juan also quit her job, and the whole family relied on Yang Xiaoping's income alone. Originally, they planned to wait for the birth of the child, Qiu Juan returned to work to share some family burdens, but no one expected that the child's health would have problems.
As a result, the burden on the couple's shoulders suddenly increased, and the family atmosphere was extremely solemn on this day that should have been celebrated.
Faced with high medical bills, the in-laws refused to pay. In desperation, Xiangyi was forced to stay in the intensive care unit for a long time. Finally, on December 26, 2018, the hospital decided to operate on him.
However, due to the young age of Xiangyi, its **, muscles, and blood vessels are extremely fragile, and the difficulty and time of the operation are quite large. At nine o'clock in the morning, Xiangyi entered the operating room and was not pushed out until four o'clock in the afternoon.
In the corridor outside the operating room, Qiu Juan sometimes squatted on the ground and cried bitterly, sometimes staring at the ceiling in a daze, while Yang Xiaoping constantly comforted her, but none of them seemed to ease her anxiety.
Fortunately, surgery successfully repaired Xiangyi's esophagus. However, Xiangyi was in the intensive care unit for a long time and was in very bad physical condition, so the postoperative risk period lasted for more than 20 days.
It wasn't until January 18, 2019 that the anxious Qiu Juan saw her son for the first time. At that time, Xiangyi pulled out the breathing tube for the first time, and the weight was less than seven catties, and Qiu Juan had already burst into tears when he held the child in his arms.
Xiangyi spent up to seven months in the intensive care unit, relying only on glucose and albumin every day to sustain his life, but unable to drink a sip of breast milk. During this period, he was in danger of life, with sepsis, pneumonia and high fever hanging his life several times.
Seeing that the child's condition had not improved, Qiu Juan and Yang Xiaoping were so anxious that they decided to transfer him to another hospital**. However, when they went to go through the discharge procedures, they were told that they had already owed 470,000 yuan in medical bills, which was undoubtedly astronomical for them.
Although they have exhausted all their savings, Qiu Juan's parents are farmers who are responsible farmers, and they can't come up with so much money for a while.
Although Yang Xiaoping's family is well-off, Qiu Juan decided to seek help from her in-laws, hoping to transfer the child to the hospital as soon as possible**. However, when she dialed Yang Xiaoping's **, she got a cold response.
Qiu Juan's mother-in-law said that the hospital had issued a critical illness notice, so it was better to give up**, so as not to drag down the whole family. She also said that although the family can afford this expense for the time being, it will only be a bottomless pit, so it is better to leave the money for a healthy son.
Hearing the word "waste", Qiu Juan's heart hurt like being stabbed with a sharp knife. The little hope that had just ignited in her heart was dashed in an instant, but she still resolutely stated that she would not give up on her son's **, and no matter what the cost, she would save him.
Qiu Juan's ultimatum to her husband Yang Xiaoping, helplessly asked relatives and friends to take out an online loan of 100,000 yuan. The hospital understood his predicament and only asked him to pay an IOU and agree to be discharged from the hospital. Qiu Juan's seven-month-old daughter, Xiangyi, returned home for the first time when she suddenly had a high fever that night and returned to the hospital the next day**.
Xiangyi's condition is getting worse, and doctors have diagnosed that only more risky and complex surgeries can be saved. However, because the cost of the previous operation had not yet been settled, this decision made Yang Xiaoping's father very opposed, and he even proposed to transfer Xiangyi to the general ward, thinking that he would face his fate by himself.
Qiu Juan understood that her father-in-law's words were like forcing her son to die, and she resolutely disagreed. However, looking at the emaciated child with the esophagus and trachea inserted, she felt a lot of pain in her heart, and she did not want to let the child suffer anymore, nor did she want to live alone.
At one point, she even had the idea of dying with her child. However, she loves Xiangyi deeply, and she is willing to do her best to fight for the life of her children, no matter how difficult the road ahead is.
However, at this moment, the thin Xiao Xiangyi suddenly waved his arms, as if to wipe away his mother's tears. Seeing this scene, Qiu Juan immediately gave up her original plan, and she decided, "No matter what, you have to fight for the child."
At this time, a charity platform noticed the situation of Qiu Juan's family, and after confirming that it was correct, they published the child's condition on the Internet, which immediately attracted the attention of netizens.
Immediately afterwards, everyone donated money to help each other, and raised 400,000 yuan for Xiangyi in less than half a month. On July 8, 2019, with this donation, Qiu Juan and her children came to Xinhua Hospital affiliated to Shanghai Jiao Tong University.
The hospital is very concerned about Xiangyi's condition, and they do not hesitate to arrange top experts for him. However, the situation is more serious than expected, the bronchial tubes have been severely flattened, breathing is very difficult, and there is a risk of asphyxia and deoxygenation at any time.
To make matters worse, the hospital found that the child's stomach had pressed into the chest cavity and needed to be re-operated again. This means that Qiu Juan's efforts and the child's persistence have been in vain, and the road to survival needs to start again.
However, due to bronchial stenosis, anesthesia could not be administered, and the hospital was ultimately unable to provide surgery for Xiangyi. Despite this, the director of the pediatric department at Xinhua Hospital left a glimmer of hope for Qiu Juan, and he suggested that Xiangyi be transferred to Shandong Qilu Children's Hospital for bronchial stent installation.
Only when this problem is solved, the follow-up ** will be possible.
Qiu Juan grasped the last glimmer of hope, and on September 27, she took her child from Shanghai to Shandong to receive ** from Qilu Children's Hospital. However, at around 16 o'clock in the afternoon, Xiangyi had a sudden situation in the ambulance and failed to save his life, so he had no choice but to leave this world and was cremated a few days later.
Considering the growth of the twin brother, Xiangyi's ashes cannot be buried in the ancestral grave, so the scene we started with appeared. Qiu Juan sprinkled the last footprints of Xiangyi and sent it into the Pearl River to complete this last farewell.
However, after doing all this, she seemed to have lost her soul, and collapsed to the ground weakly, unable to get up for a long time.
Grief-stricken, Qiu Juan went through a lot of hardships, but her son's life came to an end in just one year. This tragedy is not simply a matter of law and morality, and there is much to ponder behind it.
One of the key factors in the tragedy was Qiu Juan's in-laws' in-laws, who were not only morally corrupt, but may even have violated the law. According to the Criminal Law of the People's Republic of China, if an adult who is young, sick or otherwise unable to live independently refuses to support him, he or she may face five years in prison, criminal detention or public surveillance.
This means that if a parent is able to pay but refuses to pay child support or does not give it to the child**, it is abuse and abandonment.
Abandonment and intentional homicide are both serious offenses that can lead to the death of a child. For example, Yang Xiaoping's family's actions have been implicated in these crimes. Although they are not wealthy, they are reported to have enough financial resources to pay for the medical expenses of Xiangyi.
However, they chose to give up and let Xiang Yi die. If it weren't for Qiu Juan's insistence, their actions would have violated the law and faced severe punishment. Fortunately, with the help of caring people from all walks of life, Xiangyi got **.
Although he may unfortunately pass away in the end, the family and the hospital have done their best, and we can only accept this outcome.
Some netizens questioned it, they felt that the disease of Xiangyi was very rare, and the risk and survival rate of surgery were very low. If his illness affects the future of the entire family, will it be a bit more than worth the loss?
But can the family affection that blood is thicker than water make us give up calculating the gains and losses of interests? Everyone has a different answer in mind. Perhaps, Qiu Juan will "save the child at all costs", that is the most instinctive reaction of a great mother.
More than two years ago, Xiangyi left us, and Qiu Juan gradually returned to her daily life, shifting the focus of her life to work and the care of her youngest son. Whenever Xiangyi's name is mentioned, her eyes will always lose their luster for a short time, and the past will also emerge in her heart.
For Qiu Juan, the pain of losing her son may stay with her for the rest of her life, but at the same time, she acknowledges that the care and encouragement of strangers online brought her a lot of comfort during that difficult time.
The unsatisfactory things in life are ** out of ten" Since 2019, this sentence has become a word on her lips. I hope she can get out of the haze as soon as possible and live a happier and more satisfying life.