Enhance the "four consciousness", strengthen the "four self-confidence", and achieve "two maintenance".
When everyone is born, the first thing they see is their mother, and the first thing they receive is also from their mother's education.
As people grew up, some became politicians, businessmen, scientists, engineers; And some people have become homeless, drug addicts, ** madmen, murderers...
Mothers are very important to their children's education, and the brilliance of maternal love makes mothers the chief designers of the formation of children's psychology, character and thoughts. There are even educators who have said:"A loving mother is better than a dozen special teachers".
**Words and deeds are still the subject of research by scholars from all over the world, ** can come out of a small mountain village in Hunan and become a great man of the Chinese nation, who is his enlightenment teacher, who is his guide?
Parents are the best teachers in a child's life, looking back at history from today's perspective, it is not difficult for us to find that the first loving mother is the main person who really affects his life's growth.
**'s mother's surname is Wen, ranking seventh among sisters of the same race, known as Wen Qimei. As an ordinary rural woman, Wen Qimei has been silently running housework and raising children all her life. She treats people well, is simple and kind, and never beats and scolds him.
For the young ***, his mother gave him humility and gentleness, which laid an important foundation for his future achievements. For mothers, ** is very respectful.
** once said in a letter to his classmate Zou Yunzhen: ".There are three kinds of people in the world, those who harm others and benefit themselves, those who benefit themselves without harming others, and those who can harm themselves to benefit others, and the mother belongs to the third type of people.
**When recalling the past, he once humorously said: "My family is divided into two parties, ** is my father, who is the ruling party; The opposition party consisted of me, my mother, my younger brother, and sometimes even hired workers. ”
**There is a cousin whose life is very difficult, and his father Mao Yichang wants to "take advantage of the danger" to buy his paddy field, which is resolutely opposed by his mother, and she often takes *** to help this poor relative.
The mother's virtues have a deep influence on ***, and they are touched by his ears and eyes, and they silently infiltrate his young heart, making *** extremely sympathetic to the weak since he was a child, and like his mother, he often helps others and becomes a great man of a generation.
Xiao Wu is both talented and good-looking, and the conditions are very good in all aspects. But those who are inferior to her in all aspects are better off than her.
At the age of 30, through a lot of reflection and study, she found the answer.
The reason is herInability to control your emotions and insecurity。When you are in love, you lose each other because of gains and losses; When working, he offended the leader because of his bad temper; In life, I lost my friends because of my glass heart.
Why is she like this? Because she has a grumpy, anxious, fragile mother.
When she was very young, her mother left her in the care of someone else because of her work. Mother will also tell Xiao Wu at any time that she doesn't want her.
During that time, there were also problems in the relationship between the parents. Dad is busy with work, and she and Mom are often the only ones at home. When her mother wanted Xiao Wu to be quiet, she would lock her in the bedroom and let her cry or beat her hard. The hard work of raising children made my mother feel very bad, and every time my father came home, she would complain.
My mother was always sighing and depressed. When she was younger, she had been trying to get her mother to notice her, but no matter what she did, it was useless. She tried to be perfect in everything, went to the best university to study, entered the first-class unit to work, and was appreciated by many people, but it still didn't make her happy.
After all her efforts failed, she and her mother became increasingly estranged. Until she left home and lived alone.
Later, she realized that her mother had always influenced herIt took her almost twenty years to overcome her character flaws
Although she has achieved a lot of success in other aspects, this huge shortcoming has seriously hindered her development. When he was an adolescent, others were only depressed occasionally, but Xiao Wu often cried sadly and suffered from insomnia.
Studies have found that the sooner people are able to identify and control their emotions, the easier it is to succeed and achieve happiness.
Someone once asked the CEO of a company, "What kind of employees do you like to hire the most?" The boss's answer was: "Emotionally stable".
Through the above two stories, let's understand,A good family and an emotionally peaceful mother are essential for a child's development
It is said that a good mother is better than a good teacher, in fact, a good mother is these three words:
01 "Quiet".
Many mothers have sharp eyes and can see their children's problems at a glance, often pointing out and repeatedly reinforcing them, and even saying that their children are not good in front of many people.
Actually,Mothers should not panic when they see their children's shortcomingsWhy? Because the child needs the mother to be nurtured and protected with good emotions, only when the mother sees the child's shortcomings and does not show it, can the child be given the inner growth motivation.
The mother is emotionally unstable, and the whole family suffers, and the child lives in the mother's boat, and the slightest movement will have an impact on the child.
Mothers who control their emotions are the best way to nurture their children.
02 "Weak".
Mothers should learn to show "weakness" in front of their children.
It is difficult for a child raised by a strong mother to be confidentYour child's self-confidence will weaken little by little in your state. A mother who can show weakness in front of her child will inevitably be confident and strong in her child's heart.
Learn to show weakness in front of the child, that is, to realize the child's support, the mother who has the upper hand in the child everywhere, the child only has the upper hand, and finally is willing to stand down, without a little competition, and there is no motivation, and the extreme will pursue rebelliousness and destructiveness to complete the deformation and growth of the self.
03 "Compassion".
A mother's true strength is her kindness.
Because of the harmony and harmony of women in the family, people feel the tolerance and acceptance of the sea, and the magnificence cannot be stirred, which is the broad world for children to grow up.
Such a mother figure is the rule, and words are the direction.
On the contrary, the mother who points fingers in front of the child, either shouting or nagging with a face, will make the child slowly feel that no part of the world is comfortable, the child will lose the direction of his heart, and the mother will not have any ability to guide and become more crazy.
Sima Guang said: "Mothers do not suffer from unkindness, but suffer from love and ignorance." ”
Psychology tells us: "Children's problems are mainly emotional problems, poor learning is due to negative emotional distress, parents' inner anxiety and impetuousness, more terrible than children's grades." ”
Only when children have peace of mind can they absorb, precipitate, think rationally, have foresight, insight, discover, create, and be truly excellent!
As a mother, remember that being able to control your emotions is the best education for your child.
*:Family.