The son of my cousin's family, 93 years old, is one year old Chinese New Year's Eve today, and he was admitted to a three-book university in 2012. After graduating from university in 2016, I always wanted to go abroad"Gold plating", always feel outside"Moon"Particularly round, every day"Roar, roar, roar"asked his cousin to send him to study abroad, but his cousin and cousin-in-law had no choice but to comply.
In fact, her son's English has not been very good, and in order to study abroad, he also paid a private teacher to tutor English for a year, and then TOEFL. After arriving in the UK, I did another year of language internship.
I finally finished studying in the UK for two and a half years and returned to China in 2021. His major is also okay - computer science. However, after he returned to China, he was bent on getting a high salary and handing out resumes everywhere on the Internet, but he always felt that this company was not good, and that company was not good. Either because of the high pressure of work and long working hours, or because of the low salary and poor housing conditions, I rarely went to the interview, so I refused directly.
Yesterday at noon, my cousin invited us to her house for dinner, and I couldn't help but sigh. Since her son came back, he has not gone out to work, basically locking himself in his room, leaving the door except for three meals a day, and rarely communicating with his cousin. The room was even more cluttered. My cousin estimates that he plays games online every day, and occasionally does some private work for others online, such as editing and so on. Sometimes I don't sleep in the middle of the night, but I fall asleep during the day. This state has affected her son's entire life and basic life.
Since returning from studying abroad, four years have passed, and he still hasn't gone out to work for a day. My cousin and my cousin-in-law are so anxious! Not to mention how big. The cousin also persuaded her son many times to go out to work and integrate into society. What her son means is that he must find a job that pays well and is easy and decent before he goes to work. In fact, my cousin's family is also an ordinary migrant worker, and the economic conditions are not particularly well-off. Faced with such a situation, we can't help it, so we can only persuade her son to lower his requirements first and find a job, and then slowly get promoted and raised.
It is estimated that our persuasion is still useless, and the bell still needs to be tied to the bell!
In today's competitive workplace, there is no such thing"A job that pays well and is easy and decent"Waiting for you!
Everyone has reasons why they don't want to work, but you have to think clearly, you are still very young, if you don't take advantage of your young age to go out to work, let yourself have a skill, have a little savings, then you will be 50, 60, 70 years old, you will live a more tired, more difficult, even more miserable life.
People live in society, and social collectives are very important for people's survival and development! Human beings are social animals, and we need to live in society in order to be satisfied and grow. It is only through integration into society that resources, experience and knowledge can be acquired. This kind of non-integration into society and non-interaction with others is actually self-isolation.
People, it's not that you change when you're excellent, but that you have to choose to change before you become excellent.