Time flies, and the Lunar New Year is just a few days away. How much did you achieve the goals you set at the beginning of the year? Looking at yourself that has not changed much from before, have you fallen into self-doubt for a while? It's hard every day, but you still can't live the life you want, you can't realize your ideals, and you just repeat the same day 365 times?
When you want to avoid strong inner conflicts and continuous mental internal friction, when you are stuck in difficulties and troubles and want to seek a breakthrough, you might as well read the book "Mental Awakening" by Mr. Effie.
This book uses real cases and easy-to-understand language to explain in simple terms how to break through the situation and live the life you want through the upgrading of mental models from the three dimensions of height, width and length.
OneHeight: Beyond human nature
Eliminate the two major obstacles, and travel lightly from now on
A sense of scarcity of money
The real cause of inner pain for many people is because they are blind to what they already have. When you earn 1,000 a month, you think about being able to earn 10,000 a month, and when you earn 10,000 a month, you think about being able to earn 100,000 a month, and when you earn 100,000 a month, you want to be able to earn a million a month.
No matter how much money we make, we still feel insecure, unsatisfied, and even want more.
Effie believes that people's sense of lack of money is not due to a real lack of money, it is just a feeling of insatiability.
If we want to move from a life dominated by "self-preservation" to a life dominated by "self-realization", what we need to do is to retain the satisfaction of normal needs, and at the same time remain alert to desires that exceed normal needs, and not be led by the "nose" by it.
Jonah complex
The Jonah plot is a defense, and it represents the fear of one's own excellence, or the escape of one's own superior destiny.
The author believes that it is possible for everyone to perform better than their real-life selves, but more people choose to "escape" their talents and potential, fearing to become a better version of themselves.
When you find yourself having a "Jonah episode," try to ask yourself, "Am I not going to have a better life?" ”
We need to believe that we have the possibility to achieve greater potential, and let this possibility become a reality, and live up to this precious and short life.
IIBreadth: Break free from bondage
How to break the game
Nowadays, many parents are heartbroken about their children's studies and continue to worry about whether their children can be admitted to good schools. In order for their children to be admitted to a good university and find a good job in the future, they have entered a protracted involution and constantly urged their children to study hard.
This will not only make parents physically and mentally exhausted, but also make children lose their curiosity about learning, reduce self-confidence, and more seriously, cause psychological problems.
The reason is that parents regard higher education as a limited game, constantly playing within the boundary, thinking that this game has only two endings: winning and losing.
Effie believes that there is another kind of game in this world, and its participants do not aim to win or lose, but actively continue all kinds of infinite games and extend the time to a lifetime.
When a person can't find the meaning of learning, when he is admitted to the target university, it also means the end of the limited game, there is no direction, and he is confused and confused.
If a person chooses to participate in the established finite game with an infinite game mindset and spend his life to achieve his life goals, he will reduce a lot of anxiety.
Eliminate space-time boundaries
When you extend the years of your child's study to your child's whole life, you will find that even if they are not admitted to a good university, as long as they are willing to learn and grow, they will have more opportunities to grow themselves, improve their academic qualifications, improve their abilities, and make achievements in the future.
A game-changer
If we do not aim to win and get good grades to enter a good university, but to satisfy our child's curiosity and curiosity, improve his independent thinking ability, and be physically and mentally healthy and happy, we are also using infinite game thinking to make ourselves happy.
IIILength: Get out of anxiety and uneasiness
Long-termism: Deeply rooted in order to flourish
If a person wants to do a lot of things at the same time and wants to get results quickly, then he must be anxious, and no matter what he wants to do, it is difficult to do it well. We understand it as an "infinite loop", which the authors call an "enhancement loop".
As can be seen from the above diagram, the more eager we are for results, the more we are eager for quick success and lack of patience, and such a mentality will only make us farther and farther away from success.
On the contrary, if we can be patient enough, we will be much more efficient and more likely to achieve our goals.
In today's fast-paced era, too many people are looking for "instant gratification", and people with a "long-term" mindset are even more important.
When you have a goal in life, don't rush to achieve it, define "long-term", such as 5-7 years, or longer, or even a lifetime. At this time, you won't be so anxious.
As Effie said, a long-termist mindset can help us avoid the "infinite death loop" of rushing for success and quick success, and can also get us closer and closer to self-growth, professional improvement and career success.
Only by jumping out of the current environment and pattern and coming to a higher, wider, and farther place can we obtain a higher-dimensional solution and completely solve the various problems that plague us at the moment.
And this is the process of mental awakening.
Only by awakening the mind, improving, expanding, and extending the dimension of the mind can we break the game and live what we want.
of life.