You are not marrying a man, you are marrying the family behind him (disdainful when he was young), the most important person is his mother who raised him with hard work and suffering**, and must be filial and obedient to thousands of rewards for the rest of his life. Before marriage, I still think about when you marry (you think that marriage is equal, mother-in-law, they will still think that they are going to marry you into the door), bow your head and marry your daughter-in-law, and if you feel that something is wrong at this time, you will run away. After marriage, you are an outsider and it is their family's private property. (It's not what you think, it's what they think). The days will only get harder, they will only be more unscrupulous.
Relatives and friends after marriage: Most of your relatives and friends will give you some pity and sympathy, intentionally or unintentionally, and some will even laugh at you behind your back. (You live in an unrenovated house, have a minimum wedding ceremony, and wear the most shabby jewelry).
Husband: The phoenix man who came out of the ravine, was offered by his parents to go to college in that poor environment, and he was infinitely grateful to his parents. The point is out, people are really not here to bring you children, but to live in the city. When a toilet doesn't know how to press, a range hood doesn't know how to use, and a trembling and pitiful image that is not suitable for city life appears at his son's house. When the mother-in-law doesn't close the kitchen door for stir-frying, and the daughter-in-law goes to close the door, the husband will also quarrel with you and say that you look down on my mother. Yes, the mother who entered the city for the first time with a bitter mother, the mother who was afraid of being looked down upon, and the daughter-in-law who gave birth to a child and lay there all day at this time, must protect my great mother, protect my mother. My mother didn't enjoy the blessings of city life when she was born, and my mother had to help my mother when she went to the city for the first time, so that she could not be wronged and looked down upon.
Mother-in-law: Oh, my eldest son has a ** education, and he gets a lot of money a month, but I have never seen so much money in my life. I'm finally able to live a city life. (Hey, I can't write anymore, and on this beautiful morning, sadness makes my mind go blank.) ）
When I bought a house before marriage, my mother-in-law told my son: I can't write my daughter-in-law's name, otherwise the money will be swept away. (It would have been nice to separate then). After giving birth to two children, she also told her son: You can't put the excess money in the passbook in her name, and one day she will run away with the money. You think you're considerate and understanding of his family, and they're trying to guard against you everywhere.
You have two children in your belly, and cook a pot of rice porridge for you to eat every morning. In the evening, you said that it was just a stir-fried greens, and she whispered that you still have a few more dishes. You are breastfeeding in confinement and ask your husband to buy a chicken, she said that your daughter-in-law is the most picky, and she eats more than you when she buys the chicken.
You are stupid and think about your mother-in-law's family in everything after marriage, but you are jointly suppressed by your husband and mother-in-law, and divorce from your husband and wife in a cold war (if it weren't for the small children and limited help from your mother's family, otherwise you would have been divorced 800 times). It was so painful that I wanted to jump off the building with my child countless times. Quarrels accompany the child's entire growth. It wasn't until the child was older that I took the child out of that environment and stayed outside for a year. It took a year to heal myself. From the trough and low self-esteem of being abandoned by the world at the beginning, to slowly knowing how to draw boundaries and fight for their rights.
How is a daughter-in-law made? Thinking of "Mother-in-law is Coming", she killed and ate the pet goose you have raised for many years, she can't see her crossing the line, she can't feel your sadness. She thinks that the goose is killed and eaten, so she will kill and eat it for you. She wants to arrange your life to control your family's money, that is her son's family, you are just her daughter-in-law, you have to have her to call the shots, you have to resist, she is in front of her son every day, moral kidnapping, crying, wiping tears, can't live anymore, being looked down on is everything, I can't stay anymore, etc., your family is starting to be restless. The TV series is a happy ending, but it's a pity that the kind of mother-in-law who has suffered so hard in her life is both ruthless and jealous, and giving birth to a child is probably the beginning of the disaster. You think that your understanding of their lives is a signal for them to further conquer the city.
Kind girls, if you can, don't choose a boy who is much worse than you in all aspects of the family with many problems in the economic situation. Don't just think it's okay to be poor, just be nice to me.
Before marriage, you can walk, jump, earn money, and live independently before marriage, which is the icing on the cake, he is the easiest thing to do, he doesn't necessarily like you much, and it may be that he is not able to bear the cost of falling in love because he is poor.
When you get married, you encounter money things, you encounter fucking things, those trivialities can make you die again and again. The tragedy begins when you lie there after giving birth and need to be taken care of, and you need his mother to help you.
Or if the girls really meet such a person and family, then stick to their own boundaries and put away the pity and kindness that are cheap and kill themselves. The farther away the better, don't try to get your mother-in-law to come, you can only try to despair and worthlessness and lowliness in the eyes of your husband and mother-in-law.
There is some evil in this world that is nurtured by your own kindness.
Some people may say that it is better to get a divorce. When you have two children, you can only take one away after a divorce, and you will be crazy if you leave two children that you have brought up by yourself. Then I had to stay in the marriage for a while in disgust.
What's even more terrifying is that a few years later, when your child is older, she is getting older, and you stupidly forgive those who have passed the past and look forward, and your kindness has become a sword that she inserts into your family. History began to repeat itself in another form of kidnapping. Pulls you into the abyss.
I haven't had time to watch "Hot and Hot", and the reviews seem to be talking about women's independence and self-awakening. If I have two apples, facing my husband, mother-in-law, and children, or friends, I will give the big one or the small one. The answer is: "It depends." "— to the big one. Give the small. Both give. None will be given. Cut it open and taste it, and if it's delicious, eat it together, or throw it away if it's not delicious. Cut it open and taste it, if it is delicious, you can eat it all, and if it is not delicious, you will take it by yourself......At least all 6 of these are OK. I especially understand the line that Le Ying repeated at the dinner table and after the game: "Look at the mood".
No longer kidnapped by morality, the right to authoritative evaluation is firmly grasped in their own hands, and no one is given.
I like to see women's determined and resolute eyes in the female director's **, which is the appearance of the master of the world and the look that a person should have, regardless of gender.