When the sweetness of love meets the trivialities of life, financial management in marriage is like a "power game" without gunpowder.
Who will take care of the family's money? How?
This is not a simple multiple-choice question, and it is not just an economic issue.
It is more like a mirror, reflecting the trust, understanding and tacit understanding between husband and wife.
In this "game", there are no absolute losers and winners, only couples who know how to cooperate and communicate can have the last laugh.
Are you ready for this challenging and fun "family financial adventure"? See what level of competitors you and your partner are in this adventure?
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Third-class couples: their wallets are in charge, and their hearts are difficult to connect
Some modern families choose to be financially independent, and they feel that "love is not a consolidated statement, but a wonderful thing".
Financial separation does not mean emotional alienation, but can add a sense of comfort and calmness to love.
If you have money in your hands, you don't panic in your heart, you can manage your money, and your love is more fragrant. "Without the entanglement of money, husband and wife can focus on each other's emotional communication and spiritual resonance.
But there are also people who look at it from the opposite side, the finances are not transparent, and the marriage is prone to change. Managing each other's money and spending it separately may be freedom, but it can also be a prelude to alienation.
In marriage, money is like a two-way mirror, which can not only reflect each other's trust and dependence, but also reflect indifference and distance.
The wallet is in charge, and it is difficult to connect with each other. "When financial independence becomes an excuse for emotional estrangement, the warmth and tacit understanding between husband and wife may be quietly lost.
Separate financial planning may seem to protect personal freedom, but it may also invisibly build a wall of hearts and make the two drift apart.
Your money, your business; My money, my worries. "When couples are not financially transparent, it may be difficult to form a united front at a critical moment. When faced with life's major challenges, couples who are fighting each other can fall apart because of a dispute over money.
In the TV series "Chinese-Style Divorce", Song Jianping is a senior surgeon who is busy with work on weekdays, often needing to work overtime and deal with sudden surgeries. He earns a lot of money, but he also has a lot of pressure.
Lin Xiaofeng, who used to be a middle school teacher, chose to resign and become a full-time wife in order to take care of his family and children.
In the early years of their marriage, the two did not explicitly discuss financial matters. However, as time passed, Lin Xiaofeng began to become interested and suspicious of Song Jianping's income.
She heard that Song Jianping's income was very high, but it was not clear how much. She began to wonder if Song Jianping had something to hide, and this suspicion gradually evolved into distrust and quarrel with Song Jianping.
By chance, Lin Xiaofeng found a bank statement from Song Jianping, and the numbers on it were far beyond her imagination. She was shocked and angry, believing that Song Jianping had been cheating on her. And Song Jianping felt innocent and aggrieved, he thought that he had been paying for his family and had never thought of deceiving Lin Xiaofeng.
This incident became the fuse for the breakdown of the relationship between the two. Lin Xiaofeng began to put financial pressure on Song Jianping, demanding that he hand over more money. Song Jianping, on the other hand, felt misunderstood and oppressed, and the relationship between the two gradually deteriorated, eventually leading to the breakdown of the marriage.
Third-class couples, each in charge of money. Although this gives both spouses financial freedom, it also weakens the strength of the marriage to a certain extent.
For a marriage to be long-lasting, it is necessary for both spouses to reach a consensus and form a synergy emotionally, psychologically and financially. Because a real happy marriage is not a cold parallel of each managing money, but a warm journey of holding hands and being in the same boat through thick and thin.
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Second-class couples: talk about money generously and manage money together
Life is not only about poetry and distance, but also about the bills in front of you and the money in your wallet.
The two of them live a life, bypassing money, and they can't shy away from talking about money.
Smart couples, talking about money is like dancing a waltz, not only will not step on each other's feet, but can enhance the relationship in the dance steps.
Managing money together is not to make couples become "misers", but to let them learn how to allocate the best balance in limited resources.
Good couples manage money together, not because they both love to count money, but because they understand that common financial planning means common dreams, and they need to work together.
They understand that managing money together is not a simple "1+1=2", but the wisdom of "1+1>2"; Through their shared financial planning, they have achieved a win-win situation for both families and relationships.
Talking about money doesn't have to be cheesy, talking about money with you is the highest level of romance.
The key to talking about money between husband and wife is how to communicate and deal with it. Here are some good ways for couples to talk about money openly and manage money together.
1.Create a family budget together:
Couples sit down together to discuss and create a family budget. In this process, both parties can express their ideas and needs and jointly decide on the priority of household expenses.
2.Transparent sharing of income and expenses:
Be transparent about how you share your income and expenses. Doing so can eliminate suspicions and misunderstandings, and let the other person know about their financial situation, so that they can better plan their family finances.
3.Set up a joint account:
Couples can set up a joint account to cover household expenses and joint investments. Doing so can enhance the couple's financial ties and sense of responsibility, while reducing conflicts due to personal consumption.
In short, the key to good communication, mutual respect and understanding is the key to good communication, mutual respect and understanding.
It is in line with the saying: not all love has to be the right match, but at least you must be able to count the money happily together.
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First-class couples: don't care who cares about the money
The Book of Rites says: "Father and son, brotherhood, husband and wife, and the fat of the family." ”
The love and beauty between husband and wife, and the love and beauty of each other, the family is one heart, the wealth will roll in, and the family business can prosper.
Uncle Li and Aunt Wang are a loving couple who run a small restaurant together, and they have been married for more than ten years, and they are still deeply in love.
Mr. Li is the soul of the kitchen, and the stir-fry spoon in his hand can always conjure up mouth-watering delicacies; Ms. Wang, on the other hand, is the face of the restaurant, and her smile and warm service always keep customers moving.
Husband and wife are of the same heart, and their profits are broken. "In the operation of the restaurant, Mr. Li and Ms. Wang have always maintained the same goals and pace. The heart thinks in one place, and the strength is in one place.
Their harmony creates a warm atmosphere for the restaurant and also attracts more and more customers.
Customers often say, "Come here to eat, not only for the food, but also to feel the warmth of home." ”
The restaurant's reputation is getting bigger and bigger, and business is booming. Today, their restaurant has grown into a well-known local food brand.
Uncle Li and Aunt Wang told their children with practical actions:Money is like water, and family and harmony are gathered.
Husband and wife are harmonious, the two support each other, and there is a discussion, such a family environment is like a fertile soil, and anything can thrive.
Money is like water, and naturally it flows into such a home. How can such a family not be "fat"?
*: Visual China.
Write at the end
In the long river of life, third-class couples are like two parallel lines, each counting their own gold coins, and the distance between their hearts is gradually moving away in the touch of their fingertips.
Second-class couples are like a pair of dancers working together, saving money together to build a solid foundation for their future dreams.
And what about first-class couples? They are not only an economic community, but also an emotional blend and soul mate.
third-class couples, each counting money, has nothing to do with each other;
second-class couples, save money together, and move forward hand in hand;
First-class husband and wife, the heart is connected, there is no need to talk about money, and they are rich because of love.
Money is important, but even more important is the person with whom you count it. This is the true meaning of marriage, this is the highest state of husband and wife.
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