"I'm at home every day, eating, drinking, sleeping, reading books, and watching TV! ”
"Life is short for 180 years, who is longer than whom, I see life thoroughly! ”
It is hard to imagine that such a decadent word could come from the mouth of a man in the prime of life.
Xiao Li, 38 years old this year, should have started a family and had a successful career.
Now he is "gnawing at the old" in his hometown, relying on his parents to help him eat, drink, and Lazar, and he is unkempt all day long, and his image is "sloppy".
Such a person will be looked down upon by anyone, but Xiao Li gnawed at ease and did not think that he was wrong.
What happened to him in his life that he chose to lie down at home at the age of his prime?
What kind of accident made him lose the courage to live?
All this starts with his two love histories.
Xiao Li was born in a farmhouse in Zhuozhou, Hebei Province, and his parents were authentic farmers.
Although the family is not wealthy, Xiao Li is the only son in the family, and he has been pampered since he was a child, and he has no worries about food and clothing.
He was not a child since he was a child, and his academic performance was very poor, so he dropped out of school and stayed at home before he finished primary school.
Because he was young, he couldn't go out to work, and his parents didn't force him to go to school, so he lived a life where he stretched out his hands with clothes and food.
It was also the experience of this period of time that laid the groundwork for Xiao Li's fall later.
After becoming an adult, Xiao Li came to Beijing alone.
Although he has no education, he is willing to endure hardships, and with his strength, he can earn about 5,000 yuan a month.
You know, it was around 2000, and such a high income can be said to be rare in the whole country.
Seeing that their son had reached marriageable age, the parents thought that their son would quit his job and go home and tell him about his family.
From the point of view of Xiao Li's parents, it can be seen that they are typical of small peasant thinking.
No matter how good he is, he has to make way for the succession of the lineage, but he doesn't know that this kind of thinking will eventually harm his son's life.
Xiao Li respected his parents' opinions very much, so he resolutely resigned and went home to think about a family business.
At the beginning, the two sides got along quite happily, but for the three golds, bride price, and wedding ring, Xiao Li emptied all the savings of himself and his parents.
finally got engaged, but when they were drinking the engagement wine, the woman's parents suddenly opened their mouths and asked Xiao Li to pay another fee.
But at this time, Xiao Li was already penniless, how could he get another huge amount of money?
The woman's parents don't care about this, if Xiao Li can't take it out, even if the marriage is blown, the bride price given before will be given in vain.
Xiao Li realized that he had encountered a bride price fraud, and for a while, his anger rushed to his brain, and he lost his mind.
He picked up a sharp knife on the table, rushed behind the woman's mother, and stabbed him several times in the back.
After that, he was twisted and sent to the police station, but fortunately, the wound was not deep, and under reconciliation, Xiao Li only spent a few months in prison.
Although it was not a long time, he left a record of the case, which made Xiao Li encounter a lot of trouble in finding a job in the future.
After being released from prison, Xiao Li did not lose confidence in life, but returned to Beijing and began a part-time job journey.
Because of his familiarity with the Beijing environment and the introduction of acquaintances, Xiao Li soon found another job, and his monthly salary was still more than 5,000.
If Xiao Li can work in Beijing all the time, after a few years, it will be more than enough to be a foreman with his connections and ability.
It's a pity that life doesn't intend to let him go like this, just when Xiao Li was immersed in work, his parents came to the door again.
At this time, Xiao Li's career was successful, and his parents discussed, and then told Xiao Li about family affairs.
Because of the experience of the previous time, Xiao Li was very cautious this time, and finally agreed to be with the other party after confirming that the other party was not a marriage cheat.
Soon after falling in love, the two entered the palace of marriage.
At that time, Xiao Li was working in Beijing, his wife was working in Zhuozhou, and they had been separated for a long time, which made the newlyweds strangers.
Xiao Li's parents saw it in their eyes and were anxious in their hearts, if the two of them continue like this, when will I be able to hold my grandson?
So, they asked Xiao Li to quit his job in Beijing and return to Zhuozhou to develop, and the husband and wife lived together and took care of each other.
Xiao Li listened to his parents' advice again, resolutely resigned, and returned to his hometown to find a job with a monthly salary of only 1,000 yuan.
Facts have proved that the vast majority of conflicts between husband and wife are caused by living in poverty.
Xiao Li's wife is a "Voldemort", and soon after getting married, his younger brother wanted to buy a piece of land in the village for development.
But he didn't have any money in his hand, so he asked his sister to borrow it, but his sister didn't have any money in her hand, so he started the idea of Xiao Li's car.
The wife wanted to sell the car and give the money to her brother to buy land, but Xiao Li did not agree.
This is what he bought when he got married, it is his heart's meat, the village itself is inconvenient, and he sold the car, how does he live?
But his wife didn't care about Xiao Li's life or death, and made up her mind that Xiao Li must sell the car.
The two quarreled, and finally evolved into a conflict between the two families, which ended with the divorce of Xiao Li and his wife.
After the divorce, Xiao Li went out of the house and gave the car to his wife, and in the end, his ex-wife still sold the car and gave the money to his younger brother.
Even though life is so harsh on Xiao Li, he still hasn't lost his expectations for the future at this time.
He is not a person who cares about love, let alone the marriage with his wife has only lasted 10 months, and there is no love at all.
Xiao Li returned to Beijing again and began to work to make money, he came to the construction site and began to move bricks.
He is shy and does not like to talk, so he is often bullied by his co-workers, but he doesn't care.
As long as he can make money, these pains are nothing to him.
But in the end, life still didn't let Xiao Li go.
After a few months of his work, the foreman suddenly fell ill with leukemia and died, and his salary became a confused account, completely inexplicable.
He embarked on a long journey to defend his rights, but the process was difficult, and at this time he had nothing but a wound that he had worked hard for.
Looking back on Xiao Li's life, how miserable it was, working hard for half a life, all the family property was cheated by two marriages.
He finally wants to start all over again, but life is so important to him, what is the meaning of his own efforts?
At this point, he realized that even if he was trying to face the future, the future would still not be able to treat me fairly.
Instead of making yourself tired, it is better to lie down completely, get by, although there is no interest, but at least you can make yourself comfortable.
Xiao Li, who wanted to "open", completely let go of himself, returned to his hometown in 2017, and lived a life like a "giant baby".
For three years, Xiao Li lived a life of stretching out his hands for food and opening his mouth.
For this reason, the parents are very painful and hope that their son will be able to go out more and find a job.
In order to cheer up their son, the parents also found a reporter mediator, hoping that the mediator could help their son open his heart.
Facing the camera, Xiao Li showed an unprecedented sense of decadence, no matter how the reporter persuaded him, he was indifferent.
"Your parents are so old, they can't support you for a lifetime, you don't work, how can you provide for them? ”
"My family also has a big house, if I find a developer and sell the house to pay back, it is enough for a family of three to eat and drink for the rest of their lives! ”
Faced with Xiao Li's statement, the mediator was directly laughed at and persuaded earnestly.
"You're thinking about selling your house now, where are you going to live if you sell it? ”
"Take 10,000 steps back and say, how much money can you make by selling a house in the countryside? What should I do when I finish spent, I should still go out and find a job. ”
Xiao Li thought for a while and said"Then dig a pond, get some fish fry, and plant some lotus roots, and the farmers will have to rely on the mountains to eat the mountains and the water to eat the water. ”
Hearing Xiao Li so whimsical, the mother on the side couldn't listen to it anymore and persuaded her.
"You put it lightly, do you know how to raise fish? Even if you want to raise it, you have to take action! ”
Hearing her mother say this, Xiao Li pursed her lips and spread her hands to the mediator.
"Look, there's a generation gap between us, and we can't communicate at all! ”
In fact, I can understand Xiao Li's thoughts, once upon a time, I was also in the same predicament as him.
I wanted to live a good life, but I was stung by the thorns of life and bruised all over my body, such a life, just living is painful enough.
In order not to let the tragedy repeat itself on himself, Xiao Li was willing to be an ostrich and let himself curl up, at least without bearing the pain of life.
In doing so, there is no doubt that you are escaping from life.
Then the question arises, is it really a mistake to run away from life? Personally, I don't think so.
If you work hard to make yourself miserable, "lying flat" may not be the best medicine for life.
Why try to make yourself miserable when you have a more relaxed, comfortable way of life, isn't that putting the cart before the horse?
After all, working hard is to allow yourself to enjoy life, not to live just to work hard.
Hard work without a purpose, without any meaning, what's the difference with a robot?
But even so, I still don't think Xiao Li is right.
"Lying flat" is okay, everyone has the right to choose their own way of life, others do not have the right to point fingers.
But the premise is that you have to "lie flat" and not cause trouble to others.
Xiao Li's "lying flat" is based on "gnawing the old" and is premised on the decline in the quality of life of his parents.
Why did they pay for Xiao Li's "lying flat"?
Therefore, it is okay to "lie flat" if you want to, as long as you have the ability to "lie flat" yourself, and lie down for as long as you want.
Obviously, Xiao Li does not have the qualifications to "lie flat" at this stage.
But this can't be blamed on Xiao Li, he once had a career plan and hopes to show his talents in Beijing in the future.
But all under the urging of their parents, they disappeared.
Therefore, Xiao Li's "lying flat" is somewhat vindictive.
"You made me do this, I did it, and now that I'm like this, are you satisfied? ”
seems to be Xiao Li Zhanli, but his actions are undoubtedly irresponsible to himself.
Even if you want to take revenge on your parents, there is no need to hitch a ride with the rest of your life.
Is it really comfortable to lie at home with nothing? I don't think so.
It's just a way to paralyze yourself and escape from life by "lying flat".
The "lying flat" that I understand personally is not not working, but not involution.
It doesn't matter if you do what you want to do and earn less, at least you can be relaxed and happy, and you can enjoy life well.
Therefore, if Xiao Li really wants to lie flat, at least find a job, it doesn't matter if he earns less, it is enough to support himself.
has been lying at home to "gnaw at the old", torturing his family at the same time, he is also torturing himself.
Instead of suffering, it is better to take a step forward and move forward again.
Even if you're curled up, you have to find a more comfortable position, don't you?