Sooner or later you're going to be beaten! If you want to get less hurt, you can practice! ”
On a street in Shaoshan City, Xiangtan City, Hunan Province, an ordinary-looking young man wearing white short-sleeved sleeves and black-rimmed glasses pointed at a middle-aged couple and scolded them, raising their hands and wanting to hit someone.
Unsuspecting passers-by must have thought that this was a contradiction and conflict between strangers. In fact, the young man shouted and scolded, and even almost did it, and the object was his biological parents. And he is thirty-six years old this year.
His name is Pan Jie, and he is a well-known local gnawing old man and "giant baby". At the age of thirty-six, he still has no family and has no family, and he relies on his youth and strength all day long, forcing his elderly parents to give him money for his fun.
The Pan family has already made a fuss because of this son, and all the relatives are reluctant to deal with them, for fear of causing trouble. Pan Jie's parents washed their faces with tears every day, and they didn't know how to make this son wake up.
In fact, Pan Jie, who is now unfilial and rude, used to be a good child who was praised by everyone, the pride in the eyes of teachers, the pearl in the palms of his parents, and the envy of his classmates. The reason why he became what he is today has a lot to do with his failed family education and his own experience.
In 1986, Pan Huang was born, bringing endless joy to the whole family. Pan Jie's parents have never had children, and Pan Jie's arrival is naturally a great joy, and his status in the family has been quietly determined.
Pan Jie's parents are both highly educated intellectuals, not only from a privileged family, but also well-known as a "scholarly family".
Pan Jie's father's name is Pan Zhuoyue, a teacher at a local middle school who is very popular among students. Her mother's name is Li Li, and she is a technician at a nearby factory.
Both of them have decent jobs, their incomes are not low, and their lives are good. In response to the family planning policy, after Pan Zhuo gave birth, Pan Zhuo and Li Li decided not to have children anymore and concentrate on raising Pan Jie
As the only son in the family, Pan Jie spent his childhood almost held in the palm of his hand.
Pan Zhuozhuo's daily teaching tasks are very heavy, teaching during the day and grading homework and correcting test papers at night, so he doesn't have much energy to focus on at home. Li Li is usually more relaxed, responsible for taking Pan Jie with her.
Although Pan Zhuozhuo loves his son very much, he has no time to accompany him, and second, he is not good at expressing himself, so he can only try his best to meet all his son's material requirements.
Pan Jie has not worried about food and clothing since he was a child, and the boxed lunches that other children bring to school are pickled radish and cabbage, but he is full of pork ribs and braised pork; Clothes are thrown away all year round, toys are thrown away when you are tired, and pocket money is also a lot.
Perhaps under the influence of his parents, although Pan Jie lives a good life, he is very polite, loves to learn, and has a bright brain. Pan Jie's grades in primary school have always been very good, he respects his teachers at school, mingles with his classmates, is well-behaved and diligent at home, and can help his mother with housework.
No one doubts that Pan Jie will be a good talent in the future.
But Pan Jie's life seems to be a little too good.
Pan Zhuo had no time to take care of the children, so Li Li simply rented a house next to the factory, let Pan Jie live there with him, and usually took Pan Jie to the factory to take care of him.
Pan Jie's mother cooks his meals every day, his mother's clothes are washed by his mother, and his mother and father make up for his studies, all of which makes Pan Jie feel that everyone should be towards him and help him.
His father's ignorance and his mother's excessive doting caused Pan Jie to gradually lose his ability to take care of himself on the way to growth. When he was about to enter junior high school, he could neither deal with people, nor did he know how to do laundry, and even making a bed was a difficult task.
In the days of the factory, Pan Jie waited for his mother to get off work and then took care of him, in addition to doing his homework by himself every day.
If his mother doesn't come back, he won't bother to eat even if the meal is ready and on the table, because he wants his mother to serve him the food.
When he was in elementary school, his mother was always by his side, and Pan Jie's personality defect had not yet manifested. It wasn't until he started junior high school that Pan Jie embarked on a giant baby road.
Pan Jie's junior high school is a boarding school, and his parents' work unit is far away from the school, so he can't come to accompany him, so Pan Jie can only go to school by himself.
On his first day at school, Pan Jie made a lot of jokes. He didn't dare to say hello when he saw his classmates, so he just sat silently on his bed, and was even more overwhelmed when his mother left.
At noon, the other students all went to the dormitory to eat together, but Pan Jie did not go to eat, because there was no concept of "canteen meal" in his cognition, and he had been sitting at the dining table and waiting for the past few years.
A hungry Pan Jie took out the snacks his mother brought him, but these things were okay to satisfy his cravings, no matter how full he was. In the middle of the afternoon, Pan Jie was hungry again, and he gritted his teeth and fell asleep.
When it was time for dinner, the roommates came in with porridge, steamed buns and vegetables, and Pan Jie couldn't control it anymore, he cried out loud and asked why no one brought him food.
In school, everyone is a classmate, and no one will get used to him. Some classmates kindly reminded him that he wanted to go to the cafeteria to eat, but Pan Jie refused to go to the cafeteria and insisted that someone come to bring him food, so everyone ridiculed him as a "noble student" and should go to a "noble school".
In the end, the helpless classmates told the teacher about the incident, and the teacher first helped Pan Jie get a meal to temporarily solve the stomach problem, and then prepared to talk to Pan Jie's parents and ask them to persuade Pan Jie.
But it was already late that day, and ** was not opened, so the teacher had to rest first. The next morning, Pan Jie cried again in the dormitory and asked someone to bring him breakfast. This completely angered the teacher, and while contacting Pan Jie's family, he ordered him to go and cook by himself.
In the end, Li Li came to the school and coaxed her in a good voice to teach Pan Jie how to cook. Although the problem was solved, Pan Jie was still famous in school, no one wanted to be friends with him, and he was laughed at when he went to **.
Pan Jie is also stubborn, unwilling to change his lifestyle, and only feels that these classmates are "full of malice". The only thing that makes Pan Jie happy is that his grades are still good, at the top of the class, so the teachers still have hope for him and try to change Pan Jie.
In the third year of junior high school, the study tasks become more intense, and everyone is racing against time to do questions and endorse, hoping to get into a good high school and lay a good foundation for themselves to go to college. Pan Jie is no exception, he has no friends, no hobbies, the only thing he can do is study.
But Pan Jie's biggest flaw is vulnerability. Mock exams in the third year of junior high school are very frequent, and even the best students are not sure that they will achieve good results every time, which is a very normal phenomenon.
Pan Jie didn't realize this, and after several exams, his grades fluctuated and his ranking slipped. Pan Jie couldn't accept this kind of blow, and he was depressed for a while, although the teachers talked to him alone many times to comfort and encourage him, but to no avail.
Pan Jie, who is depressed every day, is actually a "baby" in the eyes of some classmates. Although Pan Jie's popularity is not good, Pan Jie is very rich, and he has the most pocket money in the class, and several classmates have fun all day long, and they have long been eyeing him.
On this day, Pan Jie was sleeping on the table when a classmate came over. This classmate is a well-known "bastard" in the class, and he likes to jump over the wall to skip class, play games in Internet cafes, and watch **. He communicated with Pan Jie and said that he wanted to take Pan Jie to "see the world and have some fun".
The two took advantage of the night to secretly jump over the wall and go out to the Internet café. This was Pan Jie's first contact with online games, and the unprecedented excitement immediately attracted him, and he has been addicted to it ever since.
And this classmate is not a kind-hearted person, he just wants Pan Jie to "invite" him to play games and save himself some money, as for whether it will bring him bad and cause any adverse effects, whatever!
After that, Pan Jie no longer had the intention of studying, and what he looked forward to most every day was that when night fell, he could run out and play games all night, sleep in the classroom during the day, and occasionally ask for leave to sleep in the dormitory for a day and a night.
Pan Jie's grades plummeted, his teachers were completely disappointed in him, and Li Li and Pan Zhuozhuo were even more anxious but helpless.
Until before the high school entrance examination, Pan Jie jumped on the wall and went online, was found by a teacher on duty, followed all the way, and caught a spot in the Internet café. After the East Window incident, teachers and parents understood why Pan Jie slept every day, and his grades dropped to the bottom.
Li Li angrily asked Pan Jie:Why are you taking our hard-earned money to play games?
Not to be outdone, Pan Jie is:You don't usually care about me at all, so leave me alone!
Li Li and Pan Zhuozhuo were speechless about this, and Pan Zhuozhuo knew that he was at a loss, after all, he almost never cared about his son's psychology and growth.
In the past, Pan Jie had good grades and excellent performance, and people praised him for "teaching his children well", and Pan Zhuoyu would accept it happily, but he would also be a little ashamed in his heart.
Since then, Li Li and Pan Zhuozhuo have watched Pan Jie continue to skip classes and go online, but they have not stopped them because of their guilt. In the end, Pan Jie went to an ordinary high school and was admitted to a junior college with average strength.
Six or seven years have passed, and Pan Jie has been repeating one thing every year: playing games!
In high school, he asked for a large amount of living expenses every month, and he ate, drank and had fun every day without feeling distressed. Going to college is even more exaggerated, first spent tens of thousands of yuan with a good computer, then Shengsheng played games in the dormitory for a few years, Koko turned on the red light, and finally Pan Zhuozhuo tried every means to find someone to help, so that he successfully got his graduation certificate.
originally thought that after graduation, Pan Jie would be more restrained. Who would have thought that Pan Jie was unwilling to look for a job.
Anyway, you two have money, why should I go to work? You are just one of my sons, and all the money you earn is mine? I'm not going! ”
In the face of his parents' painstaking persuasion, Pan Jie will always have only this one reply. Aside from things like eating, he doesn't care about everything at home and only knows how to play games.
Originally, Pan Jie was just playing silently, but gradually he became irritable and manic, and he became angry at the slightest thing that did not go his way. Once someone interfered with him, he would even open his teeth and claws, scolding with red eyes.
One day, Li Li saw her son walk into the house after eating, turn on the computer, and enter the game, she was very angry, and rushed in and unplugged the power supply.
The originally passionate screen suddenly went black, and the crackling keyboard came to an abrupt end. Pan Jie raised his head, and a pair of eyes in black-rimmed glasses stared at his biological mother, and suddenly let out a low roar like a beast that had been kicked.
"Why are you turning off the computer! ”
"Son, don't play anymore! Let's go out and find something! Mommy, please! ”
Li Li suddenly burst into tears, and she collapsed to the ground, not knowing why her son had become like this.
But Pan Jie's pleading for his mother seemed to be unheard, and he angrily dragged his mother up and pushed her back fiercely!
Pan Jie is in his twenties, which is the time when he has the greatest strength. And Li Li is getting old, and years of factory work have made her more and more weak.
Pan Jie pushed Li Li directly from the side of the computer desk to the door, she fell to the ground, and one hand hit the porcelain basin on the ground, making a muffled sound.
After Li Li was pushed down, she only felt that her arm hurt and she couldn't lift it at all, so she fell to the ground and begged Pan Jie, hoping that he would help her up and send her to the hospital.
But Pan Jie didn't care about Li Li at all, he directly dragged Li Li to the living room, returned to the room and closed the door, put on headphones and continued the game.
The helpless Li Li struggled to beat Pan Zhuozhuo, who was originally lecturing to the students, and when Pan Zhuozhuo heard this, he returned home angrily, first sent his wife to the hospital, and then returned home and beat Pan Jie hard.
What made Pan Zhuozhuo feel sad was that Pan Jie didn't feel that he had done anything wrong at all, and even fought back. In desperation, Pan Zhuoyu had no choice but to ignore Pan Jie and go to the hospital to take care of his wife.
After diagnosis, Li Li's arm was fractured, and although it was later cured, she was also disabled and had no way to do it.
The news of Pan Jie mutilating his mother with his own hands spread, and the neighbors laughed at Pan Zhuozhuo, a famous teacher in a key middle school, who couldn't even educate his own son well! Pan Zhuo was helpless, and Li Li washed his face with tears all day long.
A few years later, Pan Zhuoyu and Li Li both retired, and Pan Jie was in his thirties at this time, still single, and only wanted to play games. This made Pan Zhuo and Li Li very anxious, and they came up with a method:Let Pan Jie get married.
Married and with a sense of responsibility, maybe Pan Jie will be able to change the status quo. So the two pulled down their heads and begged people to talk about the matchmaker, which made them even more unexpected.
For the first time, the matchmaker introduced a virtuous girl over. The woman hoped that Pan Jie could have his own job and go out independently, but Pan Jie questioned"Marriage just wants to eat my food? Live in my house? There is no such good thing, get out of here! ”
After that, the situation did not get better. Every time Pan Jie uttered something amazing, he scared people away. Pan Jie has no advantages, his education, appearance, and economy are very averageBut he thought very well, always wanted the woman to support the family and take care of him, and even said that "when you get married, you will become a monk".
In this way, the parents gave Pan Jie 59 blind dates, all of which ended in failure.
In the end, no matchmaker was willing to help the old couple tell Pan Jie about matchmaking, and the blind date road would not work.
And Pan Jie gradually felt thatHis parents didn't really want to introduce him to someone, but just "humiliated" him through blind dates.
In anger, on the street, Pan Jie pointed at Pan Zhuoyu and Li Li with one hand, and raised one hand high:Sooner or later you're going to be beaten! If you want to get less hurt, you can practice! ”
Pan Zhuozhuo only felt that his life was gloomy, and he couldn't see a way out at all.
The news of Pan Jie spread, and some reporters also came to interview Pan Jie, hoping to help Pan Zhuo and his wife persuade Pan Jie. A reporter said: "Your parents have raised you for more than 30 years, even if you want to do your filial piety and go out to find a job, isn't it good to start a family early?" ”
Pan Jie said that he didn't think filial piety was a good thing, and he didn't want to be a filial person.
The reporter was helpless:"Are you going to drive your parents to death? Don't you know that they don't have the courage to live now? ”
Pan Jie actually smiled contemptuously:"I'm completely cold-blooded, it doesn't matter".
He thought it was cool, like some of the characters he admired in online games.
How ignorant, stupid, and insensitive, compared to ordinary animalsAs!
Finally, the reporter shook his head and walked out the door. Before leaving, he told Pan Zhuoyue and Li Li that Pan Jie might have some mental illness, otherwise he would not be so stubborn.
Pan Zhuoyu and Li Li took Pan Jie to find a psychiatrist, and they were really diagnosed: paranoid personality disorder.
For the sake of Pan Jie's illness, the old couple smashed all their pensions into it. For them, as long as they can cure their son, it doesn't matter how much money they spend.
Sadly, however, the effect is very limited. Although Pan Jie is no longer manic and has changed his habit of beating and scolding his parents at every turn, he has not shown any respect and is still addicted to online games every day.
Pan Zhuoyue and Li Li can only continue to live a torturous life, and they have no hope now.
What is the root cause of Pan Jie's tragedy? He used to be a very smart child, but the smarter the child, the easier it is to get stuck in stubbornness. When he most needed to establish the correct three views, and when he should cultivate his independence the most, his parents were absent, which directly created his sensitive, suspicious, and irritable character.
If you blindly accommodate and spoil your child just because you are afraid that your child will suffer and suffer sin, you will only spoil your child and develop a selfish, indifferent, numb, and unenterprising character.
As the most important life coach for children, parents should be responsible, not slack off when they should be strict, and not be harsh and cold when they need warm care.
The love of parents for their children is far-reaching. You must know that a child's education when he is a child will directly affect most of his life and the whole family. It is important to take into account the possibilities of the next few decades from the outset and choose the most appropriate method to raise a healthy, healthy, well-rounded child.