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Vinny Sha Tu Nisha
Hello, I'm Nixia, straight to the point, don't beat around the bush. I know you've been looking for a partner for a long time, and you haven't found a suitable one. You don't even bother to find a partner, you feel like a waste of time.
In this fast-paced era, people are always on the go, and even the time to find their partner is extremely urgent. Some people say that if you want to know if two people are suitable, you can just have a meal together.
This may sound like a joke at first glance, but when you taste it, you can tell a lot of truth. Nisha takes you into the world behind this meal to see if the two are really a good fit.
1. Ordering: whether the taste is similar
When you walk into a restaurant, the first thing you have to face is the ordering process. At this time, the choices of both parties can often reflect their respective tastes and living habits. Some people like spicy food, some people prefer light; Some people love Western food, while others have a soft spot for Chinese food.
If two people always coincide when ordering, or can accommodate each other even if there are differences, it means that they are more similar in taste.
The acquaintance of people is important in knowing each other; The most important thing for people to know each other is to know each other. "It's small, but it's subtle. The understanding and tolerance that both parties show in this process are essential qualities in life in the future.
2. Meals: whether the habits are compatible
After ordering, it's time for the meal. At this time, the habits and etiquette of both parties will become the focus of observation. Some people chew slowly when eating, while others gobble it up; Some pay attention to table manners, while others follow their nature.
If two people can walk in the same step during meals, or at least be able to respect each other's habits, it means that they are more compatible in terms of living habits.
The sea is inclusive, and there is tolerance. "Dining habits may be hard to change, but respect and tolerance can be cultivated. The tolerance and humility shown by both parties in this process will be a powerful weapon to resolve conflicts in future life.
3. Communication: whether the communication is smooth
During the meal, it is inevitable to communicate. At this time, the communication ability of both parties will be particularly important. Some are good at talking, others are silent; Some people like to share trivial things in life, while others prefer to ** deep topics.
If two people are able to speak freely when communicating, or at least can listen patiently to each other's words, it means that they are relatively smooth in communication.
Words are not speculative for more than half a sentence. "Communication is a bridge to build relationships and the key to solving problems. The understanding and empathy shown by both parties in this process will be the cornerstone of future life together.
Fourth, pay the bill: whether the values are consistent
At the end of the meal, the last step is to pay the bill. At this time, the values of both sides will be exposed. Some people advocate the AA system, believing that it is fair and reasonable; Some people are willing to take the initiative to pay, thinking that this can reflect their demeanor and sincerity.
If two people can reach a consensus when paying the bill, or at least can respect each other's choice, it means that they are more consistent in values.
The Tao is different, and they do not conspire with each other. "Values are the key factor that determines whether two people can stay together for a long time. The recognition and respect shown by both parties in this process will be the driving force for common struggle in future life.
Conclusion:
After a meal, the two people have begun to see whether they are suitable. Of course, this meal is not a panacea, it can only be used as a reference, not as a final decision. After all, relationships take time to cultivate and grind.
However, through this meal, we can at least understand the differences and compatibility of both parties in terms of taste, habits, communication and values, so as to pave the way for the future relationship.
Remember, "A hundred years of cultivation can be crossed in the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can be slept together." "It is a rare fate for two people to meet, know and know each other. So, cherish every opportunity to have dinner with each other, feel the differences and fits with each other, and maybe you will find a whole new world waiting for you to explore.