In each of us, there is a story about home. In this story, there is warm sunshine and shadowy corners. In these shadows, especially those complex emotions with mothers, are often the most difficult parts for us to reach and understand. This emotion is a complex texture woven from love and pain, understanding and misunderstanding.
Our dissatisfaction and disappointment with our mothers often stem from a deepest form of love. It's because we used to be so eager to be seen, so much to be understood and accepted, and when this expectation hits a wall, it leaves a wound in our hearts. Our rebellion and alienation are not the absence of love, but the presence of love is so strong that when it fails to fulfill its wishes, it leaves a deep trace.
To get closer to Mother, you first need to build a bridge of understanding. The cornerstone of this bridge is a deep understanding of the mother as an individual. Trying to see her fears, her dreams, her limitations, and the challenges of her time. It's not about finding excuses, it's about finding a path to understanding – it's only when we begin to understand the other person that our own hearts begin to be liberated.
By understanding Mother on a deeper level, we don't stop at superficial "forgiveness," but look for a deeper resonance, a bridge that connects us to our shared experiences with Mother. This depth of understanding gives us the strength to move forward and helps us recognize that even in the midst of challenges and incomprehension, the seeds of love and connection are still there, quietly waiting to be awakened and nurtured.
In the process, we may discover that true growth is not just about how we deal with the past, but also about how we shape new ways of our future relationship with our mothers. It requires us to let go of old stories and courageously weave a new narrative that is filled with understanding, respect, and deep resonance.
Finding love and connection in a relationship with your mother is a deep inner journey. This requires us to be brave enough to face our emotions and be honest about our needs and expectations. In the process, we may discover that love is not always as flawless as we fantasize about, but it exists in its own unique way, transcending time and misunderstanding, quietly waiting for us to perceive, to understand, and to embrace.
This journey of emotional entanglement with our mother ultimately leads us back to our own hearts. It teaches us how to love, how to be loved, and how to find our place in loving and being loved. In this journey, we have learned to be tolerant, we have learned to understand, and we have learned to grow.