Depression is actually quite simple, that is, some people like to shirk responsibility. When I encounter difficulties and pressure, whether it is in study or work, I want to hide, and I want to find someone to help me carry it. It turned out that there was nowhere to hide and no one to help, and you couldn't get angry outside, so you could only get angry at yourself. After a long time, I will become depressed. This is the "slamming door effect", if you lock yourself up, you will have problems with your body after a long time, and you will eventually become depressed.
When a woman is depressed, she thinks it's because she doesn't have a boyfriend, or a man she can rely on. also regards the imaginary man as a symbol of love, and feels that he lacks love and has to find true love. In this way, I originally wanted to escape responsibility and pressure, but it turned out to be looking for true love. In fact, this kind of "love brain" of women just wants to escape responsibility in reality.
Just like a child going to school, from elementary school to junior high school, and then to high school and college, the pressure of studying is getting bigger and bigger, which is not the same as the pressure of working, getting married, and raising a family after entering the society. A person's life is made up of many stages of increasing pressure. At each stage, you have to learn to deal with the stress of this stage, and you have to learn some life lessons from these experiences.
For example, in high school, you have to know that there are some things that you have to face by yourself, even if your physical strength and energy are at the limit, you can't give up easily. If you don't give up on the surface, but you actually give up in your heart, then you will be depressed. My child was like this when he was in junior high school, and he didn't go to school for many days in the third year of junior high school. That's how I observed it.
If the child doesn't want to go to school, it's the limit, and you have to pay attention to it. Adults also have to go through the pain of their student days again, that is, work pressure. Many people change jobs all the time, just like children don't want to go to school, which is not enough. So should you insist on it? You have to take care of this. Anyway, if a person is old and depressed, there is no place to relieve pressure, and others can't replace you. Just like a child, parents say to raise him, take care of him, and help him relieve pressure. Adults don't have that kind of treatment. Unless a woman finds a true love who can support her for a lifetime, this may be a way out. But this may have buried a mine for himself, in case the man cheats in the future, the damage will be great.
Therefore, in the second stage (work and family) and the third stage (aging and death), people have to see what they are like and what they really want in their hearts, so that they can make progress.