In the emotional world, there are always people who like to use extreme ways to test the depth of their partner's love, that is, to suddenly break off contact with their partner. The logic behind this is that if the partner takes the relationship seriously enough, they will actively resume the connection.
In the early stages of a relationship, this temptation may be effective. When two people form an intimate bond, the sudden indifference of one partner can make the other person anxious, like a child who suddenly loses the love of his parents, and is desperate to reconnect. At this point, the person who has broken off contact may feel that they have taken the initiative in the relationship, and see the search for a partner as proof that they value themselves very highly, which in turn creates an illusion of being loved.
However, long-term use of this type of tentative style may make the partner pessimistic about the relationship. Frequently experiencing being pushed away and the rupture of the emotional connection can trigger a build-up of negative emotions that can eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship. In relationship maintenance, people who like to break contact tend to focus too much on their emotional experience. Although they are eager to maintain the relationship, they are suspicious of their love, so they use the means of disconnection, expecting their partner to take the initiative. Because of their pride, they don't take the initiative to seek connection, but expect their partner to show enough love to prove that their bond doesn't break easily.
Behind this behavior, there are two kinds of negative cognition.
First of all, this practice reflects the deep insecurity of the individual. This type of person will question their partner's love, find it difficult to accept their partner's love, and always worry that this love will not last.
Second, it embodies an individual's excessive focus on self-esteem. From an egocentric point of view, individuals often fail to understand their partner's true feelings and instead face their feelings defensively, focusing only on their own needs and ignoring their partner's emotional needs.
In order to have a happy relationship, we need to learn to love ourselves and others, and develop the ability to love。This means that the individual is in a state of inner abundance, able to perceive and meet the feelings and needs of his partner. Only in this way can we create an environment of love and love others with the abundance of our hearts, so as to harvest lasting and sincere love and achieve true happiness.
Love is an ability that requires us to keep learning and improving. Only by watering love with sincerity and trust, and caring for relationships with understanding and tolerance, can we swim in the ocean of love and sail to the other side of happiness.