Speaking of fifty years old, it's quite an interesting age for many people, right? You've probably been halfway through life. Assuming your mom and dad are still around, they have to be seventy or eighty years old, or even older, maybe in their nineties.
The elderly are old, how to take care of them, this problem is in front of us, and it needs to be solved urgently.
If you choose to quit your job and take care of the elderly at home around the clock for the sake of filial piety. But after a long time, many people began to regret their decision.
First, take care of your parents full-time, and your own future may hang in the balance. Not everyone retires by the time they reach fifty, right? If you don't work now, what about the pension insurance? Think about how much society will change in the decade from 50 to 60, and how much will you need to prepare financially?
The second problem is that you take care of your parents full-time, and your siblings may not appreciate it. My aunt, whose mother is in her eighties, moved into her brother's house. Not long after, another uncle came running up to him and asked him about a fixed deposit. It turned out that their mother had saved a lot of money and had an old house. The uncle thought that his brother might be coveting the property by taking in the old man. As a result, the younger brother had nothing to say, so he had to send the old man back to his house in the countryside, and then the family met to discuss taking turns to take care of him.
In some families, the elderly have no money left, so they have to rely on the children to share the cost of care. It sounds fair to give money to those who give money, and those who contribute to the effort sound quite fair, but once someone gives more money, there may be complaints. If you work full-time to take care of alimony, others may think that you are trying to take alimony.
The third problem is that you take care of your parents full-time, which may make the conflict between the two generations more obvious. The elderly can't take care of themselves, and they pay special attention to the taste of the food, and the TV is loud. The living habits of the two generations are too different, but you can only accommodate your parents and suppress yourself.
Some people with dementia don't speak for a while, and they curse for a while, and no one can bear listening to those ugly words. No matter how good-tempered a person is, after getting along with his parents for a long time, he may become short-tempered, and the resentment in his heart will come out sooner or later.
Mom and Dad, they are old, and of course our children have to take care of this illness and that disease.
We have to think of a way to get the best of both worlds, to be filial, and not to delay our own life and work.
Here are my personal thoughts, you can ** together.
To take care of the elderly, the first move, we can consider hiring a nanny. Everyone has a little salary in their hands, and they get together and hire someone to help take care of it. Of course, siblings have to take turns to see each other on a regular basis, and they can't all be left to the babysitter.
The second trick is to send your parents to a nursing home. You have to choose a good place, the kind of good service. Every weekend, we take turns to visit, take them out for a walk, have a meal, and have a chat. In this way, they can also make friends and not be lonely.
The third trick is that everyone takes turns. For example, change the crop every three months. In this way, no one will be too tired, and the elderly can often see different children and be happy.
Here's the point, we have to settle the accounts clearly.
Every penny spent must be accounted for, so that no one will feel unhappy.
In addition, if your parents have some savings or real estate, you have to say it as early as possible to avoid disputes in the future.
In short, we need to find more solutions, and the problem can always be solved.
What's a good idea, we can *** together After all, filial piety is a big deal, but you also have to pay attention to methods, right? Filial piety comes first