Friend, have you ever thought that when we enter the age of 50, we are faced not only with changes in our own bodies and mindsets, but also with those family responsibilities that are important to us – especially caring for our elderly parents? But let me tell you, don't rush to devote yourself full-time to this "priesthood." I know it may sound cold, but I have my reasons, and I'll hear them out.
Taking care of our parents full-time sounds undoubtedly the highest level of filial piety, but is this really the life we want? For many people, the age of fifty does not mean retirement or a slowdown in life. Many of us are still working at full strength, perhaps at the peak of our careers, or still busy achieving our dreams. Suddenly, taking care of our parents full-time, meant we had to slow down, or even stop. Have you ever thought about how this will affect your career, personal development, and even your retirement plans? Not to mention, once you're out of the workplace, it's hard to go back. Don't forget, the workplace isn't always that friendly to people over the age of fifty.
Again, let's talk about family dynamics. You may feel that caring for your parents full-time is a matter of love and respect for them, but how would your siblings see it? Will they appreciate it? I've heard stories about people who sacrificed their time and energy to take care of their elderly grandmother, and what happened? Suspicion and resentment between siblings are rewarded. Sometimes, money can really make people forget the family affection that blood is thicker than water. Are you willing to sacrifice your relationship with your siblings in order to care for your parents?
And, let's face it, the habits and values of life are often very different between the two generations. Over time, these differences can lead to contradictions and friction. Imagine that you and your elderly parents are together every day, from morning till night. Are you ready? How patient are you? Can you keep your mind at peace? Sometimes, distance produces beauty, and maintaining the right amount of space can be good for both parties.
So, what to do? Filial piety to parents, of course, we can't say no, but the method can be flexible. We can hire a professional caregiver or nanny to share the responsibility of caring for parents. Or consider sending your parents to a nursing home, where not only professional care but also a partner of their age can make their lives more colorful. Of course, if possible, siblings taking turns to take care of their parents is also a good option, which can ensure that parents are adequately cared for and avoid overburdening either parent.
Finally, I would like to say that we all have a ruler in our hearts to take care of our parents, and we know what is best for us. But don't forget, we also need to take care of ourselves and make sure that we don't suffer mentally, financially, or professionally. After all, only when you are strong can you take better care of others, right?
So, dear friend, when you are faced with the choice of whether or not to take care of your elderly parents full-time, don't forget to carefully consider all the factors. Filial piety is a virtue, but the filial piety of wisdom is even more important. Remember, our goal is for love to continue, not for responsibility to become a burden. Let's find that balance together to ensure that we and our loved ones can live happy, healthy lives!