The famous writer Jia Pingwa once profoundly pointed out that people's pursuit of high-flying dreams is often bound by the mud under their feet, which sometimes comes from the influence of the original family in addition to self-limited thinking. If parents are short-sighted and misbehaved, the family can become a source of pain for their children, rather than helping them to fly.
The first misconception is that parents are too money-oriented and ignore the long-term development of their children. The case of a genius boy in Henan Province is thought-provoking, he showed the strength of the college entrance examination close to the 985 college admission line at the age of 10, but in the face of the opportunity to repeat his studies, his parents forced him to enter the university early because they were eager to let their children earn money. When he was offered a postgraduate offer in Germany, his parents stayed in the country for financial reasons. In the end, the prodigy missed the opportunity to change his fate again and again, and after graduating from an ordinary university, he struggled to find a job, and his talents were not fully utilized. This tragedy reveals that parents' short-sightedness and excessive emphasis on money can directly ruin their children's bright futures.
Second, some parents ignore the importance of their children's health. They push their children to overload themselves with school or work in order to achieve worldly success, ignoring the role of health as a building block. Once the child's body collapses, all achievements will lose their meaning. Therefore, as parents, we should deeply understand and pass on to our children: no matter rich or poor, success or failure, only health is the most valuable wealth, and without a healthy body, everything is possible.
Moreover, the selfishness and ** of parents will also consume the blessings of their children. Differences in perceptions between the two generations are inevitable, and wise parents should respect their children's right to think and make choices independently, rather than imposing their own will. When a child is caught in a contradictory conflict between obedience to their parents and the pursuit of self, the inner pain will greatly negate the joy of life. Charles Dickens once said, "When the heart is tormented, worldly pleasures are like clouds." Therefore, it is the responsibility of parents to guide their children to explore the world, to encourage them to be themselves and to have the power to determine their own destiny, not to create a child who will only obey orders.
There is no greater foolishness for parents than to over-consume their children's blessings in three areas: focusing too much on money, neglecting health, and selfishness** in their life's path. As parents, you should learn to add luster to your children's lives, rather than being a burden that hinders them. Let us all reflect deeply, warm and illuminate the life path of children with selfless and wise love, and work together as a family to believe that all the good things will eventually come as scheduled.