After so many years of working in the system, I can see that dealing with leaders is a technical job. Don't underestimate these simple words, they are related to your status and future in the unit.
I remember when I first joined the unit, I was still a stunned young man, and I felt that the leader was just an ordinary person, and there was no need to be so formal. So whenever I had the opportunity, I called the leader's name, patted my shoulder, and pinched my arm, thinking that in this way, I could get closer to each other and carry out my work in the future.
The result? At a department meeting, I happily called out the leader's name and habitually patted him on the shoulder. As a result, the leader's face sank suddenly, and the atmosphere of the entire meeting became depressing. After the meeting, the leader talked to me and told me in a serious tone that I should stop being called that in the future, and that I should be more formal and called "director".
I just woke up from a dream, and it turned out that my previous behavior made the leader feel uncomfortable. Since then, I no longer dare to call the leader by name, and I always respectfully address the "director". Gradually, I found that the attitude of the leaders towards me has also changed significantly, and I have become more pleasant.
Actually, examples like mine are not uncommon in the workplace. Some newcomers have just entered the unit, they don't understand the rules, and they still call the leader according to their own habits, and the result is often a wall. Take Xiao Wang of our unit as an example, he always likes to call the leaders "Lao Zhang" and "Lao Li", at first everyone thought he was very kind, but after a long time, the leaders' impression of him became worse and worse.
At a departmental meeting, Xiao Wang excitedly shouted "Lao Zhang" again, and the director's face immediately changed. After the meeting, the director talked to Xiao Wang and pointed out his problems seriously.Since then, Xiao Wang no longer dares to call the leader's name casually, and every time he calls him "Director Zhang" in a regular manner. But unfortunately, his previous behavior has left a bad impression in the hearts of the leader, and it is not so easy to change the situation.
Then, I summarized a few ways that leaders don't like the most. These ways of addressing not only expose your low emotional intelligence, but also easily attract the disgust of your leaders.
The first keeps calling names. This is the most serious violation of the way to call you, which directly exposes your ignorance of the rules and lack of sense of proportion. In the eyes of leaders, calling by name is a sign of disrespect and disrespect, and it is easy to be offended.
The second "old so-and-so".Such a name. While it may sound intimate, it is actually too casual and lacks respect. Leaders prefer to hear formal, measured addresses.
There is also a way of addressing that is also unpopular, that is, titles with ridicule or mockery, such as "a certain president", "a certain chief", "a certain official", etc. It's easy to feel that you're deliberately teasing or sarcastically disrespecting the leader.
In addition,The flattering title of "big leader" is also unbearable. Although it may sound like a compliment to the leader, it actually exposes your inner humility and lack of self-confidence, which will greatly reduce the leader's impression of you.
Finally, special attention is requiredThat's itUse overly intimate or ambiguous titles, such as "old mother", "a certain teacher", etc. These ways of addressing female leaders can easily make them feel offended or uncomfortable, and may even lead to unnecessary misunderstandings and scandals.
Addressing leaders is actually a very deep science. A person with high emotional intelligence must be able to grasp the balance and communicate with the leader in an appropriate and appropriate way. And those with low emotional intelligence often fall into the misunderstanding of the title because they don't understand the rules and don't know how to respect, and eventually incur the disgust and dissatisfaction of the leader.