In recent years, "advanced maternal age" is not a new topic, with the beginning of the national second child policy and the improvement of the family economy, more and more mothers choose to raise a second child, many of whom are over 40 years old.
In fact, there are many reasons behind giving birth at an advanced age: preference for sons over girls, wanting boys. Fulfill the wishes of both sons in the family, or want to find a companion with the eldest child.
For many older parents, whether it is the purpose of childbirth or the risks of childbirth in the elderly, the follow-up of family relationships** is also a headache.
My daughter shouted at us through gritted teeth"Why did you give birth to him? Do you know how much I am disliked because of him? I hate you and I hate him, and don't expect me to take care of him in the future! "
My husband couldn't help but give her a slap :"It is our right to have children, and you shouldn't blame your brother for your emotional problems! "
The daughter cried hoarsely:"You all beat me for the sake of your son? Or say it's not his fault? They are afraid that I am a demon who helps my brother, and they are afraid that you will be patriarchal, you see, you will do it now, and you don't know how you will bully me in the future! "Looking at my daughter's tears, my heart hurts a lot.
As a parent, who doesn't want their children to have a happy marriage? Is it really wrong for us to have a second child?
When our daughter was 16 years old, we wanted to have another child. At that time, her daughter was crying and making trouble, she said that if she really wanted to have a second child, she would run away from home, and she didn't want her parents to share her love with others.
At that time, she was about to take the college entrance examination, so we had to say yes to her. Later, when my daughter went to college and worked again, she became very busy and rarely came home.
My husband and I started to feel lonely and thought about having another child.
So when I got pregnant unexpectedly, my husband was very happy, and my parents-in-law even bought us a new house as a reward.
After the daughter found out, she rushed home to make trouble, saying that if she had a younger brother, the family property would inevitably belong to him. The daughter said that unless she transferred all the houses to her first, she would not be a daughter.
For the sake of family harmony, we thought about not having this child, but the doctor told us that I could get pregnant at such an old age and should cherish this life.
After listening to the doctor, we made up our minds to give birth to this child. We wrote a letter of guarantee to our daughter, promising that we would not give preference to sons over daughters, that we would divide all the family property equally among them in the future, and that we would also transfer the new house given by our in-laws to our daughter.
After that, the daughter slowly regained her old smile, and when she looked at her young brother, she also gently hugged him and teased him.
But her daughter's love life has not been smooth, she has had several boyfriends, and they all flinched when they knew that she had a younger brother who was in his twenties.
They are either afraid of themselves, or dissuaded by their parents, worried that she is a demon who helps her younger brother, saying that we are still fighting for our son at a young age, and we must be patriarchal, saying that if we are old, we will definitely let them bear the responsibility of taking care of our younger brother.
Although the daughter will explain every time:"Our family is not patriarchal, my parents wrote me a letter of guarantee, saying that they would divide the family property equally, and they are all in good health, you will not let me be a brother demon. "
But no matter how you explain it, it's useless, people are very realistic, and they just want to believe what they see.
Now we are also very anxious about her marriage, but we dare not say anything, because if we mention it a little, our daughter will jump and make trouble again, and blame it on a younger brother.
This time, my husband couldn't help but slap her, and after my daughter made a fuss, she ran out of the house, and I was angry, anxious and helpless.
My husband is also at a loss. I really don't understand, is there a younger brother, must be a brother demon? Just because she has a younger brother, her daughter can't get married?
Hey, what the hell are we going to do?
If the parents have prepared all kinds of psychological preparations and various conditions, then after giving birth to a second child, please ask the parents to take it seriously.
Don't treat the second child as an item, you can "give it away" at will, and don't let the boss be a "pot picker". If you encounter difficulties, you can ask the boss to help, or you can let the boss participate in taking care of the second child, but giving birth to a child is not for the boss. Parents make their own decisions, and they have to bear them to the end.