Everyone has their own opinion on the way to celebrate the New Year.
Writer Zhou Guoping said: "If people are simple, they will be young, and if they have an accident, they will be old." ”
The Chinese New Year was originally for joy, opening the door and blessings, and don't let yourself grow old quickly.
To keep the complicated and simple, so that one does not go, two do not ask, three do not fight, not without benefit.
If you don't gamble, you will harm others and yourself.
After the Chinese New Year, many migrant workers in the village have returned, some drive luxury cars, some take buses, and some ride motorcycles.
The different ways of returning home have witnessed our harvest in a year. But there are also people who are swollen and fat, luxury cars are borrowed, and girlfriends are also rented.
When everyone shows their harvest, it is inevitable to get together, have a meal, and have a few drinks.
It is very common to play cards together when you have nothing to do.
However, you should play cards in moderation, and if the game becomes a gambling game, then someone will be sad.
Think about it, at the end of the year, I finally had tens of thousands of deposits, but I lost a gamble, isn't this a year in vain?
If the person who loses money is scolded by his family when he returns home, it will be difficult to endure the New Year.
Especially some housekeepers, scolding people, the whole village hears it, and those who win money will also be cursed, resulting in a whole year of sadness. At least there will be obstacles in the heart.
The most terrible thing is that when gambling cards, it attracted the police uncle, and everyone was imprisoned in the New Year, which was a happy and unlucky start.
As the saying goes, "After a whole year's hard work, you go back to many years ago overnight." ”Those who like to gamble must be patient. Cherish the achievements of the year and do not cause contradictions. Recreational playing cards, try to control as much as possible, don't be too competitive.
When you have nothing to do, spend more time with your parents. Help parents tidy up the fields, do housework, you can do it.
Nine out of ten bets are lost, no money is lost, and favors are lost. During the Chinese New Year, you should keep in mind such an ancient adage, don't think that you can win your life on the table, if you can make a fortune in gambling, no one will go out to work, and you will have a clear mind when you think about it.
Don't ask two questions, talk well.
When relatives and friends get together, they always have to ask about the changes in the year and see what new plans there are.
Some old people also like to break the casserole and ask in the end, to know the situation of the younger generation.
However, excessive questioning, or some extreme topics, lead to a very bad atmosphere at the party.
People all have different sourness, don't open which pot is not opened.
The income of middle-aged people, not asking is understanding.
When people reach middle age, the most difficult thing is to make money. If it's not necessary, don't ask how much you earn, once you mention it, it will cause everyone to compare.
People with very little income can't hold their heads up in front of everyone; Those who have a lot of income are reluctant to say it, for fear that everyone will borrow money.
If someone uses the topic to play and say that a poor person is useless, the blow is not as big as ordinary.
Even relatives and friends who have a cooperative relationship are also settled before the year, so don't settle accounts during the New Year to avoid all kinds of unpleasantness.
Young people's marriage and love, don't ask, just watch more.
The older generation of people believe that "marry a chicken with a chicken and marry a dog with a dog; When you meet a person with a white head, you will hold hands with a person to grow old". But young people's marriages and romances are much more fragile.
There are young people who may get married and divorced in the same year. It's even less surprising that you've been in love many times.
For people who have been single for a long time, once they mention marriage, they are heartbroken.
One year, when I was attending a relative's gathering, my aunt asked my niece in the province, "Have you found a partner?" There is a man in my village who raises fish, but he is diligent.
The niece kept her head down and almost burst into tears.
First, she had just broken up with her boyfriend; Second, I have a good job and want to find people with good conditions, and now I introduce fish farmers, which has a derogatory meaning.
In fact, when we meet young people who bring their objects home, don't ask them what they are doing, buying a house in **, how much they have saved, and how their parents are.
Too many questions can only be communicated privately, not on the table.
Don't fight three things, show weakness to win.
Confucius said: "A gentleman is reserved but not fighting, and a group is not a party." ”It's not strange for a group of people to get along, but let's not treat someone as an opposite, don't form a lot of small circles, and attack each other.
Come to think of it, the quarrels during the New Year are definitely not a good sign.
Regardless of the child's grades, encourage them.
Everyone has children, some are good at reading, and some don't like to read. It's not surprising that the grades are high or low.
Don't protect your child's shortcomings, fight for the high.
No matter whose children they are, they all deserve our encouragement. At the same time, don't elevate other people's children and belittle your own.
In contrast, children's self-esteem will be hit and their motivation to learn will be lost.
Do not argue about the number of filial piety, do your best.
During the Chinese New Year, my brother bought shoes for his mother and gave another 1,000 yuan; The sister gave her father a pack of cigarettes and a few bottles of wine, but did not give money; The younger brother gave his parents some money and some clothes.
Filial piety has been done, but it cannot be equal. If everyone uses this as a topic and says who is more filial and who has more money but is stingy, it will definitely cause conflicts.
Originally, the parents were a little eccentric, which was troublesome enough, and the children in turn argued about the balance of filial piety, which undoubtedly added fuel to the fire.
Do your best to settle your parents for the next year's pension, just do it. Don't expect your siblings to be exactly like you.
Don't fight for winning or losing, silence is golden.
No matter what we do, family conflicts are sure.
Just because you don't turn over old accounts doesn't mean that everyone doesn't turn over old accounts.
When the contradiction comes, you should shut up immediately, instead of being unforgiving.
Your weakness will make the family atmosphere better. It will also lead to red-faced people who repent in time and then be quieter.
Moderate silence is not about losing, but about taking into account the overall situation and bringing its own pattern.
During the Tang Dynasty, Bai Juyi took advantage of the good days of the New Year to visit Liu Yuxi.
When friends met, Bai Juyi had a preconceived idea and wrote a poem"Twilight teeth are coming, and we are self-pitying. It is advisable to reduce food when it is declining, and it is already happy to be more old. The purple ribbon line joins forces, and the basket is shoulder to shoulder. With Jun Tongjiazi, who will be the first to join the wine. ”
Bai Juyi's words were humble, saying that he was already old and should toast first.
Liu Yuxi immediately replied with a poem"There are years of gradual entry, and the new year is coming." The earthquake shook the heavens, and the emperor returned to the chariot. The door and alley sweep the residual snow, and the forest garden is shocked by the early plum. With Jun Jiazi, Shou wine let the first cup. ”
The implication is that Liu Yuxi is also old, but he wants to toast and wish everyone a long life.
Besides, I am very lucky to be able to live to this age, and blessings for the New Year are the most important topics.
Look, the ancients celebrated the New Year, poetic and picturesque, opened their mouths to spit out the spring breeze, and the wine glass hid warmth.
Fighting the stars, our life is better than the ancients, and we should experience happiness with our hearts, don't consume blessings because of some bad things.
Decades of life, only dozens of years, cherish it, be peaceful and peaceful.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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