Obedient children can save parents a lot of trouble. But what should you do if you really meet a child who doesn't like to obey?
If the child is disobedient, does he have his own ideas? Or do you simply find it fun to go against your parents?
I'm afraid that every parent who has a disobedient child can think about these two questions first.
But no matter what the reason is for the child's disobedience, there is actually a way to change it.
1. Let the child call the shots
Children don't listen to adults, and they obviously want adults to listen to them.
Then, you can do the opposite, don't force your child to listen to yourself, let your child be the master, and see what the result is.
If the result is good and nothing bad, then parents need to change their thinking and reflect on whether they were too arbitrary before.
If the result is not good, parents should first guide their children to understand how the bad results are caused, so that the children can see their own shortcomings.
If the child can recognize the parent's analysis, then at this time, the child should listen to the parents more, and the child will be more convinced.
Of course, disobedience cannot be changed just because the child is the master once or twice, and parents need to maintain some patience so that the child can understand their own behavior more comprehensively.
2. Communicate and listen more
In modern families, many family atmospheres are parents**, and children are not allowed to have too many ideas of their own.
However, now that children have more channels to contact the world and society, they may not fully agree with their parents' views, and may even have many ideas of their own.
The disobedience of a child may mean that he or she doubts the parent's point of view, but because of the authority of the parent, he cannot show it positively.
Educating children is not about **, more often you need to listen to your children's ideas and communicate openly with your children.
The child's thoughts may not be comprehensive, and the judgment of the parents may be biased, but if they do not communicate with each other, they may never know.
3. Make rules
Children are disobedient, sometimes parents do not make rules, so that children continue to break through the bottom line of parents, and as a result, they go more and more deviated, and can no longer return to the original relationship.
Therefore, when the child is still obedient, such as the kindergarten stage, it is necessary to work with the child to formulate rules and implement corresponding rewards and punishments, so that the child will not constantly resist the constraints of adults.
Children are not very obedient, sometimes it is not that the children themselves have rebellious problems, but that we as parents ignore education first, and always think about making up for it later, which will only make the relationship between each other stiff.