Far from being comfortable, deliberately pleasing can cause discomfort and put your relationships in a difficult situation.
First, deliberate pleasing often stems from distrust and fear of others. You may choose to deliberately please others for fear of rejection or exclusion. However, this practice tends to make you unreal and make you lose yourself. At the same time, when you deliberately please others, you may focus too much on the needs and feelings of others and ignore your own. Not only will this make you feel exhausted, but it will also reduce your sense of self-worth. In addition, deliberate flattery can also lead to tension and conflict in interpersonal relationships. When you deliberately please others, you may pander to their expectations so much that you lose your own stance and principles. This can lead to others expecting too much of you or skewing your evaluation. So, how can we avoid trying to please others in our interpersonal interactions? First of all, be authentic and self-contained, and don't try to please others. Healthy relationships can only be built when we truly respect our feelings and needs.
In interpersonal interactions, we should remain true to ourselves and not try to please others. In this way, healthy, equal and respectful interpersonal relationships can be established.