People with high emotional intelligence are often able to deal with complex interpersonal relationships and problems in just the right way, they know how to understand the emotions and needs of others, they are good at listening and communicating, and they are able to remain calm and rational in the face of difficulties and pressures.
Their answers are often intelligent and insightful, with the ability to look at issues from different perspectives and offer unique and insightful perspectives. Their language is also often full of charm and emotion, which can move people's hearts and win the respect and trust of others.
Throughout history, there have been many figures who have gone down in history for their high emotional intelligence answers.
Chu State, I am a barbarian"It is a famous quote of Xiong Tong, the monarch of Chu during the Spring and Autumn Period. According to the "Historical Records of the Chu Family", in 706 BC, the state of Chu crusaded against the state of Sui. He said, "I have no sin. Xiong Tong, the king of Chu, replied, "I am in the barbarian region. Today, the princes have betrayed the royal family, invaded each other, and attacked each other. I have an army, and I want to use this to participate in the political affairs of the Central Plains, and ask the Zhou royal family to honor my name. ”
This history can be interpreted as saying that although the Chu State was located in the border region and was regarded as a barbarian, they had a strong desire and determination to participate in the politics of the Central Plains. Although being called a barbarian has always made the Chu State very dissatisfied, it has to be said that in the high-level politics of the Chu State, there has always been a strong habit of barbarianism. Among them, the most prominent is the "tradition of killing kings". For example, in 740 BC, Xiong Tong killed his nephew and usurped the position of chieftain.
Therefore, when Xiong Tong said "I am a barbarian in the state of Chu", he not only expressed his dissatisfaction with the Zhou royal family's contempt for the status of the state of Chu, but also showed the determination and self-confidence of the state of Chu: although they were regarded as barbarians by the countries of the Central Plains, they had their own military strength and political ambitions, and were not willing to be marginalized.
Yan Zi Makes Chu is an anonymous essay written at the end of the Warring States Period, and its core story tells the experience of Yan Zi, the doctor of Qi State, who went to Chu State in the late Spring and Autumn Period. During his mission to the state of Chu, the king of Chu insulted Yan Zi three times, trying to show the strength and majesty of his country in this way. However, Yan Zi was not defeated by this unreasonable insult, and he skillfully used his words to fight back, successfully maintaining the dignity of himself and the Qi state.
The specific storyline is like this: when Yan Zi arrived in the state of Chu, due to his short stature, the people of the state of Chu opened a small gate next to the gate for him to enter. However, Yan Zi expressed strong dissatisfaction with this, and solemnly declared: "Those who make the dog country enter through the dog gate, and the present minister makes Chu, and it is not appropriate to enter through this gate." Therefore, the people of Chu had to change the arrangement, allowing Yan Zi to enter through the gate and introduce him to the king of Chu.
After seeing the queen of Chu, the king of Chu first asked provocatively: "Qi no one?" Messenger for the Messenger? In this regard, Yan Zi replied without showing weakness: "Qi Zhi Linzi three hundred Lu, Zhang Yuan into yin, sweating into rain, side by side, what is no one?" This shows that Qi is not without people.
In order to belittle the Qi people and highlight the majesty of the Chu State, the king of Chu deliberately arranged for thieves to pass through, in an attempt to imply that the Qi people steal more. However, Yan Zi wittily used the truth that "oranges are oranges when they are born in Huainan, and oranges are oranges when they are born in Huaibei", pointing out the influence of the environment on the nature of things, thus indirectly criticizing the social atmosphere of the Chu State.
The main idea conveyed by this story is that the properties of the same plant, if grown in different environments, can change. This is used as a metaphor for the influence of the environment on the nature of things. At the same time, it also reflects the wisdom and intelligence of Yan Zi as a politician, who is good at using words to debate and fight back.
Zou Ji satirizes the King of Qi and admonishes "The Advice of the King of Qi" is a historical story from "Warring States Policy: Qi Ce I", which takes place in the Qi State during the Warring States Period. This article mainly tells the story of how Zou Ji, a strategist of the Qi State, successfully persuaded the monarch Qi Wei to open his mouth and accept the advice of his ministers through self-reflection and in-depth thinking, so as to improve his politics.
Zou Ji himself was a self-aware, thoughtful and enterprising man. First of all, through his own story of comparing beauty with Xu Gong in the north of the city, he realized that people's praise for him may be selfish, fearful, or demanding.
So he used this as a metaphor to explain to King Qi Wei the truth that "the wife of the minister is a private minister, the concubine of the minister is afraid of the minister, and the guest of the minister wants to ask for the minister, all of which are beautiful to the Duke of Xu". This parable was so simple that King Qi Wei was deeply touched by the fact that he could be deceived while receiving praise, so he decided to open his mind and humbly accept the criticism and suggestions of his ministers.
Di Renjie was a famous prime minister of the Tang Dynasty, and with his wisdom and courage, he successfully persuaded the empress Wu Zetian to give the throne to the Li family. This incident happened when Wu Zetian once wanted to make his nephew Wu Sansi the crown prince.
According to records, during the reign of Wu Zetian, the government was in power, and even changed the Tang Dynasty to Zhou and established herself as the empress. However, on the issue of succession to the throne, she once wanted to make her nephew Wu Sansi the crown prince. When the prime ministers faced this issue, no one dared to speak, only Di Renjie bravely stood up and put forward his views to Wu Zetian.
Di Renjie showed superb strategy in dealing with the issue of establishing a reserve. According to historical records, Di Renjie started from the perspective of mother-son affection, knew it with reason, moved it with affection, and persuaded the elderly Wu Zetian: "If you have a son, the world will return to your heart; If you set up a nephew, the world will be centrifugal. ”
He made Wu Zetian realize the importance of the people's aspirations, and through comparison, he made Wu Zetian understand that even if ordinary people came forward to recruit warriors, they could recruit 50,000 people in just a few days, but Wu Sansi couldn't do it. This shows that the matter of inheriting the unification must be the people of the Li family.
In addition, Di Renjie also thinks about problems from Wu Zetian's point of view. He said: "It's better that I still don't know, once I know, I won't be able to coexist in the court in the future." These words completely touched Wu Zetian's heart.
Therefore, Wu Zetian finally decided to return the throne to the Li family. This story fully demonstrates Di Renjie's wisdom and courage, and he skillfully guided Wu Zetian to return to the traditional system of succession to the throne, so that the rule of the Tang Dynasty could be continued.
In the early days of the establishment of the Ming Dynasty, Zhu Yuanzhang once asked the abbot: "Do I also need to kneel to the Buddha?" ”。Faced with this question, the atmosphere at the scene was tense to the point that it could almost be cut, because everyone knew that the answer to this question would determine the fate of Huangjue Temple and everyone present.
Zhu Yuanzhang's question actually stemmed from one of his concerns: as an emperor, he needed to kneel before the Buddha in front of everyone, would this damage his imperial prestige? However, if you refuse to kneel, is it against respect and belief in Buddhism? This is a difficult question to answer.
However, the abbot gave his answer with wisdom and courage: "Seeing the Buddha in the past does not worship the Buddha." This sentence means that Zhu Yuanzhang is the Buddha of the present world, so there is no need to visit the Buddha of the past. This answer did not directly answer Zhu Yuanzhang's question, nor did it avoid embarrassing or insulting the Buddha.
Zhu Yuanzhang was very happy to hear this answer, he thought that this answer was both deep and ingenious, so he praised the abbot for being full of wealth. As a result, Huangjue Temple was spared, and was rewarded with a lot of money. This story fully demonstrates the wisdom and courage of the abbot, and reflects Zhu Yuanzhang's attitude towards religion and his ruling strategy.
During the Qing Dynasty, Qin Hui's descendant, Qin Dashi, won the top prize. Emperor Qianlong suspected that Qin Hui was a descendant of Qin Hui because Qin Hui and Qin Dashi were both from Jiangnan and had the same ancestral home, so he suspected that Qin Dashi was a descendant of Qin Hui, so he summoned him to ask. Qin Dashi knelt on the ground for a long time, and did not answer.
It wasn't until Qianlong promised to forgive him that he replied cleverly: "Once the son of heaven and a courtier, now, in the Qing Dynasty, the virtuous monarch is in charge, the monarch is no longer the king of the past, and the minister is no longer the minister of the past." This answer not only skillfully resolved the embarrassment, but also made Qin Dashi the 43rd champion appointed by the Qing Emperor.
In the long history of China, the premier has won the deep respect of the people of the whole country with his outstanding leadership, noble quality and profound feelings for the people. His charisma and wisdom are not only reflected in his political decision-making and national governance, but also in every detail of his interactions with people. Today, we are going to share a story about *** high emotional intelligence reply and feel his wisdom and charm.
The story takes place in 1972, when China's relations with the United States were in the midst of the Cold War. Nixon's visit to China was a major breakthrough in the history of Sino-US relations. At a banquet, Nixon posed a thorny question to Prime Minister: "I want to know, what do you guys think of us in America?" This may seem like a simple question, but in fact it is a hidden mystery, and a poor answer may lead to unnecessary conflicts.
However, with his high emotional intelligence and wisdom, ** gave a decent and thoughtful answer: "Nixon**, we Chinese people have deep friendly feelings towards the American people. We know that the United States is a great country with great scientific and technological strength and economic strength. We respect the United States and look forward to establishing and developing friendly and cooperative relations with the United States. This answer not only expresses China's respect for the United States, but also clarifies China's position and expectations, and reflects China's high emotional intelligence and wisdom.
This story allows us to see *** high emotional intelligence and wisdom. His answer, which did not evade questions or directly conflict, expressed China's position and expectations in a proper and thoughtful way. This response with high emotional intelligence not only reflects the wisdom of ***, but also reflects his personality charm.
**'s high emotional intelligence reply is the perfect combination of his wisdom and charm. This wisdom and charisma of his are not only fully reflected in his political career, but also in every detail of his interactions with people. His wisdom and charm are something that each of us should learn from and learn from.
In general, **'s high emotional intelligence reply is the perfect combination of his wisdom and charm. This wisdom and charisma of his are not only fully reflected in his political career, but also in every detail of his interactions with people. His wisdom and charm are something that each of us should learn from and learn from.
The above story shows how important high emotional intelligence is in dealing with people. In conclusion, high emotional intelligence has an important impact on an individual's destiny. By improving your emotional intelligence, you can better cope with life's challenges and achieve personal and professional success. Of course, in addition to emotional intelligence, it is also necessary to combine other abilities and qualities, such as professional skills, innovation ability, etc., to jointly shape a person's destiny.