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Today, a friend talked about hobbies in the group, and she complained that whenever she mentioned hobbies, the child's father said, "Is it necessary?" It's all about scamming money! ”
The friend angrily rushed back to the father who had scolded the child: it is better to go to an interest class than to watch TV at home every day, and it is better than dealing with these cars alone in the toy room every day......
She said to my heart, why do we enroll our children in interest classes? If you want your child to become a talent in some way, and then go to an interest class, you can stare at what the child has gained after a class every day, and start complaining or even blaming if you can't see the results.
If this is the mentality, then save this money, the children are comfortable, and the parents are also comfortable.
Today, I just happened to brush up on an article against children dancing, the article analyzed the harmfulness of dancing from the doctor's point of view, and said that I would not let my daughter learn to dance.
One of the hot comments on this article turned out to be the point that dancing is purely about hurting oneself and pleasing others.
Combined with the experience of raising children for five years, I especially want to say something.
I enrolled my daughter in a dance class, starting at the age of 4 and now she is about to be 5 years old.
In fact, for thousands of years, I have paid attention to the topic of "whether to let my child participate in dance training classes", watched many cases of tragic endings, and also read a lot of data, and even expressed the idea of "not letting my daughter dance".
Later, I let the child participate in this interest class, first of all, my daughter wants to learn to dance, she has a bad sense of rhythm, and her flexibility is okay, at that time she just likes to move with **.
Secondly, I adjusted my mentality, this is just an interest class, I don't want the child to develop in the direction of a professional dancer, so the child doesn't have to work hard, just treat it as a hobby, don't be difficult for yourself.
In addition, I reiterated the question, why did the child participate in the training class?
It is necessary to separate this issue.
If parents suffer from gains and losses, and always have to calculate every penny spent on their children and every moment of their children's progress (that is, the gains that are visible to the naked eye), then the child is not suitable for enrolling in any interest classes.
The significance of interest classes is not only in the improvement of personal knowledgeIt's more of an outreach to socialize.
My friend's words are particularly right, which one is better, whether a child is playing with a car alone in a tollhouse or going out to participate in a basketball training class?
Some people may say that if you don't attend a training class, you don't have to stay at home and go out to play.
People who can say such things are either childless or parents with a very low sense of involvement.
In winter, there are almost no children playing outdoors, and there are more children in spring and autumn, as long as you pay a little attention, you will find that the children are usually in groups of three or five, and the classmates of the dance class, the basketball class, and the Lego class are ......
A "small society" has been formed among the children, and participating in training classes is not only to learn a certain skill, but also a social extension.
After seeing through this, I tend to make sure to enroll my children in two or three training classes, because some children's interests come from talent, and most of the children's interests come from "social circles".
When my daughter was 4 years old, one day during the summer vacation, she suddenly told me that she wanted to learn to dance, and I communicated with her at that time: Mom can sign you up, but you have to think about it, since you have signed up, you have to take classes well and stick to it.
The daughter nodded in agreement, and every time she went to class, she was full of enthusiasm.
Since participating in the dance interest class, she has been very active in the class, especially the project of dancing with the teacher, which is very positive, and I have seen the results I want to see.
When the dance teacher taught the children, she also emphasized one point: take your time, don't force it, don't do big movements if the flexibility is not good, but if you don't feel pain at all, it means that there is still room for extension of the movements, and you still need to work hard.
In fact, the teacher does not allow the children to go home to practice by themselves, and the children have practiced dance for more than half a year, but they have not practiced this movement, at most, they are also in the dance studio, under the guidance of the teacher, to practice the "waist curl" movement.
Because my daughter is dancing, I really understand the content and class method of the dance interest class, and I really think it's too exaggerated when I see the remarks on the Internet that "learning to dance is hurting myself", and this kind of remarks is actually not a responsible remark.
Dance is indeed good for adjusting the overall image of the child, the daughter is almost 5 years old, there is a habit of waist, after practicing dance for half a year, the waist board is obviously straightened, because the dance teacher will remind them, so she can often remind herself every day.
Don't go to be a professional dancer, just take dance as a hobby, choose a professional institution and teacher, and practice according to the teacher's requirements, you may not dare to say that you don't hurt yourself, but it must be very low.
I still think that choosing one or two, or two or three interest classes for children, is helpful for children's social development, and then go to see how interest classes bring to children.
Capturing your child's interests and hobbies, respecting your child's choices, and urging your child to stick to them once you choose to do so, can really enrich your child's childhood experience.