Let me tell you a real thing:
It was a tutor I took with me when I was still in college. A little girl in the second year of junior high school, the first two months were very good, and her grades have been steadily rising, and my parents are also very satisfied with me.
Suddenly, one weekend, I went to tutor her, and I found that the child's homework error rate had increased significantly, and he seemed to be absent-minded when analyzing his mistakes. So I asked her what was wrong?
She cried and said to me, "Teacher, my parents are getting divorced, I overheard it, and they don't know I know it yet." ”
At that time, I was still young, so I comforted her and said, "It is an adult's business to not get divorced, and children still have to study hard." ”
She said, "I know that, but I can't help but wonder what I'd do if they get divorced. ”
I wanted to talk to his parents first, but he still didn't want them to worry too much about her. I barely finished the class that week.
By the time the second week had passed, her state could have been described as a collapse. The first time he saw me, he burst into tears, saying that his parents had a violent quarrel and that his mother had run away from home.
said that I didn't know how I spent this week, and my mind was all day long, what to do if my parents divorced, whether I did something wrong, and so on, and I didn't have the heart to listen to classes, homework, or write at all. In a recent exam, her grades also plummeted, and the school teacher also talked to her, but the effect was not good.
It happened more than ten years ago in an economically backward and relatively conservative city where the divorce of parents was a big deal for children.
Even now, the divorce of parents still has a great impact on children's emotions.
So for some kids.
It's not that you don't want to study hard, it's that too many emotions interfere with you.
For example: family disharmony, gossip among classmates, teachers' attitude towards them, etc.!
As I get in touch with more and more adolescent children, I find that more and more of them are unable to learn because they are in a bad mood!
For example, candidates lose sleep because they are worried that they will be scolded by their parents or teachers if they fail the test, or their heads are blank when they are overly nervous during the test! This is common in the high school entrance examination.
Some parents like to chatter, children are very irritable, but they don't know how to deal with such emotions, and they are depressed all day long, and they basically can't learn!
When they are older, some children begin to sprout young, and their attention is on each other, and a little wind and grass from the other party will cause them to react violently. Emotions go up and down, and so do grades. This is the main reason why many parents and teachers oppose children's early love.