Loving and hating a mother can be a complex emotional experience.
Here are some ways to cope:
Accept and understand your emotions: Acknowledge your feelings first, don't deny or suppress them. At the same time, it is important to understand that this emotion is not sinful or abnormal.
Seek help: If this emotion has affected your daily life and mental health, seek help from a professional counsellor or join a relevant support group to share your experiences and advice with others.
Establish communication and relationships: Try to establish good communication and relationships with your mother, and sometimes open your heart and say your true thoughts and feelings, which can relieve tension and conflict.
Find common ground: Find what you have in common with your mother and try to find joy and fulfillment in it. For example, you can share hobbies together, travel together, taste food together, etc.
Resolve conflict: If there is a conflict with your mother, try to understand the other person's views and feelings peacefully and find ways to resolve the issue. It is believed that through communication and compromise, a mutually satisfactory solution can be found.
Maintain independence: In your relationship with your mother, maintain your own independence and boundaries. By building self-identity and independent thinking, emotional dependence on mothers and unhealthy relationships can be reduced.
The most important thing is to be patient and understanding, believing that over time you will gradually find your own way to face this emotion and rebuild a good relationship with your mother.