November 9, 2021, for Zhang Dingjie, who is engaged in public security work, is the darkest day in his life. On that day, his 11-year-old son's life came to an abrupt end when he jumped from a 24-story building after school.
On the third day, Zhang Dingjie learned that his son had a suicide note in his jacket pocket, which read: "I, Zhang Kuan, declare that my death has nothing to do with my parents, family, society and country, but only with Zou Yu, and she has resorted to violent means. At the end of the suicide note, Zhang Kuan left his name and pressed his handprint.
Since then, there have been different opinions about the reason for Zhang Kuanlou's jump. It is likely that in the process of educating students, teachers use violent means, which causes the child's dignity to be affected, and then he can't think of choosing suicide.
However, the society attributed Zhang Kuan's suicide to personal psychological problems, but ** did not find a record of Zhang Kuan's medical treatment for psychological problems in the follow-up investigation.
After the death of her son, Wang Beilei, who used to work in a TV station, changed her career to become a psychological counselor, while Zhang Dingjie, a former traffic policeman, became a lawyer. The parents who have lost their children want justice for their children on the one hand, and on the other hand, they want to prevent more children who have experienced similar experiences from going astray.
So, did Zhang Kuan embark on the point of no return due to mental illness?
In the eyes of parents and classmates, Zhang Kuan is enthusiastic and kind, with high talent in dance, art, etc., and has won many awards. In less than six years of school life, he served as a squadron leader for five years, dreaming of becoming an excellent teacher.
However, through the suicide note, it seems that the clues to the suicide point to Zou Yu.
After investigation, Zhang Kuan's parents finally obtained the school's surveillance video, but saw the scene that made them sad.
Zhang Kuan is the king of debts", "Debt for composition homework, unqualified test papers", "Failed the small test", although these are just verbal criticisms from the head teacher Zou, for an 11-year-old child, they are sharper than a knife, and there is no doubt that Zhang Kuan's dignity is swept away in front of the whole class.
The monitoring showed that Zhang Kuan raised his hand twice to answer the question, but was not accepted, but was pulled out of his seat by Zou and accused of "** The reason is that Zhang Kuan did not find the test paper and could not hand it in."
In one day, Zou criticized Zhang Kuan eight times in class with insulting words. This is a bit unbearable for a primary school student, even for an adult. However, due to his status as a teacher and a student, Zhang Kuan could not refute it.
Regardless of whether Zhang Kuan handed in the paper or not, these should not be reasons for the teacher to insult him.
"Teaching and educating people" is the basic requirement of teachers, and at the same time, it also plays a role in educating people in the process of educating students to read. Anyone can make mistakes, and it is normal to criticize those who make mistakes, but if teachers blindly adopt the method of suppression and insult to educate children, there is a serious "fake public benefit".
Why is the "gardener" great? Because he is cultivating the flowers of the Motherland. Flowers need to be carefully watered and cared for, not cynical and sneering. Obviously, Zou's behavior is not in line with the ethics of a good gardener. Nowadays, such examples are not uncommon, driven by profits, people's hearts are becoming more and more impetuous, and the educational environment is no longer pure.
The world is not perfect, and there are good and evil people. We cannot expect everyone to act with good intentions, nor can we avoid harm from those with ill intentions. What we can do as parents is to develop a strong mindset in our children as they grow up.
Through Zhang Kuan's incident, parents should also be alert that the cultivation of children's psychological tolerance is more important than academic performance. A school is a small society in which children meet all kinds of people.
Having a strong mindset is a kind of protection for yourself. In the life to come, when we face ups and downs, we will have stronger armor to deal with.