With the end of the final exams, the children ushered in a joyful winter vacation time. However, before this good time, everyone needs to meet the "trial" of the report card. For children with excellent grades, they can receive more generous red envelopes during the Chinese New Year; For children with poor grades, they may be nagged by their families throughout the winter vacation.
Just recently, news came from Jining, Shandong Province, that a first-year junior high school student had failed 7 exams. Among these 8 subjects, the boy's older sister is a teacher, who is very angry after seeing her brother's results, and even hopes that his father can teach his younger brother a "lesson".
However, the father was reluctant to do anything to his son. When the older sister tried to take Dad's hand and blame the younger brother, the father skillfully shifted the gesture and did not really hit the younger brother.
This scene presented a cheerful atmosphere, and even my sister, who was still angry just now, was amused by her father. However, for netizens, the scene seems a bit unbelievable. After all, the boy is already in the first year of junior high school, and his grades in 7 failing subjects make people worry about how he will be admitted to high school in the future. Doesn't Dad seem worried?
Obviously, this father became the father of the dreams of the underachieving children in the world. He has too many benefits for his children, and even some elements that are too doting.
Although the child's academic performance is poor, the father is reluctant to punish him, and the child who grows up in such a family environment is physically and mentally healthy despite his poor academic performance. However, in the current situation of increasing involution in society, netizens have questioned this way of education. After all, if a child who has already entered junior high school fails 7 subjects, doesn't his father feel anxious?
The modern education system is different from the past, where you can go to a high-quality high school, and if you can't, you can't get into a high-quality key high school even if you have the money. If children are not given the right amount of pressure, how can they be motivated to change their attitude towards learning?
Although people have been advocating "happy education", the father seems to really understand these four words, and at least he can maintain an optimistic attitude after seeing his son's report card.
However, happy education also needs to have a foundation. In a high-pressure social environment, children should not be too lax in their learning, but moderate guidance and pressure are feasible.
Just like a spring, it can't function properly without a certain amount of pressure, but too much pressure can be harmful. Moderate stress can make children more motivated and reach their potential, which is what parents should do.
Excessive spoiling and indulgence will not only make children lose their principles, but may also make them indifferent to academic malperformance and character problems, and even lack self-awareness when making mistakes.
If this father had helped the child build a solid foundation when he was a child, as netizens said, then the child's grades might not have been so bad.
Obviously, the father has been educating his children with a relaxed attitude, unwilling to punish or reprimand, which has led to the child's lack of significant progress in his studies.
However, this father's parenting style is an example for some parents who are too strict. Despite the fact that the boy failed 7 subjects, he had a happy smile on his face and got along like friends with his teacher's sister and father. Although such a child needs to improve academically, he has a cheerful and lively personality.
Nowadays, the mental health problems of primary and secondary school students are becoming more serious, and many children have poor communication with their parents, and they feel isolated when faced with difficult situations. This causes them to experience a lot of stress, which can lead to anxiety and depression in the long run.
Depression is showing an increasingly obvious trend at a younger age, which is something we must pay attention to as parents.
We don't need to learn to spoil our children too much, but we can learn from the way this father got along like friends when educating his children. Such an approach to education is more effective than overly harsh repression.