Hello, I'm Murphy.
Time flies so fast, and before you know it, it's 2024.
Have you taken stock of your goals for 2023?
In the past few days, I have taken advantage of my free time to carefully review the achievement of my goals for the year.
I found that after this year, I have encountered all kinds of unprecedented tests in work, life and health.
Therefore, the completion is not ideal, there are external factors, and there are also their own reasons.
But thankfully, I was exposed to excellent circles during the year.
I have observed up close how powerful people think and solve problems.
I really felt the huge gap between me and them.
I also have to sigh in my heart: the reason why excellent people are excellent is actually that they have a lot in common.
I've put together 20 of them, hoping to inspire you who also want to get better.
1.Don't wait until you're ready
Everything is constantly changing, even if the thinking is in full swing.
You'll still be scrambling and feeling unprepared.
If you plan to do something, start immediately, as director Ang Lee said in the movie "Eating Men and Women":
Life can't be like cooking, waiting until all the ingredients are ready before cooking.
Completion first and then perfection is the first rule.
2.No matter how annoying people are, they won't always stare at each other's shortcomings
Instead, I believe that there must be merits in him that are worth learning.
Psychology believes that liking someone is actually liking yourself like that.
To hate a person is to hate yourself like that.
At the end of the day, liking or hating is just a projection of the heart.
3.Don't be a slave to emotions
When you are surrounded by bad emotions, you are prone to irrational behavior, and it takes a long time to calm down.
In the end, I get caught up in irrelevant people and things, and waste a lot of time on emotional exhaustion.
You can't calm down and do what really matters.
4.Whenever you make a choice, don't choose one with a low threshold
This world is actually very fair, the higher the threshold, the further back you go, the wider the road will be;
And those things with low thresholds, the further back you go, the narrower and narrower the road will be, or even no way out.
5.I don't think that learning is something to do when I was a student, but a lifelong habit that I should develop
In this era of rapid change, everything is changing rapidly.
What we learn today may be obsolete tomorrow.
If you don't learn and don't progress, it's like boiling a frog in warm water, and sooner or later it will be eliminated by this era.
6.Don't waste time on people and things that don't deserve it
Investing in yourself is the best deal in the world.
If you miss the moon, don't miss the stars
When you truly learn to love yourself and see your potential and worth, the whole world will come to love you.
7.Don't deny yourself easily with age, gender, or other people's words
Nothing defines oneself, and we always live in a box.
It will only make you afraid of yourself and have no courage to face your true self.
8.I don't care about face, I believe that face is the most useless thing in the world
A reporter once asked Jobs: What kind of people do you like to deal with?
"I especially like to deal with smart people because I don't have to think about their dignity.
The journalist said: Do smart people have no dignity?
Jobs replied: NoSmart people pay more attention to their own growth and always keep an open mind.
Instead of defending face, find ways to prove that I'm right.
9.If you want to get started, do it right away
The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, followed by now.
Grandma Moses, who had no foundation in painting, only picked up a paintbrush in her seventies because of severe arthritis.
At the age of 80, he held a solo exhibition and became a household name in the United States.
She lived for 101 years and left behind more than 1,600 paintings.
More than 20 of them were painted after his 100th birthday.
As long as you want to start, it's never too late, and the only one who can stop you is yourself.
10.It doesn't move to a glass heart
I don't feel like I've done something wrong just because someone hasn't replied to a message;
I won't hear a word of hehe, and I feel that the other party hates me, and no matter how good you are, not everyone will like you.
I don't doubt myself because I have experienced setbacks; I don't doubt life because I have experienced pain.
Who doesn't weep bitterly and heal themselves with tears.
You are not that important in the eyes of others, and the injustice of fate will not be directed against you alone.
11.Don't be obsessed with things that give you short-term pleasure
How do people get rid of it? It is to indulge in these short-term pleasure things for a long time.
For example, drinking milk tea, brushing **, and playing games, in the end, willpower is constantly weakened.
The body is also hollowed out, and even if you want to make changes, your brain doesn't listen to it.
12.Hear different points of view and don't rush to deny them
Once a stereotype is formed, it is difficult to break it.
Keeping an open mind is more conducive to looking at problems from multiple perspectives, which can lead to a growth mindset.
13.Don't stay in your comfort zone and keep getting new skills
Cai Kangyong once said: At the age of 15, he felt that it was difficult to swim and gave up swimming.
When you are 18 years old, you meet someone you like and ask you to go swimming, and you have to say "I won't".
At the age of 18, I felt that English was difficult and gave up English, and at the age of 28, there was a great job that required you to know English, and you had to say "I can't do it".
If you stay in your comfort zone, you'll keep missing out on new sights.
14.Don't put your hopes in the only option, there must be a backup option at all times
We never know which will come first, tomorrow or the unexpected.
If there is only one income, then when the company goes bankrupt, it will be a problem to eat;
If you can only wait for one bus when you get to work, then being late will become the norm when you are stuck in traffic.
With no backup options, any accident can disrupt the original plan and throw life into a mess.
15.Valuing the power of the environment
An excellent circle will invisibly make people move forward and continue to grow.
Similarly, low-quality circles will invisibly make people keep retreating and give up growth.
16.Looking at a person's success, we will not always look at the successful part, but more at how he got out of the predicament
Success is an outcome that requires many conditions, and everyone's success cannot be replicated.
But those who can succeed are not all smooth sailing along the way.
The part that got out of the predicament is of greater significance to us.
17.Appreciate the power of compound interest
Warren Buffett relied on compound interest to become the richest man in the world.
For ordinary people, the power of compound interest is still strong.
Exercising for half an hour every day, we can also train the vest line after a year.
Reading a book for half an hour every day, we will see more and more deeply when we look at problems.
A spark can start a prairie fire, and no matter how small the force persists, it will become stronger.
18.Don't give yourself negative psychological cues
The power of mental suggestion is far greater than we think.
Praise and encourage yourself often, and you will become more and more confident, so that you can become better and better.
On the contrary, if you often blame and criticize yourself, you will become less and less confident, and you will break the jar.
19.I don't believe in anything "stability is good".
In these fast-changing times, the only constant is change.
Staying where you are means stopping and ending up losing your advantage and being defeated by your opponent.
Embrace change, try more, find your own strengths and keep iterating, so that you can be fearless when change comes.
20.Don't live in remorse
We believe that the present is the best, and every experience in life is a precious treasure in our lives.
Pain makes people grow and transform, and joy makes people perceive beauty.
Any experience in life is a gift from the heavens.
And to live in remorse is to waste these riches.
Written at the end, "Strong Thinking" has this sentence:
No one can pay for your future, either push yourself to your maximum potential or rot in the quagmire at the bottom of society, this is the truth of life. We hope that in the new year, we can all grow savagely and achieve our goals.