I once heard such a sentence on the Internet: "Life can be divided into three sections, the first is to accept the ordinariness of parents, the second is to admit one's ordinariness, and the third is to know the ordinariness of children." This sentence touched me deeply and made me think more deeply about the ordinariness of life. And when I heard from a classmate about her child's final exam results, I was really amused. The child only scored just over 120 points in six classes, which distressed her greatly. When I got home, I searched the Internet about the topic of children's grade anxiety and found that there was a lot of discussion among netizens!
As the principal of a consistent school, I deeply understand this student's helplessness and trouble. My son has been the second-to-last in his class since first grade, and it was very embarrassing for me that the homeroom teacher had to write me an apology letter at the end of each semester. This year is already his last year, and if his grades are still at the bottom, I plan to resign as principal and become his homeroom teacher. But to my surprise, he scored 17 out of 120 out of 120 in the Chinese test. At this moment, do I really feel proud? No. My son has never been disgusted with my low salary, so why should I dislike his low score? Math one-on-one tutoring never stopped, but he only scored 13 points! My wife graduated from 211 bachelor's degree and 985 master's degree, although I did not enter 211, but at least I graduated from a regular bachelor's degree. Does my son's score be 26 points worse than the first place in his class, and that makes me proud? Well, not exactly. To be more accurate, it was only 26 points and half more than the first place. However, this was from the very beginning when I had a goal to strive for, and my child's grades have been stable in the bottom 5 of the class. I often persuade him that it is not easy for us to earn money for you to go to school, we need to wear warm clothes at school, we also spend money on school meals, we must have enough to eat, we must cultivate a good mentality, and don't feel inferior because of bad grades. As long as our three views are correct and we maintain good health, the road ahead will be wider and wider, and we are not afraid of running out of firewood. When he was in kindergarten, we expected him to be admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University; In the first and second years, we hope that he will be able to pass the 985 211 exam;In the third and fourth grades, we hope that he can be admitted to a key junior high school; In high school, as long as you complete the nine-year compulsory education in a down-to-earth manner, you can do it. Now, we just want him to be physically and mentally healthy and not to harm society, which is already a very good result. There are only 3 subjects in which I have double-digit grades at home, and I have passed them at the beginning. The highest score was in Chinese, with 26 points. How many times did you not even get a single digit in the multiple-choice questions, and said that you have to save your pocket money to buy lottery tickets.
Every parent has their own expectations and anxieties about their child's grades. We often forget that education is not only about getting good grades, but also about cultivating the all-round literacy of children's healthy growth. It is fortunate that a child can achieve good grades in academics, but grades are not the only measure of a child's overall ability. They also need to learn social skills such as self-confidence, communication, teamwork, and a love of life and a spirit of exploration. These qualities and abilities are the guarantee of their future success.
So, no matter what the child's grades are, we have to face them with a peaceful mind. We should not let our expectations weigh heavily on our children's shoulders, nor should we dislike them because of their low grades. On the contrary, we should give them more encouragement and support to help them develop a correct outlook on life and values. Everyone has their own strengths and characteristics, and finding the right direction for you at the right time is the most important thing.
In this process, the companionship and guidance of parents is very important. We should communicate with our children, listen to their thoughts and confusions, and help them find ways and means to solve problems. At the same time, we should also give them the opportunity to think and make decisions independently, so that they can learn from their failures and grow from setbacks. Only in this way can they truly understand that the value of life is not only reflected in achievements, but also in whether they can become a person who contributes to society.
Before I became a principal, I had experienced the pain and anxiety of my child's poor grades. But through communicating and thinking with children, I gradually understood a truth: each child has their own rhythm and development trajectory, and we cannot measure them by the same standard. It is important that we give them endless love and understanding, so that they feel that we are always there for them to support and encourage.
When facing the problem of children's grades, we not only want them to get good grades, but more importantly, we want to cultivate good character and values in them. Grades are only part of learning, and the goal of education should be to develop a child's personality and potential in a holistic way. Only in this way can they become truly valuable people and contribute to society.
All in all, grades are important, but they don't mean everything. We can't just look at our children's problems and shortcomings, and ignore their brilliance and potential. As parents, we should give them full care and support, help them establish a correct outlook on life, and believe that they will be able to succeed in the field that suits them. Regardless of whether the grades are good or bad, the most important thing is to let the child grow up healthy and happy, which is the real success.