Hello everyone.
This is this time of the year;
It was supposed to be the time for young people to return to their hearts......
But in the past two days, I have heard several partners say:
I don't want to go home for the New Year this year, there is no particular reason.
This sentence of not giving a reason makes me particularly shocked.
Because it really makes me feel:
Young people are so exhausted.
I was so tired that I didn't even bother to find a decent reason.
So there may be many reasons not to go home for the New Year;
But they don't want to bother explaining it anymore.
Two days ago, a post-90s student said to me:
After working hard for several years, I finally bought a new house in the city where I worked;
Although the place is not big, it still has its own one-third of an acre of land in this city.
In addition to being happy, she wanted to take her parents from her hometown over for the New Year.
One is to do filial piety;
Second, according to the rules of the hometown, the first Spring Festival of buying a new house also pays attention to "staying in the New Year".
It's just that the plan can't catch up with the change, and the parents who originally promised suddenly changed their minds.
said that there are many relatives in his hometown, and it is more lively to celebrate the New Year together.
And her mother also gave her an ultimatum to go home
No matter what the road conditions;
It doesn't matter what mode of transportation you use;
You have to go home this year.
At that moment, she was holding the blessing characters and window flowers she had just bought;
The mood is like the ice and snow outside, pulling out the cold and pulling out the cold ......
She recalls not knowing when it started;
He is as "indispensable" as an essential element of this Spring Festival.
As if just being there was enough;
It doesn't matter how you show up.
In fact, many parents of the post-60s and post-70s generation;
They don't seem to know the right way to express "love".
Because most of the people of that era were running around and working hard for a living;
There is not enough time and energy to focus on family and affection.
Many children grow up in this environment.
So I often see some friends on the Internet saying:
Those who envy the happiness of their original families ......
But the parents of that generation have come to the present;
Why don't you realize that the love you have brought to your children is so rare.
Some friends said that they don't like to go back to their hometown for the New Year;
It's because I can always meet a few relatives who don't have a sense of boundaries.
As an unmarried post-90s generation, he will be 34 years old after the New Year.
He still remembers when he was 28 years old;
Relatives are already worried about his finding a partner at the New Year's wine table.
He is now 34 years old;
This topic has been discussed by them for 6 years.
I don't know if everyone is tired of discussing it, but he's a little tired of it anyway.
In fact, with age and changes in the environment;
Over the years, his work pressure has also increased.
If the work is enough to make him feel overwhelmed;
Then the relatives put the question of their marriage on the dinner table to discuss;
Far from being a relief in the snow, it is only worse.
So when it came time to pack his luggage home, he really hesitated:
He doesn't have to care about his relatives talking about his old age and unmarried;
But I can't face the sighs of my parents.
Because there are some "tasks" that he doesn't want to complete;
I don't want to ......do it so hastily
So sometimes think about it:
If you go home with the title of not marrying and having children, you will be labeled as unfilial ......
He didn't know if he was going home for the New Year for reunion or for a trial.
In fact, since I went to university, I have been going back to my hometown less and less.
When I returned to my hometown for the New Year last year, I was also asked by relatives:
Do you plan to have a second child?
But because we haven't seen each other for many years, everyone is really caring for each other and stopping at the point.
But speaking of which, people like our generation who came out with the college entrance examination;
From going to college to graduating and working, to finally settling down here;
The city where we put down roots has become our second home.
But when I was a student, the thing I looked forward to the most was going home for the Chinese New Year.
Because at that time, everyone had not yet started a family;
Or a "child who hasn't grown up" in the real sense.
So I always like to revolve around my parents during the Chinese New Year;
I like to talk with friends I haven't seen for a year, and I eat hazest.
But the situation is different now.
Whether it's me or my friends back then, everyone has settled in their respective cities;
And the memory in my heart, in addition to my parents and relatives, is the teacher and a few playmates in my memory.
It can be said that when a person has fewer and fewer relationships left in his hometown;
The taste of returning to my hometown for the New Year will become weaker and weaker.
What's more, young people already have a very light view of these relationships.
It is also said that many young people do not choose to go home for the New Year;
It's because I didn't make any money, and I couldn't get over the hurdle of "face".
But this year;
I prefer to believe that young people are really tired.
Everyone is not without conscience, nor is it indifferent and ruthless, let alone rebellious.
It's just that life has really given them too much baggage:
From school to the workplace, from survival to emotion;
Over the course of the year, there have really been few things that have gone well.
So for those young people who have chosen to stay in place for the New Year;
Maybe what they need is not urging, let alone denunciation;
It's an understanding and tolerance.
In fact, sometimes I choose to stay away from the hustle and bustle of my hometown;
Instead, you will be closer to your inner voice......
Maybe I don't want to go back this year, but maybe I can't wait next year.