Dictation: Aunt Cai.
Author: Xiaoya.
This morning, I was cleaning when I heard a quick knock on the door, and when I opened the door, I saw my son standing alone in the door with his luggage.
I glanced behind my son, but I didn't see my daughter-in-law, and asked him, "Why are you alone?" What about your daughter-in-law? ”
While rushing home, my son replied to me angrily: "Don't mention it, my wife refuses to come back, and she wants to divorce me, I agreed, I have already registered with the Civil Affairs Bureau yesterday, if it weren't for the cooling-off period, I would have got my divorce certificate." ”
Hearing this, I instantly became anxious, didn't understand what they were doing, and asked him what was wrong. You know, my son has only been married to his daughter-in-law for two years.
Under my questioning with the old man, my son angrily told us the reason for the divorce, which turned out to be the reason for the New Year.
To put it bluntly, he wanted his daughter-in-law to come back to us for the New Year, and his daughter-in-law wanted to go back to her parents' house for the New Year, and the two of them argued for a week, and in the end, my son filed for divorce in a fit of anger, and the daughter-in-law agreed, so the two of them went to the Civil Affairs Bureau yesterday to apply.
Hearing this, the old man also blew up, and scolded his daughter-in-law for being unfilial: "It's against the sky!" She married into our Lao Ding family, she is a member of our Lao Ding family, if she doesn't go back to her mother-in-law's house during the New Year, where do you want to go back? Is there such a truth in the world? What did such an unfilial daughter-in-law do? Our Lao Ding family can't afford such a daughter-in-law. ”
Looking at their father and son, I felt speechless, and I couldn't help but recall my own marriage experience. In fact, my daughter-in-law and I are in the same condition, so not only did I not get angry with him, but I felt very sorry for my daughter-in-law.
I'm 52 years old, my mother's home is far away from here, and I am married far away.
Before I got married, I was the youngest daughter in my family, and I was loved by my parents and older siblings since I was a child. My parents and older siblings took care of everything and didn't let me worry about it.
When I grew up, I was sent to school, and my parents hoped that I could read and change my fate, but I didn't do well in my studies and didn't get into college.
After I failed the list, my parents felt sorry for me, and I cried and didn't want to work in the fields, so they found relatives and entrusted relatives to take me to the big city and help me get into a factory to work.
When I was 22 years old, I met my husband and fell in love. At that time, I didn't think too much about it when I first fell in love, ignoring the other party's family conditions, economic status and distance, and loved him to death.
We have been in love for a year, my husband proposed to me, hoping that I could marry him, and I agreed, and the two of us took a day and a night in the car and returned to my parents' house.
However, this family affair was resolutely opposed by my parents for two reasons, one is that the economic conditions of my in-law's family are not good, they are farmers like our family, and my husband has not been admitted to university, he is an ordinary worker, and he can't make a lot of money, and I will continue to suffer after I get married.
The other is that the distance is too far, if I marry far away, it will be difficult for them to see me, and once I am wronged, they will not be able to support me.
However, I didn't listen to my parents, I cried and made trouble there, no matter how my parents persuaded me, how my brothers and sisters reasoned with me, I had to marry my husband.
In the end, my parents couldn't stand me and agreed to this family business, and in this way, I married far away to the province.
After I got married, my life was neither good nor bad. The reason why I say it's not bad is because my husband is not too bad.
After getting married, we went to work in the provincial capital where my in-laws' house was located, my son was taken care of by my in-laws, we both worked as husband and wife, and my husband's salary card was in my hands from beginning to end, and I controlled the economic power of the family, so compared to many women, I was lucky.
The reason why I can't say it is because my husband is quite machismo, thinking that he is the head of the family as a man, and he should have the final say in everything in the family, and women should listen to him in everything.
Listen to him on other things, I don't have any opinions, after all, I married here, I don't know each other well, and I can't handle those interpersonal relationships well. Every time I see his relatives and friends, I feel a headache, he takes care of these things, tells me what to do, I just need to do what he wants, and saves a lot of things.
The problem is, when it comes to my mother's house, we will quarrel non-stop. I want to honor my parents, buy some things for my parents and send them back, give them some money, he doesn't stop me, but when I want to go back to visit my parents, he has a lot of opinions, what is not a holiday, the ticket is not easy to buy, there are a lot of things at home that I don't have time, and the road is not safe.
Over the years, I have moved the idea of going back to my parents' house for the New Year countless times, and my brothers and sisters also called me, hoping that I would come back, but as soon as I discussed this matter with my husband, my husband was very angry and lost his temper at me, saying that I married him, and I was a member of Lao Ding's family, how could there be a reason not to spend the New Year at Lao Ding's house?
I couldn't argue with him, so I planned to buy a ticket and leave by myself, but after I succeeded once, he took my ID card away in advance and refused to give it to me, so we quarreled. If it weren't for my son's face, I might have divorced too.
Thinking back to my 29 years of marriage, I have only been back to my parents' home a handful of times, and I have only spent three years with my parents, and I feel extremely guilty. I had been drenched in the rain and naturally understood my daughter-in-law's feelings, so I made up my mind to hold an umbrella for my daughter-in-law.
So, I interrupted my son, who was chattering there, pointed to the gate and said, "Go back immediately to apologize to your wife, ask your wife for forgiveness, and accompany your wife back to her parents' house. ”
My husband wanted to speak, but I scolded him back:"What? When we women get married, we sell them to your man's family? Well, you tell me that my parents have worked hard to support me for decades to provide for me to study, how much did you spend to buy me back? The daughter-in-law's parents worked hard to raise their daughter so that she finished graduate school, how much did your son spend to buy it back? ”
In fact, when we got married, my in-laws' family was so poor that my dowry was just a pig, and I didn't have much money at all. When my son married his wife, his in-laws were reasonable and didn't ask for anything, and our family gave 88888 dowry.
I slapped the table unceremoniously: "From now on, let me hear from which mouth I hear that a woman can't go back to her parents' house if she marries him, I'll slap whoever I say, and do what I say!" It's really not good, the two of us are also divorced, you two go over! ”
At this time, the father and son did not dare to say anything, and the son honestly went to his daughter-in-law to apologize under my order. I was afraid that the stinky boy couldn't speak clearly, so I personally called ** to my daughter-in-law, explained the cause and effect, and told her:"Marriage is not easy to come by, don't act impulsively. It's me who has no way to teach my son, and I ask for your forgiveness. In the future, if he dares to make a mistake again, you tell me, and I will whip him for you. ”
Hearing my words, my daughter-in-law was very excited and thanked me repeatedly, saying that I was a reasonable mother-in-law.
Less than ten minutes after hanging up**, I received a transfer, a total of 10,000 yuan, which was given by my daughter-in-law, I felt inexplicable, and my daughter-in-law explained that this was the cost of our New Year, let us go out to play during the New Year, don't be bitter about ourselves, and wait until the next holiday, they will come to accompany us.
Originally, I didn't want to accept it, but after thinking about it, I decided to accept it, and planned to go out and relax during the Chinese New Year, so that they could also have a good time at their parents' house.
end.Today's topic: Do you think Aunt Cai is doing the right thing? Feel free to share your views in the comments section.