Yishu said: "People's hearts are getting colder day by day, the leaves are turning yellow day by day, the story is slowly written to the end, and love becomes unlove because of too many disappointments." ”A good relationship between husband and wife needs to be managed, and if it is well managed, the relationship between the two will be nourished, and the marriage will last for a long time.
To maintain a good relationship between husband and wife, there are three things that cannot be said and must be remembered.
One, don't say words of mutual accusation.
The mouth is an axe to hurt people, and words are a tongue-cutting knife. "It's normal for husbands and wives to have conflicts and frictions, don't blame each other and say hurtful things when you encounter something.
If you are quick to talk and put all the responsibility on the other party, it will inevitably add more pressure and grievances to the other party.
Especially if a man fails to start a business and has been repeatedly frustrated, he is already very uncomfortable, and you accuse him of having no brains, and he did not listen to your persuasion at the beginning, which will undoubtedly put him on the verge of collapse.
If you are strong in your heart, you can endure it, and if you are anxious, you will be scared back, stage a husband and wife war, and then give you the wrong **.
For the husband, the wife is the closest relationship with him, even if he is greatly wronged outside, if the wife can forgive him, he can get through, and feel that everything else is fine.
A wise woman will not blame men, but will only help men get out of his low period. A wise man will not accuse his wife of doing something wrong.
In the face of any difficulties, don't blame each other, say more warm and considerate words, so that each other has the courage and armor to fight against life.
Second, don't say things that complain about each other.
There is no perfect person in the world, if you open your eyes wide every day, always want to see something from the other party, and find faults, then your life is destined to be a mess.
Since you have become a partner with him, it means that there is a charm that can attract you from him at the beginning, even if that charm gradually disappears, don't complain.
Maybe you ignore his strengths and magnify his weaknesses. Or perhaps, you are demanding more and more from him, but you forget that you also have shortcomings.
There is a saying: "Living together for a lifetime, running in with each other is the norm, and perfect fit is the exception." ”
The great writer Hu Shi married Jiang Dongxiu, a wife with small feet who couldn't read big characters. But he didn't dislike his wife, didn't complain, but encouraged her to study more.
Jiang Dongxiu was coaxed very happily, and took care of Hu Shi's food, clothing and daily life in an orderly manner every day. Under the teaching of Hu Shi, she began to learn culture and writing, and the life of the two became more and more tacit.
The two get along for a long time, and complaining to each other has no effect, and complaining too much will not only hurt each other's self-esteem, but also consume the feelings of the husband and wife.
Third, don't say anything about mutual suppression.
Everyone has their own advantages and will give full play to their strengths in their respective fields, so when the other party is not as good as you, don't suppress him as good as you, he can't do anything.
In areas you don't know, he may not do well.
I used to always feel that my husband had a low education and couldn't learn anything, and he always said that he was stupid, so I didn't suppress him, but let him get in touch with the simple first.
Let's say he wants to learn editing**, I learned it and taught him, and he learned it very quickly, and he remembered it better than I remembered.
For example, the electricity at home was not laid out by a professional, and he did it all by himself, and whoever in the village had an electricity problem with him, he could solve it quickly.
I admire this very much, I often say that he is smarter than me, but he has solidified himself, and he feels that he can't learn anything if he has a low education, at this time, you only need a little guidance, and he will develop in the direction you expect.
Suppressing a person will not make him excellent, give him encouragement and guidance, and the two will make progress together, not only grow together, but also make the relationship between husband and wife more harmonious and happy.
There is a popular saying on the Internet: If you love, please love deeply, if you don't love, please don't hurt. Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June.Marriage is never two people simply living together, behind a good husband and wife relationship, there is mutual respect, mutual understanding, and mutual tolerance. Instead of blaming, complaining and suppressing.
Many times, we only need to change the way we express our language to pass on love and warm our lives. May we all learn to speak well and love each other well.