"Mom, let my sister-in-law move out, I want to go back to my parents' house for confinement" Mother-in-law, girl, who are you
The sister-in-law's attitude towards her sister-in-law is not friendly, mainly because she feels that her parents are too fond of her sister-in-law, even more than they care about her biological daughter. However, if the mother has a bad attitude towards her sister-in-law and always makes things difficult for her, will the sister-in-law be happy?My brother and sister-in-law have conflicts every day, and there is even the possibility of divorce, so what is there to be happy about in such a situation?
There are many sisters-in-law who feel that their parents' attention has been distracted because of their sister-in-law's marriage into the family, so they want to cut off the relationship with their parents' family once they get married. They believe that they now have a husband and that their home is their real home, so they rarely go back to their parents' homes to see their parents. When parents encounter difficulties, they appear indifferent as daughters, and this behavior makes parents feel cold. Parents raised them**, but when they needed them, they found that they couldn't rely on them.
The sister-in-law usually only thinks about her grievances, but ignores the importance of right and wrong. They always want others to be considerate of their feelings, but rarely take into account the situation of others. Sooner or later, this kind of selfish behavior will break the hearts of the parents, and the parents will lose patience with them and no longer care about their biological daughter.
The story shared today comes from netizen Li Mengxia. Recently, she had a serious conflict with her mother. The reason was that she wanted to go back to her parents' house for confinement, but her mother did not agree. Li Mengxia thought that her mother cared more about her sister-in-law, so she said in a fit of anger that her mother would count on her brother and sister-in-law in the future.
Li Mengxia has an older brother who got married five years ago. Since her sister-in-law entered the house, Li Mengxia found that her status in the family had dropped sharply. Parents prioritize their sister-in-law's feelings in everything they do, and she, the biological daughter, becomes insignificant. This gap made her feel very uncomfortable, so she hurriedly married her boyfriend who had been dating for two years.
When Li Mengxia got married, her parents gave her a dowry of 200,000 yuan. However, she didn't have much gratitude to her parents, because when her brother got married five years ago, her parents directly gave her sister-in-law 500,000 yuan for the house and 200,000 yuan for the bride price.
On the day of the wedding, her mother hugged Li Mengxia and cried for a long time, saying that she would be someone else's wife and someone else's daughter-in-law in the future, and she could no longer be as willful as before. However, Li Mengxia felt that her mother was a little hypocritical. After her sister-in-law entered the door, her mother did not pay as much attention to her as before, which made her feel alienated from her mother, so she shook off her mother's hand and left.
After Li Mengxia married her husband, she gradually distanced herself from her mother-in-law because she was taken care of by her in-laws. She felt that she was already an outsider in that family, and it seemed unnecessary to keep in touch with her mother's family. Whenever her mother invited the couple back to dinner, Li Mengxia always found all kinds of excuses to excuse herself.
Soon after, Li Mengxia became pregnant, but she did not tell her parents. It seemed to her that her parents didn't care about her at all. However, the mother somehow learned of her pregnancy and came to see her with bags full of things.
Daughter, I heard that you are pregnant. You're usually so open-minded, but you can't be the same as before when you're pregnant. ”
Who did you hear from that I was pregnant?”
I met your mother-in-law not long ago, and she told me. There are many things that a woman needs to pay attention to when she is pregnant, and you have to be careful, today I came to see you and give you some advice by the way. ”
My mother-in-law will tell me, you don't need to worry about it. ”
Li Mengxia's heart was full of resentment towards her mother, so she sent her mother away lightly.
Not long after, Li Mengxia gave birth to a son. However, at the same time, my mother-in-law needs to be taken care of because of a broken arm. Her husband and mother-in-law suggested that she go back to her parents' house for confinement, and Li Mengxia agreed without hesitation.
Mom, let my sister-in-law go out to live. I'm going back to my parents' house for confinement. ”
Who are you?Why did you come to our house for confinement and drive my daughter-in-law out? ”
Mom, my mother-in-law has a broken arm, and I'm going back to my parents' house for confinement. My sister-in-law would be crowded at home and noisy, which would interfere with my rest. Tell her about it, let her go out and live!”
It's okay for you to go back to your parents' house for confinement, but why should you drive your sister-in-law out?How can I tell her?This doesn't make sense!”
Tell her directly, I am my biological daughter, and I want to go back to my parents' house for confinement, she is an outsider, so she naturally has to make room for me. ”
You said that your sister-in-law is an outsider, so what are you in your in-law's house?”
My in-laws valued me very much, and I lived very comfortably there. They didn't treat me like an outsider. ”
We don't treat your sister-in-law as an outsider, she is our family. It's okay if you want to come back for confinement, but your sister-in-law will definitely not move out. ”
Am I your own daughter?Why did you never think about me?I want to go back to my parents' house for confinement, there are so many people living in the house, what's wrong with letting my sister-in-law go out to live for a while first?My child and I need a good environment, why can't she compromise for me?”
Did you take my mother's feelings into account when you said that?Think about it yourself, when you were a child, the food and drink in your house were all yours, and I always let your brother, but now that your sister-in-law is here, how can I let her let you?She was also pampered and raised at home, so why should she be pressured by you when she marries into our family?Your husband is an only child, you may not understand, but since your sister-in-law got married, have you ever had a good look for her?I really don't want to say that anymore. ”
Look at everything you say, did you take into account your sister-in-law's feelings first?I just gave birth to a child and want to go back to my parents' house for confinement, but you are worried that your daughter-in-law will be wronged, I understand, I am an outsider in my mother's house, and my sister-in-law is the meat of your heart, okay, I won't go back, no one will serve me for confinement, it doesn't matter, I can ask for a confinement sister-in-law, I don't need you to take care of it, don't look for me as a daughter when you are old. ”
Li Mengxia and her mother quarreled fiercely, and her brother persuaded her after learning about it, hoping that she could take the initiative to apologize to her mother, and her mother fell ill because of this. But Li Mengxia thought she was right, and her mother didn't take her feelings into account. She told her brother that her parents had given everything to her brother and sister-in-law, and that she would have no obligation to take care of her parents when they were old in the future.
My brother felt that Li Mengxia was a little irrational, she had completely cut off contact with her mother's family and only cared about living with her husband. She thinks that her husband and children are her relatives, her mother's family no longer cares about her, and she no longer has to worry about her mother's family.
The sister-in-law should look like a sister-in-law, and when the brother and sister-in-law get married, do the parents have to show face to the sister-in-law?Is this still family?Sister-in-law is not your enemy, and if parents prioritize your feelings when doing things, your sister-in-law will be uncomfortable. The marriage of my sister-in-law and my brother will not be stable, they will divorce, and their parents will be troubled by it, are you happy?"
Be open-minded and understand each other when dealing with family members and outsiders. Think about why others do what they do, no one is perfect, but everyone is trying to do their best. Sisters-in-law should understand that parents are good to their sister-in-law because they love their brother and want their brother's marriage to be happy, which does not mean that they don't love your daughter, this idea is too narrow. "
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